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Yeah, there's no right or wrong way. Some like being completely in the role- as often as possible with their partner. Some like just peppering it into a relationship. Some like being naughty, some nice. Some like playing as an infant, others want more freedom of choice and decision- and want to be a bit older. The best and most basic step is talking it out with your significant other. Seeing what he/she likes about it and knowing what you want. Obviously, since you've been 'into it' before you found her- you should know what part of the spectrum you fall into. Once you have all that cleared up, you might be able to ask us for advice on particular quirks about the AB world- like activities to do as an AB, or punishments, or ways to make bedtime fun. But you'll need to find out where she stands on control and care- since it is sorta up to her .

The general concencus on here is gonna be: "Don't push too hard with it, you'll drive her away from it". Although she's been doing it for a few weeks, you can burn her out or completely change how she feels about it if you force her to do something she's not ready to. Be happy you have someone in your life willing to try your (dare I say bizarre) kink, and continue to make efforts with it. But to help her become more comfortable with wearing with you, I have a few ideas. Not all girls want to be pampered princesses, but find out if yours would. Find out if she's into any ageplay. Heck, try stories, cuddles, ect... see if you can associate anything good with her wearing diapers. And the other is much more obvious. Make sure you return the favor. Make her desires/fantacies come true. It's easy to get wrapped up in what she's doing for you, but find out if there's anything special that turns her on. If not- take her out to dinner, watch her awful tv/movies with her, buy her something nice. Make sure she's more appreciated than she knows. It's a two-way street, you know. I've never told another girl, really... besides my SO right now- but I assume some of the vanilla girls who get driven away feel like they're being used, or that the relationship is revolving around diapers suddenly. Keep it from doing this by only peppering diapers into sex (unless she likes the feeling), and diapers into life. Make sure she still has plenty of time away from them with you around- so it's obvious there's more going on than just your kink. Edit: Darn- beaten by only seconds!

I used to tell my LG stories for bed (IM, phone and Skype) when we were long distance. It was fun for me to make them up on the go, and it made her fall asleep pretty quick, too . I also used to make her diaper up for me, and wouldn't let her change without asking me first. I made her a channel on Vimeo to upload cartoons (Rugrats, Charlie and Lola) and would let her watch when she was good. We'd send a lot of back-and-forth picture messages, too . As far as AB stuff, we actually used alot of the long distance time to talk about what she wanted me to do as her caretaker... likes and dislikes- and less actual roleplaying. It helped be a better CT when we moved in together .... but it'll be different for everyone!

Your posts are actually enjoyable. I'd imagine most 24/7 blog type posts would be more bland. Keep it up

No offense, but it seems like your gift to them is partially for your enjoyment...and I really don't think anyone will be trading or 'fighting' over diapers. But hey, you know your friends. Of course people love giving, and seeing the reactions of others- but you need to just try and think of a good gift in my opinion. You should try to cater to what you think they'd like, treasure (even just for the season) or be able to use....unless, like others have said, the theme is funny, prank, ect.

I have no background in them (just received my first pair) but Adult ClothDiaper.com has good prices. I got the Leakmaster line. They fit great- just make sure to measure your leg width, it's much more important than waist!

Quick search through D4G and I found these. Hope they help!

I believe that she may lurk these boards from time-to-time, so I can't say about the big present- but I shopped through Walmart on Friday for some smaller, cheaper gifts. I found TONS of ideas (but it's still November, so I'm trying to budget through the year ) But I did find her a couple things her little side will love. One is a storybook- I plan on browsing through the section weekly to check out the cheaper books. I'm also trying to balance out her gifts to make sure she gets enough big girl things . One is a video game, the other cannot be named

It seems like maybe this was posted for Turkey Day break? I hope everything worked out, and you had a sit-down to what you both wanted. It seems you're pretty flexible- and just want to indulge him in his kinks, and make him happy. That is great to hear and pretty rare, honestly. Many who aren't into the scene set boundaries to what they want and don't want to be involved in. There's all types of roles in the scene. From baby, to little boy, to daddy/caretaker, a fellow baby to play with, to simply just two lovers in diapers- there's tons of roles, and you seem uncertain to which one you're involved in. My point of the last bit was just to say there's plenty of options- and he might have a certain need he wants to fulfill. You need to be honest, tell him you're very happy to be a part of such a important part of his life- but that you want to help make it special and know exactly what he wants. He might just like the security of being in diapers with someone else- but then again, he may want to baby you/be babied. Make sure you're comfortable with it, too. You're as much a part of this as he is. Make sure you enjoy what you're doing. If there's a certain part you want to do more than another (say, changing him instead of being changed), make sure to speak up. He'll probably be happy that you want to be a part of such a private aspect of his life.

http://xpmedical.com/accessories.html It will make it look like you have a tucked in shirt on. Thinking about doing the same myself.

With all this being said, and many people being arrested for unpaid traffic tickets- can you log online to see if you have any outstanding? It qualifies as a warrant, right?

The fit, tapes, ect are the same- like they're using the same kind of machine to make them- but they have a big difference in the padding. They allow a much bigger capacity. Maybe a ton of sap, or something.

I feel like my little may have been insecure at the beginning of our relationship. How long have you guys been together? Other than telling him how you love it, what you love about it, and how it makes you feel... there's not much you can do. I mean, it sounds great that you guys are okay with breaking from it if it ever gets stale- that's probably a good thing, and no relationship should be centered around it. You could ask him why he thinks you'd ever get bored of it? A good, deep talk might help you both understand each other's side of it.

The Attends 6-tape with an Abena Abri-Let Anatomic booster. Makes any lame diaper fun! and less padding in the butt than the Maxi!

Interesting to see that people believe the Bambinos hold more. I will have to test myself.... Maybe on my next off day, Turkey Day? For science!

I'm on the other end of the spectrum. My LG hates them- doesn't even 'want to be punished'. It's okay with me- I like a well-behaved AB Sometimes it will be a punishment of a super thick diaper, on a rare occasion- standing in the corner. I'd be okay if she tempted me more often to punish her, but I wouldn't try to force her into a more strict relationship I think she loves a softie daddy figure, and I love a sweetheart <3

Yea, I think you can go with a J&J product for one of the last ones- they might just be more per bottle in the Remedy products... I've never tried one (tough skin)

I tried this last week. Was seriously SO HEAVY. Wasn't even fun for me How the heck do you hide a diaper this big from co-workers?

Just wondering what the plastic pants were for. Some members here use em for disposables, some for their intended use over cloth . Anyway! Back on track , I just realized I haven't written anything wishlist-y for Santa for myself! I would love to try a few of thediaper brands that I haven't yet. I'm always kinda one-tracked, and just stick to what I know. I'd love to see a pack of Eurobriefs, Tenas, the Blue diapers- ahhh I forgot the name!... heck even some of the brands I've forgotten about, like Bambino Biancos or Molicare supers . Maybe I'll get stuck on cloth after these plastic pants come in, and have to make a whole new wishlist!

Hey now, I'm sure you do a great job. There's a ton of 'switches' whom can still 'hold the title' of caring for their littles. Don't let the whole title thing mess with your head- everyone has some sort of caring needed. It's a big part of the two-way street of a relationship. I suggest you have a talk with him, and be honest about what you want. Make sure you tell him you still want to be the caretaker, but that sometimes you want the roles changed- whether for stress relief or for simple variety, let him know why. Be specific. Perhaps if everything goes well, you should find a cue item that lets him know you want to be pampered . Like a teddy, or a certain toy. The only thing I could see causing a rift in this hypothetical is if he was deep into 'baby mode' and you wanted to switch roles? Maybe after he's been "relieved"? Make sure he gets his, both sexual and nurturing before you start asking for a change . Although it goes back to honestly. Talk it out with him when you both aren't in your roles, see how he feels about it. Now, for me. I won't ever be a baby. But I love wearing, and I love caring . She's never had a problem seeing me as the controlling figure with a (usually covered) diaper bulge. In a story-setting, would it make sense for the one doing all the caring to have a diaper, too? Probably not, but we're both okay with it. All that being said, there are some times where she has to care for me. Whether it's making dinner, cuddling me in bed, massages, ect. Sure, it's not diaper changes or story time... but it's sure a caring role, and I appreciate it (and can tell it's done because I'm appreciated ) There will always be some nurturing that I want (even though not babyish) that comes from my little . So, in short- tell him what you want, make sure to keep it light- don't give him an ultimatum. Find out if it's okay, and report back

..and mine some pink trainers from Baby-Pants . Worth checking out for a present, DryNot Jeff, keep going. Might actually use some of them!

Hey! I just got a pair ordered too. Mine were from AdultClothDiaper (was cheaper, especially on shipping). I have a couple cloth nappies that I've never tried- so I'm super curious and ready to see if I like them! You get yours just to use for disposables for now? More 'wishlist-y' please

I was gonna wait until after Thanksgiving, but you can just group me in with all those companies all too early! So, here's the deal. You can post what you want, what you're getting your little, what you're getting a friend (even non-ABDLs), whatever you want to. It's a wishlist- I'm sure we all used to ask for crazy things . Obviously the focus is on ABDLs, cause that what most of us are (whom post here). It can even extend into a fantasy 'If I had a Mommy, I'd make her get me THIS'. The idea here (at least initially) is to generate ideas for others, and talk/gossip about those great gifts we want. Especially those who are horrible at gift ideas for others (this guy!). BE CAREFUL if you have contacts who lurk here (I do). You can still keep it vague and interesting! I will be getting her some small gifts. She loves My Little Pony, Elmo, Disney toys/figurines. I know she loves storytime- so many some good storybooks, too. if you have any ideas for what she, or you might like in this vein, feel free to offer! But she'll also be getting some adult stuff. Still thinking of what would be ideal gifts for her... grr I suck at gifts! Maybe a sentimental gift or two, something special. Maybe a song, maybe a poem... more flowers, perhaps? So, c'mon... list what you are gonna ask for, what you would ideally like, what you're getting someone special, whatever you want! :

I understand the aggressiveness is because of her telling you it's not real, and in a sense I understand your anger. You spilled a lot on here, and you've been through a lot in a few days.... But I think it'd also be good to answer a few of her questions. Not to 'prove anyone wrong' about it being non-fiction- but simply because it may lead to a few users on here being more careful, and perhaps not getting into a situation you did. Aside from this being a help thread for you, it can be an awareness lesson for others. What exactly did you put in your message/profile that allowed you to be easily identified? I've browsed fetlife before, and it seems more open than say, DiaperSpace (where I found someone special with a personal photo)- so I'm guessing a face picture? Also, I gotta know- what were her interests? Not to use to blackmail, ect... I just gotta know!

Is this the same as the air-plus? Not that it's needed now- but I was wondering how the cloth-backing held up. Currently in a soaked M3, bout to jump in the shower and start my 2nd job though