[Is anyone else shy about diapering-up in front of their spouse?]

Even after having to wear diapers 24/7 for over a year I am still self-conscious about the diapering-up process. My Wife is super supportive/understanding with regards to me having to wear diapers to handle my BPH/OAB problems.

[I need help]

I have been interested in this lifestyle since I was a young child who wet the bed until his teens. I have always suppressed the urges.... and they always come back. I have experimented with depends pull-ups, tranquility pull-ups, and have bought some dependeco diapers. I just can't figure out a system that works well for me. Recently I bought some samples from XP medical - I ordered some tena super stretch diapers and some boosters. I can't seem to figure out how to make this work well for me...

Most of my wetting is voluntary - I do take a few med's that occasionally make this much more urgent. I need to be able to slide down my protection to use the restroom if required - but plan to wet in my diapers 99% of the time.

My issues: The super stretch size medium is a perfect fit for me - but seems to leak after 1 wetting (I can't have this at work). With the booster - the leakage wasn't an issue - but the volume of the diaper was uncomfortable and rubbed on the insides of my legs. Also, they seem inefficient - they only seem to absorb in the front. The padding in the very bottom and back never seem to swell so I feel like the change is premature. The booster is an issue because it broke apart inside of the super stretch which was messy. I had hoped to be able to just change out boosters throughout the day as needed.

I really need some advice as to how to make this work - I can't waddle around work all day, I can't be leaking, I do want to be wet and really want to be able to trust my diaper..... What combination do I try?

[How can I help my non-DL partner to enjoy diapers?]

I am 61 and have been wearing diapers and rubber pants for a very long time.