Why does my son or daughter wear
diapers?
A difficult question to
give a complete answer to. It could be a sexual interest
(fetish), or it could just be something that provides them with
a sense or comfort and security they crave. It could even just
be a "fun" activity for them to experiment with. The important
thing to know is that wearing diapers has nothing to do with
one's sexuality (doesn't mean they are gay, or 'into' kids) nor
does it mean they are mentally ill. The best thing to do is to
talk to your child - from a place of love with the aim of
understanding them.
Important questions to ask:
There is a small chance that regressing can be the
result of trauma or abuse, and you should of course gently ask
about this to ensure your child's health and safety. You should
also ask if they are experiencing uncontrolled wetting that may
need to be checked by a doctor. Are they wearing diapers to hide
bedwetting? While diapers can be a useful tool to manage
bedwetting, they should be employed only after an evaluation by
a doctor to rule out any serious health concerns.
Aside
from their health and safety, you can ask them WHY they like
wearing diapers. But understand that some adult diaper lovers
don't know where their interest in diapers or regression came
from, so be understanding if "I just do" is the most they can
say! Avoid calling their interest "weird" "strange" or
"perverted." It is none of these things. While it is certainly
not "normal" it's not as unusual as you think, and it's really
not that different from other quirks (such as a guy wearing
girls undergarments; or a tomboy preferring more manly
clothing.) It's something that makes your child unique, but not
a freak.
Don't do it!
Don't try
to put a blanket-ban on diapers. Forcing someone to repress this
part of themselves can lead to depression or acting out and
could drive your child to risky behavior to obtain what they
need to feel comfortable in their own skin. If you are
uncomfortable with this "diaper thing" it's okay to ask them to
keep diapers out of your sight by only wearing them in the
privacy of their bedroom and disposing of them immediately after
taking them off so you don't stumble on a wet diaper in his or
her room. Diapers can be a passing phase they need to
work through; don't turn it into an obsession by trying to push
back to hard on an activity that isn't hurting them.
But also know that diapers are often a life-long interest, So
don't be surprised if they seem to outgrow the interest, only
for it to return later.
But don't get too involved in it
either! Diapers, like any underwear, should be a private thing.
Don't wear one to see how it feels (or at least don't let your
kid know you did) and don't buy them baby things you think they
might like. If a child needs help paying for diapers, that
should be accomplished through an increase in their allowance -
exchange for additional chores or responsibilities. Diapers are
a luxury item and should be a choice they make, over spending
the money on other things. The exception of course is if there
are medical reasons for wearing, such as bedwetting. Then you
could provide the diapers in a quantity suitable for the medical
need (i.e.: one a night for bedwetting.)
Don't tell
family or friends. This is a secret for your child, and a source
of much embarrassment if you blab. Even if you are just trying
to seek support or advice by telling a close friend or family
member, it can do harm to your relationship with your child if
they find out; especially if they hear a "joking" comment from
one of those adults such as "Hey diaper boy" or "How's the baby
doing?" If you need to talk to someone, talk to a counselor with
experience in parent-child relationships.
Further
Reading:
Understanding
Infantilism is considered by more diaper lovers to be the
definitive guide to all things diapers. Far more in-depth than I
can provide here; and written from many perspectives by adults
who have asked themselves all the questions you and your child
have thought about.
So,
your teenager is wearing diapers! is an eBook on Amazon
that's written in a conversational style and is an easy read at
58 pages.
Write to Me!
I'm no expert
by any means, but I have worn diapers for over 25 years and have
managed this community with thousands of members for over 15!
I'll help answer your questions and concerns if I can, or direct
you to someone better! You can reach me at
allaboutdiapers@hotmail.com
