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@Paxy: Wonderful advice! Thank you so much. You gave a lot of insight and correlation to effective behavior modification for a little/AB who can mentally comprehend on an adult level within play. I think we will try this system out this week. I have been wanting to make a chart for some time, but have been lacking in doing so. I know structure is a good thing, but I find myself a lenient Mommy most time, in play and real life.

The age he reverts to isn't specified, but quite infantile. He is very capable of being an adult in or outside of play, when need be. Wanting to wash his mouth out with soap isn't necessarily about his language, but a desire to find punishment that focuses towards the little versus the adult.

There's a LOT of really good advice already mentioned, but I want to most echo those of monksmommy. Perhaps, your partner is open to you operating and caring in the space of 'sister' or perhaps it might be something you mostly need to think of yourself as while playing Mommy. Either way, I think first and foremost it's all about embodying the space mentally. When I'm feeling especially not Mommyish, but need to take care of mine, I think of myself as sister or vicariously care for him in the ways I know I would like to when I'm feeling little.

Definitely! I am super happy to be Mommy, but when I get tired/stressed/insecure I find myself feeling more of a little girl. When I feel confident and well rested, being Mommy is much more natural and easy for me.

I could really use some suggestive feedback about something. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. Well, I've been struggling with proper punishment for when he has done something naughty. He hates the corner and time out in his playpen. Pretty much, if he is left alone, he gets very emotional. His response to being left alone is understandable. I have spanked him before, but I prefer not to hit as a punishment. I absolutely want to wash his mouth out with soap at times or wear his bottom out, but I don't think it would be productive to lesson learning.

It can definitely be challenging to be a little and Mommy in one. That's when being 'sister' can be of use and encompass all aspects of you while still being the caretaker.