I don't expect people into BDSM to walk around the streets in their leather bondage gear, and in return I expect they don't expect to see me walking around in my nappies.
Its a private thing, I don't know why some people are so obsessed about making this socially acceptable, I would imagine for a lot of people if this became something everyone did it would lose its appeal to them.
We don't need or want any exposure, either positive or negative, at all, we aren't "hiding" its just the general public do not want to see us parade our kinks around the streets. The same way I don't want to see others parading their kinks around on the street.
Would I suggest your relationships ended not because of ABDL stuff, but because you waited long into the relationship to actually tell her?
We aren't seperated into "hiders" and "exposers" we are seperated into people who enjoy this lifestyle/fetish responsibly and people who give this community such a bad name by doing stuff such as the OP is doing.
And with that statement you have shown how ignorant you are. I don't think anyone can take any of your arguments seriously after that.