nappy-conundrum

Thank you Sarah Hillcrest Wow that cant have been easy and I totally agree with what your saying, I think most of us here have same thoughts thinking that why us and why do do we have this side but as you say its doesnt appear that any of us can quit no matter how much we try. For obvious reasons like you said its really not easy for other people to understand this part of us but like you said it doesn't harm people and it could be drugs or other things. I totally agree with accepting her thoughts and understand her issues with it as its why I've tried as best I can to find a solution but never have, I just want to be able to explain things and go from there. Sounds like you've had a good outcome in the end and although it was tough it was worth it. Its been really great to read this and so helpful.

Thank you Cute Kitten I've been having a few practice conversations with myself and I've been try to think of every question that might come up but also I know there will be some that I cant think off but I hope I can explain myself sensibly. I totally agree on respecting her wants and wishes are, she means so much to me and more to me than my abdl side which is why I've tried to give up before but never been able too. I get what your saying about a therapist and I'm not sure about that I think it's best to talk it out ourselves, I have however considered talking to a therapist about this side of me but never been too sure of how it would go.

Thank you forced2wet Its never easy but knowing others have been through it and can offer advise. I think that is the key, have as much information to had as possible to answer any questions their might be and try to explain things as best as possible, I also totally get how privacy is important. I agree its important to work together and accept each others wants and needs, I've always said I will try anything once. Thank you very much for the offer speaking to your other half as I do think that night help for her to talk to someone else that has been through a similar scenario.

Thank you dyeable I have slowly to accept this side of me but it has been a difficult process, yeah agreed its a weird quirk but as you say there are a lot stranger things out there. I'm hoping to have a chat soon, I just hope it goes well and she can understand.

Hi All I know this has most likely been asked before but I'm hoping I could please ask for some advise on talking to my wife about this side of me, I just don't want to hurt or upset her, she is the love of my life and I would and have tried to give it up but it hasn't worked, sorry if this is long. I spoke to her about 12 years ago before we got married as I thought it was unfair to her to not tell her before we got married. However it was already a number of years after we had been together as I never knew how to hell her (again because I didn't want hurt upset her especially as I didn't know how to handle it myself). Unfortunately that meant to try and calm my nerves I was drunk (yes I know stupid) and I only told her as she knew something was wrong as my heart was racing, shockingly it didn't go well, I broke her heart and mine as I had felt I had failed her and it destroyed her trust me me as I hadn't told her before. We kind of came to an agreement not that she was very keen but I could wear if she was out or if I was stressed I could wear under clothes as long as I keep it hidden, I did wear when she was out on a number times mostly when she was at work when i had the odd day off during the week but every time I did I always felt like I was being unfair to her although this couldn't stop me and I could never bring myself to wear with her around no mater how stressed I was as I didn't think I could do that to her. After a while I kind of agreed that I would chuck out my adult nappies and I left this page to try and cut the desire although I never chucked out the nappies I just put them away and still wore them when she was out at work, everything I tried to stop it wouldn't work. This now leads me to the current covid pandemic and I'm back here, she is working from hope which means I haven't worn in well over 12 months and I'm struggling to handle it on its own without all the other stresses at the moment so I just don't know what to do. I think I need to talk to her but I'm scared of breaking her heart again and she means so much to me and more than this quirk can ever do but I just can't handle it, this time I won't make the stupid mistake i made last time however much I'm scared. Thank you for any help and advise.