Question About Potential Content

[underwhere]

This seems like a really wonderful community. I actually found this place because I went searching for a place I could explore this side of myself without too much in the way of badgering as regards the content of things I want to post about my explorations. So far, I've put up a single blog entry describing some very recent thoughts I've had about this aspect of myself. As is often the case, I found it helpful to write it for myself, and I hope others learn a bit about me by reading it. However, this also leads directly to my question.

I was first a member of another web site which has helped me explore my S&M needs and desires which appear to be a bit astray from the more usual aspects of that scene. I feel like I've so far made some good progress there, but I was also chastised on that web site by the site administrator for posting content which was "not permitted", basically, a poem I had written in my blog about myself making rather explicit references to "my inner child" and some of what I am feeling and needing about that. Ultimately, my poem was removed from my blog there by the site administrator, not once but twice, the second time even after I had specifically clarified in a footnote my actual intent of subject matter and specific meaning as to what I was writing about. I'd like to post that poem here in my blog, but before doing so, I want to be sure that there wouldn't be any objections (specifically, TOS or otherwise) with doing so. Some of the imagery I've used in the poem is a bit graphic and, I suppose, some might construe as even potentially pornographic with references to a child, but as I said, the real point of this poem is that the "child" being described is my "inner child", not a "real child", a point which I believe I made very clear in the poem itself, and which I made even more clear in the footnote I attempted to attach to it the second time around on that other web site. (I can recreate the footnote in its basic form as I did not save that from the other site before it was deleted.)

What is the sense, from the site administrator and moderators here, as to whether or not this type of content would be welcome here? If it means anything, I've chosen to keep my blog private to the dailydiapers community members only, something which I may alter on a moment-by-moment basis if I wish to share something with somebody who is not a member of this site but which I would normally not change. (I did that tonight, actually, to share my first blog entry with my M'am from that other web site, and have since changed it back.) Given the description of the type of content and the safeguards I have chosen to utilize against potentially prying eyes, would it be okay for me to post a poem like the one I have described in my blog here?

[underwhere]

Would it be safe to assume, because there has been no response to my inquiry yet, that there would be no problem with this type of thing being posted in my blog? I REALLY don't want to assume, because you know what they say about assuming......Can anybody from the dailydiapers staff or moderators let me know here if it would be okay to post something like I've described in my blog? I'm willing to share privately if its a matter of "I'll know it when I see it" before I post it to my blog. Can I get some guidance here please?

[Momma Rosie]

Just do not reference or imply anyone is underage in your posts and your fine. No children, at all.

[Sunshine2585]

Pink Nappies has broken some rules then. Why did she have to involve kids in her stories.

Her story "My Best Friends House, House sitting with added cute!" Mentions underage ages a few times at the beginning.

I think Rosie's post was referring to underwhere talking about wanting to talk about S+M. So she didn't want underwhere to talk about S+M involving children.

There are lots of stories in the story forum that involve children. Any that involve S+M with children would be reported by someone.

[D_Rainger]

First I want to commend you, underwhere, for taking the initiative to ask first before posting something. That's a very mautre and responsible thing to do.

This is a question I wrestle with. I find plenty of subject matter in the books I read from the public library that involve children. Many of them are children's or young adult's publications that recount sexual abuse or family violence. The key, I suppose, is the amount of graphic description. I write stories about children. I try to temper my descriptions so that they won't be offensive but still hold their entertainment value. I have tried to police myself and have pulled stories from time to time that may have crossed that line. "My Cousin Marie" is a story about underage love between two young people. When I write or read other's writings I find that if something is too graphic it can become simply disgusting and lose any literary value whatsoever.

Graphic descriptions of sadomasochism involving children, even if referring cryptically to yourself are probably not appropriate anywhere but in your own private collection.

With that said, if anyone finds my stories inappropriate please let me know and I will edit or pull my post.

Thanks,

-D R

[underwhere]

First I want to commend you, underwhere, for taking the initiative to ask first before posting something. That's a very mautre and responsible thing to do.

Thank you. Part of that is in lessons learned elsewhere. Like I wrote in my initial message on this thread, the post was removed from the other web site I had tried to post it to (and twice at that as the first time it was for reasons beyond my understanding of the original explanation). I was actually quite bitter about it at the time, and frankly still am a bit as I felt the piece was very important to me personally as well as to others wishing to understand a bit about my perspective and approach to the topic.

This is a question I wrestle with. I find plenty of subject matter in the books I read from the public library that involve children. Many of them are children's or young adult's publications that recount sexual abuse or family violence. The key, I suppose, is the amount of graphic description. I write stories about children. I try to temper my descriptions so that they won't be offensive but still hold their entertainment value. I have tried to police myself and have pulled stories from time to time that may have crossed that line. "My Cousin Marie" is a story about underage love between two young people. When I write or read other's writings I find that if something is too graphic it can become simply disgusting and lose any literary value whatsoever.

Perhaps, but as the old saying goes, "one person's garbage is another person's treasure." I've particularly enjoyed some of the things I've read online, for example, and so long as those things remain strictly in fantasy land, I can continue to enjoy them. I would, however, be quite appalled if I discovered that some of those stories were actually true. On the literary merits, though, I still think highly of such stories, and I even fantasize about myself as being one of the characters in some of those stories.

My question, however, was not about literary merits, as interesting as that topic can be, because I don't think everybody is going to agree precisely on what makes a piece a "good" literary work. Given the same piece, some will flame it while others will praise it.

Graphic descriptions of sadomasochism involving children, even if referring cryptically to yourself are probably not appropriate anywhere but in your own private collection.

That was sort of the sense I got from reading Rosy's remark, which is why I have hesitated to post it to my blog here. Still, the poem was very meaningful to me to write, and despite my issues with the other web site, ultimately, my sharing the poem privately allowed me to meet my M'am over there. I have shared the poem with several people from that site privately, and those that have read it indicated to me that it was quite clear to them that I was not writing about an actual child. Still, according to the site administrator on that site, the fact that I used rather specific visual imagery with reference to a child even if only referring to my personal inner child could get his credit card processing capabilities revoked. I understand it was strictly a business decision, but at the same time, part of coming to a community like that, and like this one too, is that one will have much more success socially by being open and honest about one's wants, needs and desires. If one can't share those things publicly, how can one expect to meet people who might be willing to share them privately?

Part of what makes dailydiapers a unique place is that we can discuss here topics which, in other places, are expressly forbidden. The other website, for example, has a policy explicitly forbidding anything at all related to any aspect of infantalism. So is it like the definition of obscenity, i.e., "I'll know it when I see it", or can we explicitly define criteria for what is acceptable and what is not? I want to be sure I understand the sense from the community here as to what those expectations are before I accidentally stumble upon them and cross the line.

So I guess the real question is this: how can people build a community like this and expect it to flourish if some people are unable to share important parts of themselves in ways that might be meaningful to them and to others in the community? (Perhaps this is a question better left to a completely different thread. Feel free to start one if you think it is worthwhile.)

With that said, if anyone finds my stories inappropriate please let me know and I will edit or pull my post.

Thanks,

-D R

Thank you for your input. It is much appreciated. I'm still undecided with this as I feel I need a little more information to make an appropriate decision here, but my sense is that I probably should not post my poem here. That leaves me and others to wrestle with my more theoretical questions.

underwhere