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These are posts I've made. Not sure if they are helpful or not, but may be a start. http://www.dailydiapers.com/board/index.php?showtopic=20734&hl=%22new+mommy%22&fromsearch=1 http://www.dailydiapers.com/board/index.php?showtopic=21531&hl=&fromsearch=1 http://www.dailydiapers.com/board/index.php?showtopic=21974&hl=&fromsearch=1 http://www.dailydiapers.com/board/index.php?showtopic=23115&hl=&fromsearch=1 http://www.dailydiapers.com/board/index.php?showtopic=27000&hl=&fromsearch=1

These have all been great suggestions. I guess I'm more curious how I can make him feel little when we are apart. We already do our thing when we're together, but helping him make it through the times when we can't physically be together is the hard part.

I understand his feeling, I just feel like I need a grander gesture that will let him know I'm always there if he needs, he's always my little guy, and the like. Its hard to text him during the day, cause other people might see, and its not what he wants. Lately its felt harder to get into my mommy-space, with the lack of physical contact. I really need to step up my game, but I'm struggling. I'm not a very dominant and aggressive person so my mommy-space is something I ease into when we're together, but now I need to find ways to be in mommy-space the second we interact.

Those are really great ideas, thanks! I have him call me every night and every morning to check his diaper, but never thought to photo or video it.

Although he likes the threat of embarassment, the last thing he would ever want is for his friends to find out. Thanks for the thought though.

Hello all, You guys have always been great at giving me advice so I thought I'd come back for more. I am the mommy of an adorable bABy boy. He has a real night time incontinence problem, and we have spent our relationship trying to make playtime as real as possible. That means not doing things that others on here may do to fill the role. Everything we do is real and in some way logical. I make him feel little in many ways, some of which include embarassing him by talking about his bed wetting, taking him to buy diapers, talking to him about things that are somewhat adult like but get him feeling more kid like (i.e. baseball and trains), not letting him do much if anything for himself when he comes over. Here's my issue, my bABy and I don't get to see each other as often as we used to. Because of that, its even more important that every interaction we have we are filling our roles, really internalizing mommydom if you will. Since I've only been a mommy for about a year or so, its sometimes hard for me to completely internalize. Its something I really want, but haven't been able to do completely. I'm looking for some more ways to make my bABy feel little through text, e-mail, phone chats, etc, so we can make the most of the little time we do get face to face. Any thoughts on how I can make him feel little all the time. He's feeling pretty disheartened and I'm looking for some "grand gestures" to make things rights. Thanks!

Well those are all great ideas. though I also need some to help him regress. And sex and comedy central don't quite do the trick. Those things come later.

Hello all, My baby is coming over after the game for a playdate. Any last minute thoughts on what I can do to make his night and tomorrow more enjoyable? We've never done this before, but I'm thinking about making a fort with him and making s'mores. Any other more practical thoughts?

As a coping mechanism he has learned how to keep himself from falling in a deep sleep if he is not wearing a diaper which means he wakes up completely unrested and cranky. He does this if he is away with friends and even sometimes at his parent's place. Also, since I am still learning how to be a good mommy sometimes I screw up the regression process and then he doesn't want a diaper because he feels stupid and I haven't been able to recover if I've made him feel dumb... Or better yet sometimes he is convinced he is a big boy and doesn't need diapers. So I was thinking if that came up I could say "Fine, no diapers for you tonight, but if you wet the bed it'll be three whole days of diapers" then do the warm water trick to make sure it happens. I can usually get him into diapers if he's feeling little by saying no dinner without a diaper or no sleeping without a diaper or something of that nature. I just am not sure if those are things real moms would do and I'd also like to try new things. As i hope you can tell from all of my posts, I really want to make our time together special and I want to finally get into the mommy role completely. I don't know how to turn on the switch so I don't fall out of character. If we are just relaxing I can't sit there silently, but I feel like I always say stupid things and don't talk to him appropriately. Ahhhhh, i feel like such a mess!

Better question, when is an appropriate time to introduce diapers? If I'm going to ease him into regression I know I have to wait til he's feeling little, but when exactly? He has night time incontinence, so its easy enough to say why he needs them at night or if he's taking a nap, but when's appropriate if he's not sleeping? And I feel like I'm always saying something along the lines of "You have accidents so you need your diaper, I can't trust you to not have one." I want to try something new, maybe not give him a diaper because he thinks he's a big boy and then when he is napping see if he wets the bed or facilitate that happening. Thoughts? Ideas?

Any other thoughts?

Thanks, I do care a lot and I'm really interested in being an ABDL mommy, but I'm not very good at making it real. Thus all of the questions I ask on here. I do not believe he is a member of the site. We talk a lot about what this all means, but I try seeking outside advice so he'll realize this is something I want and need for me too. I've found that most ABDLs come with HUGE guilt complexes, so he is always worried that I am doing this for the sole purpose of pleasing him. He seems very comfortable with feeling like he is 9 or 10 but forced to wear diapers because he is a true bed wetter. He will do babyish and toddler things, but I haven't been able to properly aid in this regression. I think ideally we're shooting for a toddler the majority of the time. If he regresses to a baby its very brief. I'll get him to drink out of a bottle or something of the sort and then to be quite frank something of a sexual nature happens and then we're back to little kid. I would like to try full out baby sometime, but my goal is toddler. I have been looking on parenting websites which have helped, though I will do some research on developmental milestones. Thanks for the kind words and advice!

Of course, but it means different things for adults and children. The pyramid I posted above was one I found that tried to list what each level meant for children. I'm thinking about comparing what each level means for adults and children. Obviously the biggest difference is someone has to provide all of these needs for children. For example: Security for adults is about financial stability, job security, health insurance, etc. For children safety is about a parent protecting them from danger, free from abuse and neglect, attention and reassurance. So in a regression scene how to take away the cares of adult safety and focus on the child or baby feeling safe. Thoughts?

I thought it was pretty interesting. I like the breakdown for children, and I was trying to look at it next to the regular pyramid to help in the regression process. Like noting the differences between fulfilling the physiological needs on an adult and child level. Thoughts?

Next part, once he is feeling little what are some ways for me to give him constant attention? Also, I came across this and thought it was a nice way at looking at what mommies and daddies should give their ABs.

Ok the whole writing with the other hand thing might work when he is already feeling little, but if I try to make him do it when he's still feeling like an adult he will just feel stupid. I realize this isn't the same for everyone, but my baby likes things to be real and me forcing him to use his other hand is not something a real mom would do especially not when he's still feeling grown-up. The point of my question is how to get him feeling little and comfortable enough to do little and babyish things. He's not the kind of guy who will just walk into a room and suddenly be ready for playtime. He needs to be eased into regression and depending on his mood sometimes this is me doing one thing and sometimes its five. He needs things that are a bridge between being an adult and being little. Looking at a catalog is an acceptable adult action, but giving him a crayon to circle things brings out the little kid when he's looking. Am I making sense? For example: When he comes over he is often still in adult mode. I might hand him a catalog and a crayon and ask him to circle the things he'd like. I might have a movie already on in the background, something like the Sandlot which was a childhood favorite. These things will start relaxing him and getting him think like a kid, but they are still things an adult would do and he may need more help. At this point I may give him a nice back massage and mid massage I'll sneak in baby lotion. All the while talking to him about things I know he likes. After helping him feel comfortable and making him feel little he'll be ready to start playing and I can put him in his diaper and do many of the other things that were suggested on here. Thanks again!

I just want to make things as real as possible for him. So although many of these ideas are great they are not in the making things real category. Not letting him use his right hand makes it seem fake. Definitely useful at some point but not for this purpose. Any others? Thanks again!

The list I originally posted was one that my baby and I more or less came up with together. I was just hoping for some original ideas so I could also surprise him. Actually you were very kind and helpful. And you have been with all of my other topics, so thank you!

Thanks for the suggestions! They're great!

Eaxctly. I know a lot of the real baby ways to do the trick, but i'm looking for more subtle so when he's not in the mindset yet I can ease him into it. He values things being real. So pushing him in a room and saying its time for a diaper change without anything leading up to it seems extremely fake. Thanks!

I need some more advice please. I need more ways to help make my guy regress to the baby he truly is. Here are some ways I have so far, but any extras would be helpful. Adult to little kid 1) Don't let him do anything for himself as soon as he walks in 2) Illusion of being small 3) If he's sleeping then he would wake up to me diapering him I'll place a stuffed animal in his arms when he yawns I'll carefully place a pacifier in his mouth 4) Force him to pee his pants lock him in a room til he pees his pants or lock myself in the bathroom til he pees his pants stick his hand in a bowl of water while sleeping (does this really work?) 5) Put on a movie from his childhood or kid's movie he might enjoy 6) Talk about things that are grownupish but will get him thinking little (for him this is baseball cards and trains) 7) Massages - sneak in baby lotion 8) If hes looking at a catalog give him a crayon and tell him to circle what he likes. I realize it seems like a pretty thorough list but I need some more original ideas. Also, any other ideas for play time when he's a little boy or baby that are not the most basic. Thanks for the help!

He can be quite the bad baby, but I'm getting more and more comfortable in my role and you guys have been really helpful. We actually haven't had any play time in the last two weeks. My baby's dad had a heart attack two weeks ago and then his grandmother had a heart catherization so there has been a lot of family drama, but I am hoping this weekend will be some us time. Thanks!

That's a great idea! I've never tried to withhold diapers from him before, just things like snacks or prizes or whatnot. What if it backfires and he says he doesn't want a diaper anyway? Sometimes he does things like that either because I'm not making things fun enough or because he's trying to trick me into putting him in one right away (i.e. he is in charge and then its no fun for anyone)

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Someone saying all of that and giving me a full out scenario was exactly what I needed! I think that sometimes I'm too sweet and try to do a baby voice which just ends up sounding fake. Especially if I'm using it to punish him... thanks so much for the detailed advice! Any thoughts on how to keep him in diapers if we have work we have to get done? We are both teachers and sometimes spend a Sunday just grading and getting ahead for the week. The only problem is I want him in diapers the entire time, but I tend to accidentally make him regress to where we get no work done. Thanks again to everyone for your detailed and quick responses!

I have tried talking to him. He loves talking about this studd. The thing is he's not 100% sure what he want. The main thing is a mommy who can take charge. He doesn't want to be in control but he wants it to be as real as possible. For example, he is a true bed wetter so he likes to be forced to wear diapers and sometime teased into regression. I am just not a hugely authoritative person, but in this situation I really want to be and am willing to do whatever it takes to learn how.