Well I got them today. I love the feel but the look is a little weird, I like the square padding not the round. I'm not incontinant and don't wish to be (nothing against people that are) so they are a little too wide for me in the crotch area, I just wear for fun, it's mostly sexual for me. They are real thin comming out and putting on but they bulk up in the back so discreetness goes out the window, but I only wear at home behind closed doors anyways. However, I have worn at my wife's parents house before but with a baby diaper folded in half and just in front (I like wearing this way as well). I have baught attends before, they are great, as far as the feel, but way too big, these abenas fit just fine. Over all I like them, but I think I'll try bambinos next.