Counselling

[Lyle-Lebeau]

Hi guys,

i am in a long term relationship and my partner makes me feel disgusting because I am a little. I know it isn’t her fault and that she doesn’t want to see it but even when I try and do it when she isn’t home she gets angry about it. I have even started to see a therapist to try and figure out where it came from. (Very enlightening I must admit). I just don’t know what to do. 

[Findingacceptance]

Same situation here. LTR relationship, and my wife, well, our current condition is that she recognizes that this is an aspect of my personality and she accepts it, but she doesn't want anything to do with it. I was also asked to go see a therapist because of it. 

While her acceptance is a step in the right direction, it still leaves me feeling cold like there's this part of myself that I can't talk about with anyone. So I came here.

I write all of this to say that I understand and empathize with where you are. You may not know, and I may not know, but maybe we and others can find out together.

[mvinyl2010]

I am a plastic/pvc/vinyl fetishist with a touch of Diaper lover thrown in. And after  a painful discussion with mny wife was told that she is pretty much repulsed at the thought of her wearing plastic clothing and diapers.  She said she is okay with me wearing, but I am doubting that as well. We have not had sex in over 2 years.

So I have been married for over 12 years to my wife.  We have had our ups and downs and had our dry spells sexually.  We have had our great times like after she read 50 Shades of Gray and our world of sex opened up. 

She is an alcoholic and has been sober for almost 2 years now,  Doing AA meetings and such. I am grateful for her sobriety. Our life was pretty crappy when she drank as she pretty much blacked out every night at 7pm and drug her self to bed and passed out nightly after drinking about a bottle of wine daily.  We moved from the city so she needed to start driving so she stopped drinking and got a network of sober friends.

I have been patient with her over the past 2 years.  I have taken matters into my own hands so to speak with regards to sexual release.  And have not sought relationships outside of our marriage;  I really don't want to.  I want to stay married and have a fulfilling sex life with my wife.  I have tortured myself with thinking about how this conversation would go for about a year now and waited until we had a good opportunity to talk about our feelings.  I could not take it any longer. I needed to get things out in the open.

I asked her what was up with our sex life.  She said that she is kind of in a new space with regards to her self and her feelings about sex,  She has not felt really sexual in a couple years.  I have always been up front with my fetish and she seemed to be a good sport, GGG as Dan Savage says.  I had bought her an extensive wardrobe of plastic clothing that really turned me on. It turned me on to think that the woman I love would indulge my fetish and not make me feel like a weirdo or pervert.  Today she told me that every time she would open the drawer full of plastic clothing (plastic panties, some that could be worn over a diaper ) she felt angry and essentially objectified.  I should also mention that she was sexually abused as a child. I have always tried to be sensitive to this and not force anything on her.  I thought was that she was on board.  But in essence she was just placating my need and her drinking helped to make he more comfortable in doing so.  I dont need her to wear a diaper for me.  I dont even need to wear a diaper.  But plastic/vinyl and pvc clothing is what really gets my motor running,  It does not need be juvenile.  In fact I prefer adult clothing made of this material.  I also like leather, pantyhose and satin on my wife.

So at this point I am feeling gutted.  I am not sure where to go or what to do.  I feel like the past 5 years of my marriage have been a lie.   How do I go about rebuilding out sex life?  How do I reassure her that despite my plastic fetish I desire her.  I feel so lost right now