Humbling experiences

[longislandguy]

I'm approaching two years 24/7 and have had some moments that gave me pause.  So, I figured I'd check to see what humbling experiences we've had along this journey.  Not embarrassing, mind you, but humbling.  Times when you may have realized that...hmm...."that's ironic".  I had a few of those moments this week so I'll get the ball rolling.

1. Shopping for diapers in a store and wetting myself while doing it.

2. Having my standard wetting after getting out of bed.  Then while walking to the bathroom to take off my overnight, not realizing I was still wetting as I removed it.

3. I keep my off-season clothes in bins in the basement and change them out with clothing in the closet as the seasons change.  I did this yesterday, and realized that I never used to do this.  I only have to do this because one of the shelves in my closet now holds all of my extra diapers and supplies.

4. On Sunday, I didn't feel like shaving my face as I hate to do that on weekends.  But, I realized that I shaved my pubic hair basically every day to every other day while showering.  I shave my pubic hair more often than my face.  I never once shaved before this journey.

So, as I said.  Not embarrassing, just a "stop and think" moment.

[Enthusi]

1000% Relatable.  It’s a total mindscrew.  On one hand you (we) voluntarily made the choice to wear diapers 24/7, and I’m assuming you’re also an ABDL and derive some enjoyment from wearing diapers.    And then you start developing a legitimate physical need for diapers, and you realize just how much continence is ingrained in society.  You have to go to great lengths to adapt.  You have to spend thousands of dollars, worry about hygiene and supplies, discretion, and always having to take a f*cking diaper bag with you.  If you keep it up you’ll start feeling lost and confused about how everyone else can easily make it to the toilet on time.   It starts feeling like a disability, or at the very least a chronic condition to be managed.   But you kind of don’t mind because it’s still better than having to worry about staying dry.  So yeah,  mind screw indeed.  

[Little Sherri]

Yeah it’s funny, sometimes. “You play stupid games, you get stupid prizes” is something a friend of mine likes to say. In our case, here on the padded side of the tracks, that’s things like diaper rash, and worrying about leaks, and odours, and having a third of your luggage taken up by diapers, and wearing diapers through airport security, knowing that you’re going to get scrutinized. And buying clothes that help disguise the fact that you’re always in bulky underpants, and to avoid errant waistband peaks, etc. And, yes, the damned diaper bag, which you know, if you elected to go without it, you would end up needing. 
 

I was cursing my choices in February, when I flew to Europe for work, and, first of all, a lot of my luggage space was taken up by diapers. Then, I made a terrible decision to wear a pull-up to the airport, planning to change into a diaper I had in my laptop bag, after clearing the TSA. Well, after I’d already checked my bag, the damned pull-up leaked, and quite badly, too. Plus, it also still got noticed in the scanner. I ended up drying my pants in the bathroom, as best I could, with paper towels, and resigning myself to being slightly damp, and concerned about smelling like wee, for the next 10 hours or so, until I could be reunited with my luggage. Then, the hotels I stayed in universally had tiny trash cans in the rooms, and the only public receptacles were in the lobby, so I had to take my diapers with me and toss them in a street bin in my travels. 
 

But, we do this for a reason. Or, reasons. They may not sound logical to outsiders, but, we understand them, or at least, we abide by them, and life would have less colour to it (as would our underpants…) if we didn’t stay on this strange road. He says as he weighs out which diaper to put on after cutting the lawn - I could go with an overnight, super diaper that would last me until tomorrow morning, but I have to drive my daughter and her friend over to her friend’s house, and it’s warm enough for shorts, and do I want to be in shorts and a t-shirt over an oversized diaper, if I end up meeting her parents? But it’s a bit warm for a sweatshirt or jacket. Long golf shirt? And hope I can say hi from inside the car? Maybe. Or I sacrifice a “burner” diaper, an ATN or Tena, and go be social, and put a bedtime diaper on when I’m home for the night. My wife makes fun of me for the mental gymnastics I sometimes engage in, thinking through these scenarios. Or, she thinks I’m debating what print I want to wear, and says, “For God’s sake, just choose a diaper, and let’s go. It’s not a fashion show.” Meanwhile, I am running an algorithm in my head, thinking through what I might need to do or might run into in my travels, and what diaper would be the best match to those possibilities. You guys understand; she doesn’t! 

[Enthusi]

1 hour ago, Little Sherri said:

Meanwhile, I am running an algorithm in my head, thinking through what I might need to do or might run into in my travels, and what diaper would be the best match to those possibilities. You guys understand; she doesn’t! 

I’m soooo glad to know I’m not the only one who does this.  It’s a balancing act.  You change too much or use too absorbent of a diaper, and it’s wasteful and expensive.  You skimp out and it’s a recipe for disaster.   Plus, when your bladder doesn’t behave properly it’s even more variability. 

[Hannah YMS]

I am on the lame aspect of this spectrum, even after all these years of untraining. All I have to truly deal with is Post Void Dribble and the occasional sleep wetting after a long night of drinking. I don't have too many humbling experiences as I don't yet have a "legitimate need" to wear diapers in general. It's hard to accept that I definitely have a psychological need for diapers, but that doesn't seem to fly in the face of actual incontinence, so I pretend that I need them and that is that.

In general, no one knows I wear diapers except for my wife. And my wife demands I wear all the time. So I'm caught between a rock and a hard place. Please the wife? Yes! Do I technically need them? Debatable. Some might say yes, others say no. At this point, I'm so far gone that it's out of my hands anyway. 😆

[DAQ]

On 5/20/2025 at 6:24 AM, Hannah YMS said:

In general, no one knows I wear diapers except for my wife.

Hmmmm. I find that hard to believe.....

[carsfan]

2 hours ago, DAQ said:

Hmmmm. I find that hard to believe.....

Why?

[Stroller]

On 5/19/2025 at 11:14 AM, longislandguy said:

I keep my off-season clothes in bins in the basement and change them out with clothing in the closet as the seasons change.  I did this yesterday, and realized that I never used to do this.

So it's not just me then?  We've got new wardrobes arriving tomorrow, so maybe I'll fit my summer and winter clothes in my side.  And my AB clothes too I hope.  Mind you, we've got to build them from flatpack first.  Bet they still won't all fit.

Planning for holidays is more complicated these days too.  If it's just a day or two I can wear washables, but even then I've got to work out how to get all my nappies washed and dried before going away.  Ir usually involved a couple of days in disposables before we leave.  If we're away for more than a couple of days I have to switch to disposables a couple of days before, for the same reason - can't leave used cloth nappies hanging around for days.  And how many nappies do I need for a week away?  Vanilla or AB nappies?  What's the risk of friend or family looking in my bag?  If vanilla nappies are found, I can fall back on having incontinence issues (I haven't had to play that card yet though).  I used to take far too many nappies when I went away, but now I just take two per day, with a soaker for each, plus 2 or 3 extra just in case.

And, how an I going to dispose of used nappies while we're away?  I have to say it's a lot easier having a partner who is in the loop, but we've still got to find public waste bins big enough for adult-sized nappies.  Sometimes that worries me a bit, but it always works out in the end.  Putting it in perspective, it's a lot less stressful than worrying about finding a working public electric car charger...

And last night I went to kiss my wife goodnight on my way upstairs to bed.  As I kissed her I realised I was actually wetting at the same time...

[CuriousForPadding]

On 5/19/2025 at 5:14 AM, longislandguy said:

3. I keep my off-season clothes in bins in the basement and change them out with clothing in the closet as the seasons change.  I did this yesterday, and realized that I never used to do this.  I only have to do this because one of the shelves in my closet now holds all of my extra diapers and supplies.

Ha, this one just hit me recently! I just finished a project building some shelves into my closet to hold my diapers and related supplies. Had to move out a good part of my wardrobe to do it, which ended up being put in bins to keep in the basement. But diaper storage is becoming a necessary priority, and it’s great seeing them so nicely organized now.

 

On 5/19/2025 at 4:46 PM, Little Sherri said:

having a third of your luggage taken

 

On 5/19/2025 at 6:16 PM, Enthusi said:

I’m soooo glad to know I’m not the only one who does this.  It’s a balancing act.

These are me, too. I travel a fair bit for work, and planning diapers capacity around meetings and flights can get intense! I recently hit a flight snafu that forced me stay in a hotel for two unexpected nights at the end of my trip - and hence, the end of my planned diaper supply. I don’t actually *need* them - I haven’t even hit a year of 24/7 and don’t really have serious continence issues, but I don’t feel comfortable in anything else at this point, and didn’t want to go commando. So I managed to sort out an Amazon next-day delivery, but I’m now a twitch nervous about my next trip!

[longislandguy]

24 minutes ago, CuriousForPadding said:

Ha, this one just hit me recently! I just finished a project building some shelves into my closet to hold my diapers and related supplies. Had to move out a good part of my wardrobe to do it, which ended up being put in bins to keep in the basement. But diaper storage is becoming a necessary priority, and it’s great seeing them so nicely organized now.

 

 

These are me, too. I travel a fair bit for work, and planning diapers capacity around meetings and flights can get intense! I recently hit a flight snafu that forced me stay in a hotel for two unexpected nights at the end of my trip - and hence, the end of my planned diaper supply. I don’t actually *need* them - I haven’t even hit a year of 24/7 and don’t really have serious continence issues, but I don’t feel comfortable in anything else at this point, and didn’t want to go commando. So I managed to sort out an Amazon next-day delivery, but I’m now a twitch nervous about my next trip!

Congrats on one year!

[longislandguy]

Another one today.  I woke up, wet as usual, hung around for a while, and decided to mess.  Of course, I went into my 24/7 journey swearing I would never mess, but on occasion, I just don't want to sit on the toilet.  Anyway, as I was using wipes to clean myself, I looked down and realized I was casually dribbling on the bathroom floor.  I guess the wiping motion loosened things up a bit more than they already are.  Humbling.

[AngelO]

I use these bags for travel to organize my diapers: https://amzn.to/3FLRjY4

I have three diapers in it. A strong night diaper, Megamax and two Tena Slip Active Fit Maxi. I have a bag for every day of travel. And for extras there is always a bag with day diapers, as a reserve.

In this way I can organize my travel diapers well and take them "hidden" out of the suitcase. So my discretion is maintained when traveling.

 

 

[deewet]

I am finding that as I prepare for overnight, going to the bathroom one last time, removing my typically soaked day pad and getting the diaper paste  on my behind, going into the bedroom to settle into my overnight diaper package, I am finding that I am dribbling many times on the floor in-between the use of the diaper rash cream and clean up of my hands, and getting onto my overnight protection.  I have resorted to keeping my panties on my knees for this process after the removal of my pad, to avoid the clean up of the dribbles.  My wife has not noticed this yet or said anything, but if she does, I may resort to having her help with this process, keeping me on the bed over my diaper?  Not sure she well be to thrilled about putting the rash cream on me or the clean up of her hands after-maybe some latex gloves will be in order??

[Jay8787]

A few of mine: 

• Getting up from my couch and seeing a huge wet spot I was totally unaware of making. 
• Peeing all over my bathroom vanity after getting out of the shower. 
• How easy it was to start using my diaper for #2. 

[justforfun]

A recent event... I was flying to the East coast on a red eye, so as is normal for me I wore a good diaper (Megamax) and a onesie under jeans and an un-tucked button-down shirt, had a gin and tonic or two, and passed out for the 5 hour flight.  As also is normal for me, I woke up quite wet as we were landing.

The humbling part came during the layover.  I had a fairly tight connection, I needed to pee, I had a pretty well-used diaper on... and it must have been National Spicy Burrito night the night before, because all of the men's restrooms I passed had lines for the stalls.  So, not only was I going to not have a some-what isolated place to change, I was going to have wait, and then have an audience of people staring at my stall, wondering what I was doing and probably catching glimpses through the huge gaps in the doors.  And, of course, the bathrooms all seemed silent, with only an occasional "whoosh" to mask any sounds, so the Megamax tape sounds would, I imagined, remove any doubt was to what was happening.  I might as well have just stood out in the open.

Between the need to pee, and the reality of likely falling asleep and wetting again on the next flight,  I was trying to convince myself that I was just going to have to bite the bullet and deal with the public nature of changing a wet diaper with an audience.  I am in no way an exhibitionist, and I have no 'exposure kink' or anything of the sort that might have made it at least a little exciting for some folks.  I was not looking forward to it, but I didn't have a choice.

Some sort of benevolent entity smiled on me, through, and I was trying to gather my courage to enter the last bathroom before my gate, with 5 minutes before boarding began, a man exited the family bathroom.  I quickly stepped in, and heaved a sigh of relief.  A minute later the wet diaper was in the bin, a clean one was taped on, and I was back together and ready to board.

 

[Hannah YMS]

On 5/27/2025 at 3:11 PM, carsfan said:

Why?

I guess @DAQ is right, I forget that nearly all my friends know I wear diapers and some close family knows as well. But in general, like in public or at work, no one knows  

[joakim_]

Been wearing some kind of protection now for almost 1,5 years. One of the reasons for it was a starting post micturition dribble. So here is the "fun" part. Ive had some issues with my back lately, and was having a follow up session with my chiropractor. Previously Ive just changed out of my work pull ups and into a boxer with tena men guard, as I am not comfortable enough to wear at doctors etc. But this time I had forgotten to bring one for work, so only a normal boxer. Well, I had to use the restroom before the my appointment and since its summer I had a beige shorts on. I learned the hard way that I am still having the dribble issue, because shortly after I was done, there was a wet spot on the shorts it self, with the diameter of roughly 2-3 cms. "awsome"! Luckly enough since the appointment was 30 minutes away it managed to dry up and I had a sweather that was long enough to cover the part that was wet more or less while heading to the place inside a shopping center. But learned my lesson. Never forget some kind of protection! 

[scaifester]

I travel a lot for work and I always change my diaper in the airplane bathroom when I land. Sometimes I can change in the airport lounge which is private. Other times its the public airport bathroom. I still try to find a bathroom away from the crowds to change. And after tearing the tapes and changing my diaper, I still get experienced when I walk out and there is a line - certainly they could all hear the tapes. I am still too embarassed and humiliated to look at them. I promptly throw away the diaper, wash my hands and walk quickly out the bathroom. 

[longislandguy]

Almost at my two year anniversary, and was thinking that maybe I should take a bit of a break.  Try going back.  This presented two problems.

1. I would need to purchase new underwear as I got rid of mine when I went 24/7.

2. I literally don't know how I would function.  I've become so used to just wetting whenever and wherever I needed.  ( I guess without a diaper it is called peeing).  The thought that I could not do that anymore is actually a bit nerve-wracking.  What would I do if I needed to go in the car?  In a store?  Would I still wet the bed anyway?

So I said eff it and decided to place another megamax order of a case of diapers, a case of pullups, wipes, and bags.  This both made me realize that I don't know how I would ever, if I chose, get out of diapers for one, and made me think about where I'm storing these diapers I really didn't need number two.  According to diapstash, I will now have 50 pullups and 138 megamax.  That's in addition to the three packs of abena I currently have and the case my subscription will be delivering this week.  I truly don't quite know where I am going to put them all.....never even a thought two years ago.

humbling.

[longislandguy]

Said a quote today that I would have never thought to say ever.  I was wondering if when I'm coming home from being out if I should hit the restroom.  Decided against it, saying to myself, I'll just pee in the car.  Humbling.

[Guest]

I always pay my rent in 2 parts to my roommate so I have a good idea of how much money I have to play with after bills. After paying December's rent I thought I had extra money left over for Christmas gifts . After all, I just bought a bunch of food, cat food and cat litter so I was good on all that until at least New Year's. "Oh wait I should check my diaper stash". Yeeeeahhh turns out I only had enough of my "daily drivers" to get me through a workweek. If I tried to make them last until my next paycheck I'd end up dipping into my stash of d-tier diapers (Mckessons, goodnites, attends.)

That was 2 days ago, and I now have 100 diapers out for delivery to my house (carewell is amazing for delivery speed).

Its humbling to think about how normal this has all become over the past 16 months of being 24/7. I type the first few letters of my chosen site's name and just like that I'm ordering my diapers. If I look on my porch and there's a huge cardboard box, I know that my diapers are here. I should always have at least 100 dollars put aside to make sure that I don't run out if I suddenly lose my income. Young me would be so over the moon that I've made diapers non-negotiable in my life. 

[Badbunny]

Had a humbling reminder of my diaper today at in the form of a small leak.  Did my best to avoid anyone till it dried. Hopefully none of my co-workers noticed the wet spot

[longislandguy]

Well, another at two and a half years in.  Woke up, went to change out of my wet night diaper, undid the tapes and started wetting, which is normal for me...I always wet at the sound of tapes ripping.  Finished and undid my diaper only to realize I was, in fact, not done wetting and there was still a stream flowing.  Completely unaware that I was still actively peeing.  Good thing I saw that I was still peeing before I completely removed the diaper.  Humbling.

[keyman419]

8 hours ago, longislandguy said:

Finished and undid my diaper only to realize I was, in fact, not done wetting and there was still a stream flowing.  Completely unaware that I was still actively peeing.

It's really cool that you have no real feeling of a stream flowing.

[longislandguy]

6 hours ago, keyman419 said:

It's really cool that you have no real feeling of a stream flowing.

Well, I mean, I can feel it start, but not entirely sure when it's done.  I guess it's a step in the right direction