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Congratulations @Reddy, I'm so happy for you (and more than a bit jealous)! I hope it's everything you dreamed of and you don't experience any of the negative complications Safe travels home and I hope you keep updating us, I've enjoyed living vicariously though you. For me it will remain strictly a fantasy. While I love the idea of it, 90% of the time, I enjoy traveling to remote places and needing to drag a case of diapers with me would preclude lots of trips I have planned for the future. I have plans this fall to do an everest base camp trek and I'd need an extra two porters to carry cases of diapers with me

Glad you're back and everything went well. Thank you for posting an update to let us know you're ok now get off DD and get some rest Welcome to the rest of your diapered, incontinent life!

Good luck @Reddy!

I agree and I think you know that But, please don't let the haters scare you away. For a lot of reasons, some of which are selfish, I would be very sad (and worried) if you disappeared and never updated us after surgery!

@Reddy is your countdown to surgery day, or, to when you leave for Mexico?

You definitely don't need to do that, and it's unlikely that the doctor will ask. "I have total urinary incontinence following a transurethral resection of the prostate" Stick to the medically relevant facts and medical terminology. If they ask why (unlikely) you can just say it was elective and leave it at that.

People here seem to be falling into one of two categories. A) people who are already incontinent and don't want to be, so, obviously that makes your choice a horrible one. I do understand *some* of the frustration from these people, you're fantasizing about a medical condition that they hate. B ) people who merely want to fantasize about being incontinent and don't actually want it. These people, at least the ones in the thread here, are very self aware and reasonable. B 2) people who profess to want this but are too afraid to actually take action on it. Therefore, in their frame of mine, your actions must be unreasonable and obviously wrong because if there aren't some obvious reason why what you're doing is a bad idea, why aren't they also doing it? Equal parts jealousy and anger at themselves.

I've done two out of three of those, one of them multiple times, and it's worked out amazingly almost every time.

Why should we approach life like this? I should not fall in love, they might betray me and break my heart. I should not travel to a new country, the travel brochures might look nicer than the reality. I should not pick up a new hobby, I might spend a bunch of money and realize I don't like it. Minimizing regret is minimizing the capacity for joy.

"basic due diligence," in your opinion. He has no obligation to you, or anyone else, to approach the problem the way that you want. You're deliberately manipulating language using phrases like "basic due diligence" and "fully understand" to make it sound like your opinion on the subject is fact when it is merely your opinion and has no bearing on the choices @Reddy makes. In the current context, no, I don't think a medical journal would find it met the standards to publish. However, a paper written from a psychological perspective where the doctors involved ultimately recommended and preformed surgery to make the patient incontinent as a cure for BIID? That would be a worthy paper.

Exactly this. It's not "any objective standard," it's "in your opinion." Stop judging people.

I'm really disappointed with all of the people in this thread who are judging @Reddy for his choices. We would all do well to remember that there are people outside our community who look at all of us like freaks who do disgusting things. Frankly there are things in or adjacent to this community which I'm not a fan of and I manage to keep my mouth shut about it. Just because you wouldn't do what Reddy is doing doesn't mean that what he is doing is wrong. Just because you're convinced he will regret his choices doesn't mean he will, doesn't mean you need to say it here and definitely doesn't mean you need to act like you're going to celebrate when he inevitably regrets his choices or has some complication. It seems like some of you are cheering for Reddy to develop a complication from the surgery and it's horrible. Please don't forget where and who we are. We are a community of freaks, just because someone is a bit more freaky than you are doesn't make them wrong. We are all wrong in the eyes of most of the world. Judge not lest ye be judged. LOL, I never thought you would reply like that when I read the original message

I would do that in a heartbeat. Unfortunate fact is even though I've been wearing diapers almost daily for most of my life, I've lost absolutely no continence. I recently took a trip where I was away for almost 8 weeks and for a few reasons chose not to bring/use any diapers. It's probably the longest I've been out of diapers since I was originally potty trained and before I started wearing again at around 12 or 13. I was not at all worried about the daytime, since I regularly don't wear in the daytime, but, I've probably worn about 364 out of 365 nights in the past year so I was a bit worried about the overnights, but, I literally had not one accident in the entire time I was away! I do wish I could experience actual incontinence again and (with all due respect to the pioneers in the field like @cathdiap) stents seem risky to me (even riskier than the surgery here!). Maybe some day the technology like the memokath or similar will evolve to the point where we can have that on-off switch. I'd be there in a heartbest.

Have to admit I'm super jealous after reading this post. Please don't listen to the naysayers, especially the ones who are trying to frighten you with incorrect information about how a hospital would deal with any emergency. I will say that, personally, if I was talking to a doctor after the fact I would be factual and honest about your history. You can simply say "I had an elective transuretheral resection of the bladder neck, prostate, and sphincter." I don't think that hiding information from your doctor is going to yield good results. I would also not assume that insurance is going to not cover anything remotely related to this in the future. Especially the farther you get from it in time, it will become far less relevant. Insurance will not notice or care if you get a bladder infection in a year and need antibiotics they are never going to notice that. Anyway, best of luck, don't let the haters get you down, they are just jealous