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I wasn't sure where else to put this. it didn't seem to fit anywhere else. Friends, I am looking for objectivity here, and I don’t want this to just become an echo chamber for what you think I want to hear. I have a dire relationship situation. I have always fantasized about ageplay, both giving and receiving so to speak, for years. I have suppressed it for years also. I’ve shared my story here other times before, but here’s a summation: when dating, wife said she would baby me. First child conceived, and now I’m surrounded by baby stuff at all times. I bring it up, and she tells me that she thought I was kidding. That first conversation happened about 6 years ago. Since then, she has tried to get into it. We played once. A couple of weeks ago, she got drunk and told me about how she’s tried so hard to be everything that I wanted and it hurt her that she couldn’t, and I decided that it wasn’t fair that she would have to work that hard at something so I decided to try and give it up. I started distancing myself from the community, deleted my podcasts, and tried to delete my FetLife, DD, and other accounts. Two weeks ago, I get a message from a user who saw my post about being a non-sexual little. They were curious and new to the whole thing, and I, being someone who has been in that situation, offered to help. We started talking more, and more, and then we started to RP. She had a boyfriend, I had a wife, but no one knew how to take care of us the way that we wanted to be. We started talking a little more seriously, and then tried to figure out way to still stay friends because we were uncomfortable with the sneaking around. This girl matched me in every way as far as our ageplay interests. We were switches. I liked to be the CG more. She liked to be Little more. We started talking about other things: big relationship things. We even spent an entire day sharing all of our dark hidden parts and everything looking for some incompatibilities. We found 3. She likes to hunt, and I can’t kill an animal. She doesn’t like country music while I like a few songs. She doesn’t put things back in their place and I do. In everything else, we clicked. It was totally different from my current relationship where i worry constantly about making her happy and i cant get into deep topics because my wife cant follow. She seriously made me consider leaving my wife. Still does. My wife found us texting and, long story short, issued the ultimatum that it’s either my fetish or it’s her, but one of them is going away. If I leave, I have no where to go. My family would disapprove of choosing ageplay over my wife. I would have to leave all vehicles and my home behind to ensure that she and my kids had a way to get back and forth and be taken care of. I’m willing to give up all of this, but I am afraid that I won’t be able to hide my unhappiness with it. Both women want me to be happy, but I don’t know how to be. More so, I’m worried that if I stay, my body will betray me in that I won’t be able to be intimate without ageplay, or at least the feelings I get from it. If we are not clicking intimately, if she is unwilling to go to counseling, if I am not able to peacefully give this all up, if I need to completely cut contact with someone who has become a close friend and confidant, what should I do? Do I leave all of this behind and fix my relationship at the expense of a part of myself, or do I leave my current life behind in favor of complete uncertainty but at least I’ll be whole. Please do not reduce this down to choosing the LIttle or my Wife. I am in pain right now, and I am looking for complete objectivity. If I’m an ass, tell me so. If I am in the wrong, let me know.

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