babyjimmy

I am glad to see that there are many of you out there, that like me, enjoy both sides of this and understand and embrace how that can intertwine. I hope that we will all speak up, educate others, to correct the misunderstandings that brought us to this point. And I hope that every one of us will find the Mommy/Mistress/Daddy/Master or whatever it is that we need to find.

I would dispute that BDSM revolves around sexual release. I would argue that it is exactly that attitude, born out of inexperience that has contributed to the divide. I would argue that true BDSM is quite the opposite. Yes, for some that is a way to express kinky sexual desires...but isn't that true of diapers also? But having been active, and lived that lifestyle for years, I can tell you that for most it is about Dominance and submission...it is about control. Not sex. It may turn out to be sexy...but not overty sexual. Very similar to ABDL actually.

I had similar experience. It seems that many in BDSM community share this interest...but conceal it. A Mistress friend of mine posted an ad online to test this. She was amazed at how many she knew from BDSM scene...that were "straight leather"..that replied to her ad. I just don't understand why it is taboo in BDSM....even when more then we know embrace it. Just hide it.

Perhaps someone out there can explain to me why there is such a taboo perceived by members of both the AB/DL lifestyle and the BDSM lifestlye toward one another. From my personal experience many who enjoy AB/DL play, view it as only innocent and consider BDSM play to be extreme and off limits. Also from my experience, many in the BDSM lifestyle do not understand or accept AB/DL play. My introduction to regression was with an ex GF / Mistress. Regression and diaper play were integrated seamlessly into our relationship. I understand that they are not the same, nor are the motivations..but why would SOOOO many who enjoy one, close their mind to ever experiencing the other. I honestly expect that people associated with either interest, both of which carry a larger social taboo to the vanilla world, would be more understanding and accepting of other fetishists. Can you help shed some light on the apparent disconnect? Are there others out there that enjoy both AB/DL and BDSM...and how they can blend together?