Csimmonds

I found this board in my searches online over the last few weeks and decided this might be the best place Our 19 year old son has come out as an ABDL. This is new and I had no clue. I am still coming to terms with it not against it but still a bit shocked. Trying to learn what it all entails. How far do I interfere? Do I leave him to do things in private or do I step in a bit? How do we tread the line so he can engage in this but not suffer academically?