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Ok so i have talked with the producers again and i genuinely believe that it wont be sensationalised. With that said though i will go and look at the other stuff they have done and then decide. At the moment i am more likely to do it, I'm thinking that the chance of maybe doing some good makes all the risks good enough to take. But I'm still not sure, like i have to think about my friends and family and how they will react to it, and will it embaras them. And then I'm still a bit petrified of how it will negatively impact my life. Thank you to everyone who has responded, i really need to look at every view point before i make my mind up one way or another. But please don't take me saying as this is discussion over, I still am not sure on what to do and I am still weighing everything up

Ok i never even thought of it like that thong, that even if i come across proper that the audience may percieve it differently. Thats definately something to think about. Now i know i'm coming across like my mind is made up to do the show, but it really isn't, if anything my mind is made up to not do the show, but i really just want to look at it from every angle. At the moment my conclusions are not to do it because it will be edited to make me look bad, and also i am not willing to risk future employment over this. But would it be worth doing A show, not necesarrily this show, where i could be guaranteed that it wouldnt be edited negatively?

Ok drynot things may be good for you, you can walk down the street in a nappy and no one knows. You can wear a onsie and what not and again no one will know. So if I do this it will only affect you if you come out. And as I said i am not going to make a difference to how the public view us one way or another. I think the public oppinion is allready so askewed that even if the film was edited to make me look like a side show act. people will have already seen worse. So me doing the film cant make things any worse for us as a whole. What about the people that things are crap for? Over at adisc there are hundreds of threads from kids whose parents freak out when they find out about this stuff, and there are hundreds of threads about people who want to come out but fear how people will react to them. When I was growing up the hardest thing for me was the fact that i had this huge secret burried deep down inside festering away and that i couldnt talk to people in real life about it. Even after i found out there were others like me online i still felt like crap because i couldnt talk to people in real life about it. So I would be doing this for the people who this is not just a sexual fetish for, but so much more. For me this is not just something i like to enjoy in the bed room to get my rocks off, its something i do to relieve stress, instead of smoking or drinking i wear a diaper. It's something that i can draw power and confidence from, since i have accepted it. And I know I am not the only one, and those are the people i am going to do it for. Honestly if it was just a thing i did in the bed room i would have need to talk to people about it, but since it's so much more for me, it's such a part of my personality i need to talk to people about it. (Not talking about the film here, but life in genereal) Not to be blunt here or anything but this film is being made one way or another. I was not asked to be the main person featured in this film, they have already found their person for that. But what they want to do is show that there are far more of us out their than people thought and that we are normal average people. So my thinking is if i dont do this, what if they fill my spot with someone less level headed, or more addicted or even someone who would just be bad for our public image. Now i'm not saying I am this incredibly awesome trend setter that if people see me on the show that they will automaticly accept abdlism, but i am just an average bloke. And i am comfortable in my own skin, and i have figured this side of me out. So thats why i think i would be good for this show. But i can definately see how i wouldnt be. So Editing is a big point people are making and rightfully so. So say if editing wasnt a problem, that hypothetically speaking, we were guaranteed it wasnt going to be edited to make us look like freaks, would people be all right with it? For me it's a big concern, it's one of the big things that has me on the no side. If editing wasnt a problem the only thing that would stop me from doing it would be the possible career suicide that would ensue. But if this documentary was going to be an from an unbiased view point, and was edited to reveal the truth would you guys be more comfortable with it? Now i am not saying that is the way it is going to be, but rather just interested in seeing what people think on the subject. As i said it's a cause i believe in and want to be a part of, so maybe my contribution would be to make an independant documentary, which i edit and get out their? Not saying thats what i'm going to do but its an idea. Do you think that an documentary about ab's made by an ad and not for a tv company that is interested in ratings, would be a good thing? Should it be something that needs to be considered?

So would i be doing the community a dis service then by doing the show? and if so how? Sarah i think you are taking me up wrong, i know that i wont change anything, i know i am not the saviour of us all I know i am not the one. but what i do think is that the more people see of us, especially if i come across as an average normal bloke, the more accepting they will be of us. and that maybe i might encourage who ever the one is or if they even exist to doing a show that really helps the community. And yes definately i dont know what the right thing to do is, thats why im asking, and as i said i am on the side of no not doing it, but i really want to see every arguement for an against it. As i said its a cause i believe in so i dont want to make any quick decisions one way or another. I wouldnt consider this to be an extreme fetish, i think its rather mild compared to the more accepted fetishes such as bdsm. And every i have told that i am an ab the first question they have asked is are you into kids, so maybe its my bad experiences that is influencing me, but isnt that part of the human condition? Honestly i really dont want to come across like i think im hot shit or anything like that, because i truly dont believe that, i just was handed an oppertunity to maybe make a difference, and an oppertunity which i need to discuss with people.

yeah see thats the thing if it was radio i would definately do it, like there is the chance that people would recognise my voice, but voices are way easier to forget then faces, so i'm sure the next job you have people wont even know. How are things now if you dont mind me asking, how bad did things get?

Ohh yeah i know that ultimately it is my decision and i will take full responsibility for what ever happens, i guess im just trying to figure it out myself and i dont really know which way im leaning at this point

yeah thats true lilfozzy, i guess i'm just thinking this one will be different.

Thanks for the advice bettypooh, but there in lies the problem, maybe i should be the one to bite the bullet, maybe the mic has been passed to me and i am the one who should sing? I dont know, could just be my delusions of grandeur. I will be talking to the producer, and maybe if i could get last say in edditing, like i am not going to be the main focus on the documentary, my life is far to dull, i think they just want me to talk about what abdlism is to me. So maybe they would be more willing to give me some leeway in the matter, i dont know, but its definately an avenue i would look at.

Ok i think we are having some communication problems here, i dont think that europe is in anyway superior, i happen to be european and was just expressing that it may be different in your part of the world. I know homophobia exist in europe, i have experienced it myself. But i do feel that homosexuals are accepted here, and by that i in no way mean that i think they are not accepted anywhere else in the world, i simply and talking about my experience in my area. Now i am not sure but are you anti democracy? thats fine if you are but what you said there definately seems to be that you dont like democracy, especially with statements such as "Tyranny of the majority". And i think that needs and beliefs are two very different things. If people believe the world to be flat, that doesnt necsesarrily mean they need it to be flat. Also my statement wasnt a law was it, its an idea, its a principle, its something thats not set in concrete. It's not a means of judgment its just a motivation of mine. I am in no way a Machiavellian, but i do like that principle to a certain degree I think if you look at europes situation its that we are to individualist that we are falling apart, we cant agree on a means that will help everyone in the long term. Each country is too concerned with its own well being, and rightfully so. The E.U is not falling apart because we are too akin to sheep following a flock, but rather because we can't agree to give up power to a european parliment in fiscal matters through the IMF. But with greece sticking in the eu we have turned a corner and i feel that we are no longer falling apart, granted the dream of a united europe could fall through i believe that it will get through this financial crisis and be the stronger for it.

While i agree that there are still homophobes out their, but definitely my generation are very accepting of homosexuals. Perhaps its just that europe is more open to that sort of thing maybe, i dont know but i would say that homosexuality is definitely accepted here

Well i see what you are saying, and its definately something to think about,but the way i see it is that we need to take that first step. Normaly i wouldnt think about doing this in a million years because as you say the media want sensationalist material for ratings. But the company that are making the film seem to be fairly ethical and sensitive. I dont know about the tv chanel but i think its something to consider. This is a realy extreme example but homosexuality wouldnt be accepted if people didnt take that first step and stand up for themselves. In regards to people being outed i dont see how abdlism being accepted would out people if the didnt chose to be out.

well i have to disagree their. Like for abdlism to lose its stigma people are going to have to talk openly about it, and in the begining it will be bad for those people, but as society gradually comes to terms with it it will have benefited the community as a whole. As the saying goes the needs of the many out weigh the needs of the few.

thanks for that letluvsrool it was pretty entertaining. I do think its a bad idea for me personaly to do the show, but if it benefited us as a community then i think it would be worth it, but then again im probably being fairly naive about the whole thing

Thanks michelle, I think not doing the show is the right idea, but i feel like if it could help people start to accept this type of thing then it would definately be a good idea and something that i would want to be a part of. But i definately see the possibility of financial ruin if i did do it, so for that reason alone i think your right