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@Little Sherri @oznl - thank you both for your replies - very useful, and I will certainly take the time to read through your posts. @Clr224 in answer your questions: I have started to give thought about how to explain/justify my actions - but part of the reason I have posted on this forum is to use the experience of members to help form my actions and thoughts on how I intend to move forward. I do not want to be deceitful, but at the same time, if I come to the realisation after a period of trying 24/7 or similar, that on balance, this isn't going to work for me, then I can move on without the possibility of putting my desires out there and potentially damaging relationships. Though, it feels like a fine balancing act. Having read the above replies and given some further thought to the whole situation - I think my biggest challenge at the moment is to seperate the 'fantasy' from reality and really understand what 24/7 and openness entails.

Hello everyone! I would like to ask experienced members here for there experiences/feelings/opinions if possible. I’m 43, married, 2 kids and have suppressed my incontinence desires for years, but I’m reaching a point in my life where I want to start doing some things for me, not just everyone else. I have always leaked a little so have a good excuse (to my wife) to start wearing incontinence pads. This has been liberating and I feel immensely comforted when wearing them. I have been practicing relaxing my muscles and have had a number of conscious accidents, which have been easier than expected. Really the above is just a way feeling out my feelings on this whole area and at this moment I feel I want to start moving towards diapers and concentrate more towards a 24/7 situation I appreciate the above is brief and a little rambling, however reading through the forum posts, there are lots of notes of caution which I completely understand and realise if I choose to go down a route of bladder incontinence then this has very real consequences. However, I feel it could bring me a sense of completeness too. I can’t explain why and I have no one at the moment who I can discuss this with. There is a sense of it being freeing (I appreciate the irony of this statement) and feeling padded is comforting. I get a feeling of being cared for. It’s something deep routed that I can’t easily articulate. Do many of you feel the benefits of your choices have outweighed the costs? On balance are you happier? How have other half’s reacted? Sorry this is a very open post, but I’m trying to get my bearings with my feelings and choices.