PokenerdMike

@lord.bill I wouldn't be looking for insurance coverage, I'm just trying to think long term I guess. Everyone has to visit a doctor eventually, and everyone has to visit the hospital eventually. Eventually they're going to find out, so for that reason I would want to be medically diagnosed as incontinent. That way if they ever question me about it, I can say "I sought treatment 'X' number of years ago, we tried X, Y and Z with little luck. They speculate that it could be caused Y, it's not known yet though. For my own comfort I choose to wear protection, and I've adjusted to that pretty well." I want a history, I guess, so I can say that I at least tried to prevent it. What scares me is the stories of other people who have gone to their doctors about this. My understanding is that they can be very meticulous to begin with. They'll send you to a urologist, try to diagnose you with a number of things, put you on medication and be stumped when that medication fails. People have also made it sound like they're very reluctant to recomend diapers. If I come out of the gate swinging, saying that I want to wear diapers, they'll be very suspicious of my motives. Nobody wants to wear diapers after all. In regards to surgery, I don't think urinary incontinence is a common symptom of SRS. I could be wrong though, but I think the doctor who performs my surgery would be very interested to learn about my sudden incontinence. It could reflect badly on them, so I'm fearful that they'll take extra steps to diagnose my incontinence and prevent it. A portion of my lip went numb after I had my wisdom teeth removed, and I had appointments for months after the fact with the person who removed them. I was the only patient of his that this had happened to I guess, and he took an interest. I'd imagine it would be a similar, perhaps more rigorous process with the surgeon who performed my surgery. @BlakeJordan Thank you for the advice. I was kind of aware of that, though not %100. Thank you for breaking that down for me.

Thank you Kasarberang, that's a comforting perspective. I'd be worried that they'd be more concerned than usual if I started to inexplicably become incontinent. I fear that might provoke further research into the cause of my incontinence. That extra scrutiny might make it difficult to not only claim ignorance to how I'm losing control, but also make it difficult to to request diapers. My understanding is that diapers an unconventional solution. I'd imagine the extra scrutiny combined with me wanting to wear diapers would start to look suspicious in their eyes.

To get the question out of the way, I'm wondering if a trans person (male to female), with bottom surgery, could realistically become incontinent. To state the obvious, of course, after her surgery she could voluntarily lose control using the methods outlined here. And in a perfect world, no one would judge that. Unfortunately, in the world we live in, would her plumbing be too closely monitored to become incontinent? If she started to lose control would doctors become suspicious? I'm genuinely asking, because I don't know if doctors notice things like that at all. Or if they'd write it off as an unintended consequence of the surgery. I'm asking because I think I'm trans. I'm pretty sure I'm trans. But I'm only just starting to accept it. I haven't worked everything out yet, but I'm pretty confident that I would want to have bottom surgery. That's a strong desire I've had for a while. I've also had a strong desire to eventually become incontinent. I've always had an interest in diapers, and even as far back as middle school I had read the 12 month diaper training program at least a dozen times. (I'm 23 now) I remember because I had tried to print it off on my family computer. Then I chickened out and threw it in the shredder in the middle of the night. That was back when the guide would appear as a pdf in a simple google search. Is it possible to have both? Surgery and incontinence? What would the logistics of that be? Would there be any consequences? Would doctors raise their brows with suspicion? Alternatively, can the surgery be performed on an incontinent person? Which should I do first? Truth be told, I don't even know if there is an answer. This is such a small group within a small group, I'm sure only a handful of people have ever really questioned it. Hopefully you're here now.