BaronBrook

Yeah, their writing style does sound authoritative and axiomatic. In my case, anyway some parts ring true. I think approaching abdl through an identity disorder lens could be useful. I just wish there were some good how to resources on that front. ? Choosing what makes you happy is certainly a more freeing way to live. Sure as heck beats being unhappy in order to please others! That second part speaks to me as a gamer. Finding optimal solutions or silver linings is certainly a good practice.

Thank you for the advice you two. Getting to a point where I don't care or that it becomes normal would be helpful. I've been trying to make diaper wearing a habit, but it's still grating & difficult. I can empathize feeling like there isn't a way out of diapers. One of the books put out by the Bents recently referred to abdl as persistent and progressive. Almost like a disease or permanent illness. That said, I've met a two abdls who gave in and then eventually reached a point where it they didn't feel like they needed diapers any more. One spent 3 years going all in, and one spent 5 years. Both developed limited incontinence, and then trained out of it. Hi Paul, those feel like pretty wise words. To focus on patience and kindness could be helpful. I am curious about the steps that you take.

I've been a conflicted abdl for years and I'd like to fix that. My little side only feels comfortable in diapers & little clothes, can actually relax, and enjoys life. My adult side is a workaholic, responsible, and financially sound. Neither side of me functions without the other, but we don't get along either. Sometimes it's like having a really bad roommate, except instead of trashing the living room it's my body that's trashed. I've been working with a counselor for about two years on this and I'm sincerely frustrated about the lack of progress. He always says stuff like "The only way out is through," and says that we should try to integrate my little side & my adult side into someone new and whole. Has anyone gone through anything similar? What has adult you given up to accommodate your little side? What compromises has your little side made in return? How did you find balance or become a whole person?