New_caretaker

I am new to the community and looking for advice. I've been involved with a DL for a few years now. He wets and messes, and I have come to truly love changing him, and taking care of him. I am looking for advice on how to better play the caretaker role, especially in regards to diaper checks, and bringing my involvement out of just the bedroom and into our day to day life. He sometimes has trouble articulating exactly what he's looking for, (i.e. more creative diaper checks, but not what that means.) I know he is looking for me to take the lead more, and I want to, but I'm confused as to where to take it. Any advice for a girl who really wants to play more of a role in his diaper wearing?