going through mommys

[inkbaby13]

so, i realized that since my first mommy( who was my ex gf).. i have had trouble just keeping a normal relationship down with a new mommy and just having fun. i have had 2 other mommys ( one a ex domme who treated me like her son and the other was

[BigC300]

Keep it up! You're getting more experienced with each relationship. Don't worry, one day the right one will come along and you will just know she is the one!

[gnarley9t]

not sure what you're trying to ask. but I will go out on a limb and say, that in my experience, sure, a girl who has prior experience indulging fetishes, or has a few herself, will have a much easier time wrapping their head around our fetish than a vanilla. But in the terms of a monogamous relationship, whether she is a vanilla or not, you ain't going to get very far with either of them if you are always out indulging your fetish elsewhere, plain and simple.

Honesty and trust, what the fuck is a relationship without these two components?

[inkbaby13]

@gnarley9t

[gnarley9t]

Yeah, I don't think there is a sure fire calculated time in a relationship when to drop being abdl. I have told the past 3 women I have slept with about it, all with different results. It wasn't until my first real relationship that I came out about it and that was with what turned out to be my ex-wife. Big, long, insane story there dude, so I will spare you that and just say she did not accept it. The next girl I was with wasn't just accepting about it but she very much enjoyed being my mommy. She had her own kinks though, one of them as extreme as knife play, so yeah, the whole abdl deal was not a big deal at all with her. I tried like hell to make that relationship work but unfortunately, to much 'outside the bedroom' bull shit just became absolutely unbearable to me, so for the good of my sanity I had to break it off. And then the last girl I was with, I told her about it and when I did, I didn't get any reaction out of her. I never got to find out if this 'no reaction' was a good thing or not because shortly after I told her, I started to not really feel it with her and ended up breaking up with her a few weeks later, but I can honestly say she was at least not repulsed about me being abdl because she was pretty bummed out while we were having the break up talk.

So yeah man, in my experience I don't really think it mattets all that much when you tell a girlfriend because so far, I believe they are just simply going to either be into it or they are not. But to further stress the point of my last post, I can almost guarantee that if you

a. never tell them

and b.. just duck out and fulfill your desires behind their back,

it ain't going to matter if they are completely willing to fulfill your fantasies, because they aren't going to want to be in a relationship with you in the first place.

[gnarley9t]

...I would also ask, all abdl talk aside, how are YOU in these relationships? I mean, I think it's one thing for a girl to not be into it, but to give you a fucked up reaction or just stop talking to you? It sounds to me that either you have some non-abdl related issues to look at or you just need to start feeling these girls out a little better, and get a good sense that you can trust them before you drop being abdl on them.

I should probably mention that I have dated two other girls after my ex-wife besides the two I already mentioned. First of all, I didn't sleep with these women and secondly, it didn't take long dating these two women to sense that to just trust them with non-abdl issues was going to be a stretch, so to actually open up to them about being abdl? Forget about it dude! I stopped seeing them shortly after this realization for both.