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Topguy
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Great article!
Interesting mind sets described there. Probably about as close as I feel comfortable with, in a Daddy/sub sort of relationship. And with the baby boom generation aging-and more and more voting age adults needing protection from incontinence-more easy to shrug off if one's sub is accidentally spotted wearing in public.
I think that most Tops dislike the caretaking aspect of this sort of thing-but I don't really mind. Then again,I reallize that I enable as much as get the same. One needs to keep a realistic perspective.
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Well said lex. But at the same time-while we should try to understand what various parts of our community get out of diaper fetishes-we should also understand that there are large differences in how it is used.
And not insist that everyone else with only marginal commonalities, MUST do things exactly in the same manner as those which fit our particular comfort zones. Which is why I happen to support different sections for different sub groups to communicate with each other. If you really aren't into something-you should not have to be subjected to having your nose rubbed in it-it's more respectful.
If one does not like something-just don't go there. It's not that hard to do.
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Sometimes results from punishment traumas as well.
Parents aren't perfect-and I don't know of how many incidences I have heard from abdls who said thier diaper fetishes came from being diapered as some form of punishment. I wonder if the adults responsible might use other methods-if they knew they were saddling thier children with something like this for life?
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I think I only failed to check..like three.
wait for the stories to come out-they explain a bit more. But I may end up having to post them elsewhere-a bit too explicit for here-I don't want a lot of ab heads imploding.
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I think this is one of the big problems on sites like this. Guys seem to only look at thier fetishes-and other people as fetish enablers.
Let's face it-women want more than that-like other things they can do with a guy-and an emotional bond that saitisfies thier needs. I've had men try and use me as wank fodder as well-or worse yet-want to get into something real life. It pissed me off. Not just because I happen to be straight-but that it was all about them.
You keep a crappy attitude like that-all about you is sure as hell going to stay that way-by yourself.
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I make my own cloth out of stuff I buy in fabric stores and thrift shops. Enough heavy terry cloth to make five diapers cost me about 55 bucks. All I had to do was cut it and zig zag sew the edges with my machine-took all of ten minutes each to do. An average flannel diaper costs me about five bucks in materials-when purchased as a queen sized top sheet. I could give a rats ass about colors. I got the sewing machine in a goodwill for twenty bucks.
And I also bought a thing called a bag sealer years ago, for 75 bucks used, they go for over four hundred new-does perfect seams in the plastic pants I make out of shower curtains-whatever size and cut I want. If you really want something bad enough-you just get off of your butt and do what you need to. I haven't bought a disposable in years.
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apologize to the ones who bother to get back to you?
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I think I'll just try this one more time, and then give it up as a bad job if I can't get the point across.
Diapers are an item commonly associated with babies. That's just reality; most people think of diapers as one of the defining characteristics of a baby.
It's totally cool with me if you're not into regression, and just have a fetish for diapers. Really--no one here has a problem with that. Lots of people are the same way--I was myself at one time--and no one's trying to force you to be anything else.
But it's perfectly understandable for outsiders--people who aren't in the know--to make an assumption that a diaper fetish has something to do with regression, since wearing diapers is, in fact, an infantile thing to do. No, it's not a correct assumption in all cases, but it's an understandable one.
Here's the nub: The fact that this really seems to bother you--that you just seem to hate the idea of anyone ever misidentifying you as an AB, and you basically want us all to quit acting so weird so we won't taint the public's impression of diaper fetishists as a whole--conveys, much more strongly than words, that you think being an AB is something to be ashamed of.
And when you say that, people are going to be annoyed at you for it. Because I for one am not ashamed. I used to be, but now I quite like myself, and I never want to go back.
You want to educate people that there's more to diapers than regression? Go ahead. I'll even help, if you don't insult me. Just get rid of the 'tude, and stop using words like "DESPISE", and we'll get along fine. I actually quite like your posts most of the time; I only get ticked off when you use language that puts people down for their fetishes. You do that often. And I wish you'd stop.
This is a bit of a hot topic for me, and I get worked up over it. I'm sorry if I came across as rude-I tend to have a passionate nature. And I DO tend to escalte my bluntness and means of communication if I feel that my point is getting blown off as not having any personal validity.
I REALLY can understand what people get out of what they do. It just doesn't do the same thing for me.
I'm not trying to be devisive here. I'm trying to get people NOT to take each other for granted-in a well meant but rather misguided attempt to make us "cohesive"
My point all along is to like what we have in common-but respect the differences as meaningful to those who are.
Respect comes from realizing that another person can understand and even admire you-without being YOU.....
And that they CAN be different, and not be a threat.
Does that make any sense?
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I see that as a statement against the arguing not wearing diapers.
Hey I do agree with your wants, what I want to se stop is blaming the AB's because there are more of us and we are comfy enough to have fun with it.
If you have "grownup" , ignore our games.
Ok then. You aren't a baby-because I have a dl fetish-and I say you are just like me. From now on, you will just have to put up with it or ignore me.
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Whatever pigeon-holed label the mental health "pros", religious rightists, slugs and ignorant bigots want to stamp us with, the fact is, we are a very diverse community. Infantilist, Diaper Lover, AB, DL, whatever. Those folks don't have a clue as to what they're dealing with. Sometimes I wonder if we do. There is no doubt that the attraction to diapers is something ABs and DLs share alike. There is a large "grey area" between what defines an AB or DL. That should be something we should build on. Not beat down with senseless in-fighting.
You are right on the mark Enfant!
Cuddles,
--heidilynn ;
Definition of infantilism
Definitions of Infantilism on the Web: http://www.google.com/search?hl=EN&saf...on&ct=title
A state of arrested development in an adult, characterized by retention of infantile mentality, accompanied by stunted growth and sexual ...
www.antiquusmorbus.com/English/EnglishI.htm
A person who has an infantilism fetish has almost always started puberty. This fetish continues on for some people for the rest of their lives. It normally involves wearing diapers, using pacifiers, drinking from baby bottles with nipples, and similar accessories. ...
www.im-big-daddy.com/frame/body/glossary.html
an abnormal condition in which an older child or adult retains infantile characteristics
infantile behavior in mature persons
wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn
I'd hardly call sharing one attribute of that "inclusive" of the entire fixation.
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We all have basic, common desires with this scene and it's time we stop the bulls**t. What are we? A bunch of babies? (Yeth we are! YaaaY!)
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How is this NOT a stereotyping statement?
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Very interesting topic and links...
The mental aspects are always the most interesting
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I never made a distinction in what I like as far as diapers.
But can we just say "we share a fetish for diapers"
Instead of stupid stuff like "everyone into diapers wants to act like a baby"?
Because that is what is being objected to.
I"M NOT A FREAKING BABY.
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"You like other stuff too"
That's a bit like saying "You like girls-but I like guys too"
So because another person has a different prefference-I'm also BI because I like girls?
Can you see how silly it is to try and lump people by unreaslitic distinctions like that?
That's what gets to me-again-the narrow mindedness that insists that everyone has to be the same-I see it as a form of bigotry.
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Why is it so hard for you abs to accept that dls grew up? Get over YOUR denial.
I DESPISE small children, why would I want to act like one?
Some of us just have a fetish for an OBJECT we find sexually gratifying, it has nothing to do with regression.
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I might as well have written this myself-no one seems to know who did origionally.
But they seem to have known what they were talking about.
http://www.tampafetishparty.com/writings/d..._domination.htm
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Jesus doesn't know them.
They don't follow his wishes.
Mt 22:36 “[Jesus], which is the great commandment in the law?” And he said to him, ’You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it, You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the law and the prophets.”
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Who Are You?
in 2008
None of the above. I wear for utilitarian reasons. I diaper gilrs because I like control during role playing situations.
I don;t seem to fit into any of the convenient little boxes most around here like.
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I think women marching down the street for thier shoes fetishes would be more popular.
Us? We are just unfashionable.
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Smiles slyly-you asked for it jennie.
I didn't write this-but it's pretty much what I do.
http://www.tampafetishparty.com/writings/d..._domination.htm
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And one of the reasons Ilike to diaper women jennie. It's not just sexual to me. It's a way to let her relax totally and get some personal care and attention. I'm not really stuck on a power trip like a lot of tops. I find that sort of insecure and unreal. It's more some fun role playing that I do on the side-some of it can seem pretty intense and controlling........but I just like to see the reactions.
And there is a sort of consipiritorial collaboration with a sub that I like,in sort of a "our own little universe" way.
I guess one would have to be a part of it to understand.
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As someone who basically has to wear to bed at night-or I get no sleep and only having an overactive bladder?
Hell no-I'd have to be insane to want it 24/7!
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Why would I care? I only need to meet ONE.
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You know, rather than seek validation for an unhealthy condition........one might actually seek the help of a mental health professional. Sometimes this is indicative of chemical disorders in the body-that can be treated.
How Did You
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I'm not in a relationship currently-but I got my past girlfriends through a local bdsm community and some bdsm dating sites. But that was because I was a fun Dom-submissive women who will do wierd stuff for you tend to dislike subby guys.
Getting the attention is what THEY want-after all.