DiaperMom

Sigh. Guys--I registered quickly and MADE A MISTAKE. It didn't seem to matter because I registered just to ask one important question. I'm not here for the long haul and I'm not trying to trick anyone. Thanks again for those who answered thoughtfully. I'll bow out now.

Thanks to everyone for thoughtful suggestions. I am sorry if anyone feels my post was "fishy". I don't use many forums and somehow didn't register myself correctly...further, the registration made me answer questions that didn't pertain to me and I was in a bit of a panic to write my message...so to be clear, I am a FEMALE, not a DL and very much a legitimately concerned Mom. And for Diaper Pro who thinks I should have brought this up 8-10 years ago ..you have no idea what we've been through with this boy, and how many discussions/sleepless nights and worries we've had about this and other risky behavior, including a predator who befriended him at a church, and who turned out to have a mile long record of assault with a deadly weapon. Even that experience didn't seem to make much of an impact with him.... So, in a forum such as this, I would think judgment of me might not be fair. I also understand that these issues are internet issues and not necessarily DL issues, however, I also know that he is pursuing this type of method because he doesn't know how else to meet like minded people....I am curious about these "meet ups". How would he find out about them in his area? Thanks again.

Hello: I am a Mom to a 20 year old DL. I have known about his interest in this activity for several years. Although I do not understand it, I support him and love him. Today, I discovered that he traveled about 50 miles to meet up with another DL that he met on the internet from a website called rupadded.com. I found this out because he left our house in a hurry saying he was "job hunting". After hours went by, I got worried and checked his computer. The website and connection was still on the screen. I know there is nothing I can do to stop his behavior or stop his search to meet people who are like him. But, he is not street wise and is often extremely naive. My intention is to give him some advice about how to best protect himself from getting hurt. I am hoping that people in this group can help me formulate some protections that he will accept. My four biggest concerns: I am afraid that he might end up with a minor--not realizing this person is a minor or not understanding the consequences of engaging a minor. I am concerned that he will meet up with a person who is misrepresenting themselves on the internet and intends to meet up with him in order to hurt him. I am worried that he will become sexually involved with a person he doesn't know and might contract a STD. I am afraid he will connect with a person much older than him and get in too deep and over his head. I want to approach him calmly and lovingly. What should I say and do to make sure this boy I love so much stays safe? Mom