Getting Surgery in Mexico

[longislandguy]

On 10/17/2025 at 3:05 PM, Reddy said:

Oh yeah, good question.  When I jerk off there is leaking.  It's always wet, either because 1) I'm feeling inside my diaper, which is already wet or 2) If my diaper is off, pee leaks when I am doing it.  When I orgasm, I never have any cum anymore, but instead I squirt pee.  One time it hit me in the face.  It's kinda funny, and what I like is it feels exactly the same as regular orgasm, to truly have that pumping amd squirting feeling.  That was gone for a while after surgery, but all the same feelings happen again now, just with pee instead of cum.

You are my dream!!! 

[Reddy]

On 10/19/2025 at 9:18 PM, Dribbler247 said:

Reddy, It might be an interesting experiment to see just how much urine the bladder is holding in the morning when it feels full. I expect as the years go by your bladder will shrink as it's a muscle you can't use any more.

Yeah I would be interested to know.  For now it seems like it wouldn't shrink since it fills up overnight.

On 10/17/2025 at 4:16 PM, foreverdl said:

I think you may have some fun with pee play thats a good stream with cum pee mix to go as high as your face. I am one that loves pee play you may have yet another avenue to play with..

I think you are right

On 10/18/2025 at 2:35 AM, rick50 said:

When you have inserted an indwelling catheter do you still feel the resistance and slight discomfort as the catheter passes through the prostate and penetrates the bladder? Is there any sensation and resistance or does your catheter just slide straight into the bladder? How much remains of your prostate and bladder sphincter?

I haven't put in a catheter for over a year so I am not sure.  But I think it would have a lot of resistance due to tightness at my stricture.  I think most of my prostate is gone and all of my sphincters gone.

On 10/19/2025 at 9:23 PM, longislandguy said:

You are my dream!!! 

😁😁😁

[rick50]

4 hours ago, Reddy said:

Yeah I would be interested to know.  For now it seems like it wouldn't shrink since it fills up overnight.

I think you are right

I haven't put in a catheter for over a year so I am not sure.  But I think it would have a lot of resistance due to tightness at my stricture.  I think most of my prostate is gone and all of my sphincters gone.

😁😁😁

Good that they have removed most of you prostate speaking as someone who has issues with enlarged prostate. It would be interesting if you had a flexible cystoscopy to see exactly what if anything remains of your prostate and bladder sphincter

[Reddy]

19 hours ago, rick50 said:

Good that they have removed most of you prostate speaking as someone who has issues with enlarged prostate. It would be interesting if you had a flexible cystoscopy to see exactly what if anything remains of your prostate and bladder sphincter

I had one last year and it showed everything removed, maybe it looks the same but I'm not sure if they would do another scope

[longislandguy]

Wow. I didn’t know that the procedure also totally removed your prostate. 

[Diapered Dave]

48 minutes ago, longislandguy said:

Wow. I didn’t know that the procedure also totally removed your prostate. 

It sounds like they carve it out from the inside. Probably a bonus as a guy gets older, less or no chance of getting prostate cancer!  "New improved Prostate surgery.. For the man who WANTS to be diaper - dependent for life!" Now if we could convince insurance to cover it as a "Preventative Procedure"..... 🙄 

   

[rick50]

Over here in UK I've heard that prophylactic prostate removal might be considered for those at very high risk of prostate cancer

[Reddy]

On 10/23/2025 at 9:51 PM, longislandguy said:

Wow. I didn’t know that the procedure also totally removed your prostate. 

It's not totally removed but mostly removed yeap

[Reddy]

I don't have a lot of other updates other than my libido has been really high and I also really want the bowel incontinence still

[DaveeBEd]

Hi Reddy

I suggest you think long and hard before getting bowel incontinence surgery. After a long journey I believe I achieved genuine dual incontinence c3 years ago. Overall I don't regret it but there are times when BM incontinence is a real pain and embarrassing, so it isn't for everyone. Do take your time and I'm very happy to share some of the more awkward moments if it helps with your decision.

[Goerge]

2 hours ago, DaveeBEd said:

Hi Reddy

I suggest you think long and hard before getting bowel incontinence surgery. After a long journey I believe I achieved genuine dual incontinence c3 years ago. Overall I don't regret it but there are times when BM incontinence is a real pain and embarrassing, so it isn't for everyone. Do take your time and I'm very happy to share some of the more awkward moments if it helps with your decision.

I would like to hear the awkward moments please. I'm training to be double incontinent, messing can be embarrassing but I can mange it okay.

[DaveeBEd]

Hi Goerge

Where do I start! I've always suffered with mild IBS with the occasional flare up, but was never caught out before in reaching a potty but there would be the odd day where I had to go 4 or 5 times at relatively short notice. 

Now that I'm incontinent in that area, I probably don't have any more days where my IBS flares up, typically one or two each month, but on those days I will have 4 or 5 BMs will literally no notice, they will just explode out filling my diaper and occasionally bursting over the top of my plastic pants. When this happens in public it is super embarrassing, thankfully that is very rare as I usually know on waking if its going to be one of those days.

Airport security can also be a pain as can long train journeys when I have a BM. Even when I don't have an IBS day now I get almost zero notice, but thankfully it usually just oozes out.

Also I get acute stress incontinence if I bend down too quickly or lift up any shopping etc to put in the car, I will have a small BM. I have also soiled the bed on more than one occasion ( a lot worse than leaking on it).

The plus side is in terms of urine incontinence as I now feel I have zero control there is a continual drip that I am unaware of. It's often only when I get up after a long session at my desk or on the sofa watching tv that I become aware of how heavy my diaper is, so I very rarely leak in that department. I occasionally have a leakage at night if I've been too lazy to change before going to bed, usually after having a few drinks, but those occasions are rare.

I personally have no regrets, it was my choice and I had various false starts before genuinely committing to 24/7 but it isn't all upside.

I wish you the very best of luck if you do commit. I personally did not see the point in aiming for incontinence with pee and then pooing in a potty, but it isn't always easy.

 

 

 

 

[Dribbler247]

On 10/23/2025 at 1:11 PM, Reddy said:

Yeah I would be interested to know.  For now it seems like it wouldn't shrink since it fills up overnight.

It might be worth checking if you can. If it were me, I’d keep a flask by the bed, and once a week – or whenever I woke up really bursting – I’d let it all drain into the flask and note the volume. Obviously the most your bladder is ever stretched now is during sleep. Even then it can leak, from what you’ve said. You’d have to assume that it would shrink with time. It would be kind-of fun to see your capacity drop as the years went by. I suppose the wetness of your morning diaper is the main giveaway in any case.

[hvb22]

On 11/10/2025 at 5:11 AM, Dribbler247 said:

It might be worth checking if you can. If it were me, I’d keep a flask by the bed, and once a week – or whenever I woke up really bursting – I’d let it all drain into the flask and note the volume. Obviously the most your bladder is ever stretched now is during sleep. Even then it can leak, from what you’ve said. You’d have to assume that it would shrink with time. It would be kind-of fun to see your capacity drop as the years went by. I suppose the wetness of your morning diaper is the main giveaway in any case.

 

Is there a benefit to knowing / tracking the bladder capacity? Or mostly academic interest? I guess a more accurate measurement could be obtained by using a penis clamp during the day and waiting until the bladder is really full, rather than when getting up in the moning.

Is there a way to reduce the size of the bladder during surgery? Would be great to have everything dribble out immediately, rather than the retention and release of a large amount of urine Reddy describes.

[DaveeBEd]

I don't quite understand your post about waking up bursting and then trying to measure bladder capacity.  I can't remember the last time I felt I needed to pee or experienced the feeling I was about to burst. My bladder simply releases an almost constant drip. The only time I get anything akin to a feeling of bursting is if I actually try to stop that drip. I occasionally do this with the front of my diaper open when I can stop the drip for a few seconds then as soon as I have to relax I will experience a small dribble before the drip every few seconds returns. 

[kincaid]

@Reddy I already had a TURP done in 2005. But due to huge amounts of scar tissue I needed repeated surgery.

This went on until I was sick of it and switched hospitals but that one , even though it was highly reputed, made things worse.

So I went back to my old one in 2020 told him how messed up I was (blocked, cath'ed etc) and that the other hospital wanted to perform the mitroffanoff procedure on me (they create a bypass of the bladder neck to the belly button by using part of the lower intestines, 66% chance of additional procedures required, in short: hell) and he said I could come one week after the call for surgery.

As a doctor they're conservative so only a small piece of each was removed. The result was wonderful but the peace was not lasting, it was all grown back together 4 months later, so by the end of 2020 I got another surgery, this time a bigger part. Was better but in spring 2021 urine test came back with serious infection, so the bacteria I have been carrying for 15 years was still able to colonize.

Then I asked him to remove every last bit and shave it into a clean tunnel so those nasty little buggers would be flushed out. He liked this idea, even if it would cause complete urinary incontinence instead of the current partial one.

now 4 years later I'm still as leaky as a bucket and have zero regrets. All through official channels, no mexico needed and all paid by health insurance.

The good thing is that I leak in very small amounts , as soon as the kidneys produce something, so it's hard to flood a diaper, unless I'm sitting on a chair, then it's clenched and when I stand up the floodgates are open

The thing is, you gotta know how to tell your story to get things the way you want it, and one day you get it

[BrownBobby]

Ooooh!  Bladder capacity! I have a fun story about this!

Recently, my stricture started making it so I held my pee at night if I was lying down. So cue waking up with a aching bladder, enough where I'm waking up in pain.  I squeeze myself like a toddler and grab a mason jar to measure it, out of curiosity. Feeling like I'm about to burst, I finally relieve myself.

150mL.

After all of this time being made into a dribbler...my bladder has shrunk to a literal toddler's bladder. And this is coming from someone who used to go all day at high school without needing to go. 

I'm honestly in disbelief how much I've lost in two years. It's kind of wild, honestly. But it's a good reminder the bladder's smooth muscle is like any other muscle - use it or lose it. Exercise it, or it atrophies. And the more it does, the harder it is to get back.

So, if magically, I *could* hold it again...I don't want to imagine how often I'd be running off to pee now that I can hold about a half-cup in my bladder.

[Diapered Dave]

57 minutes ago, BrownBobby said:

Ooooh!  Bladder capacity! I have a fun story about this!

Recently, my stricture started making it so I held my pee at night if I was lying down. So cue waking up with a aching bladder, enough where I'm waking up in pain.  I squeeze myself like a toddler and grab a mason jar to measure it, out of curiosity. Feeling like I'm about to burst, I finally relieve myself.

150mL.

I can relate... 

Since retiring last year, I've been diapered pretty much 24/7, and using stents or catheters most of the time. Now when I do try to be a "Big Boy", and wear underwear, I find that I'm doing an urgent "Pee Pee Dance" at around 150mL and start losing control at about 200mL. ( I keep a measuring container in my bathroom to to track this..)

[superabsorbantpolymer]

On 10/27/2025 at 6:15 PM, Reddy said:

I don't have a lot of other updates other than my libido has been really high and I also really want the bowel incontinence still

How has the last month been? 

Do you have travel plans over the holidays? How are you managing protection (do you calculate a quota of diapers per day when you pack)?

 

Have you had issues with TSA? I wore a wet incontrol through security recently which triggered three agents patting me down and requesting I change in the private room and then scanning my wet diaper and patting me again. They actually wanted me to remove the diaper entirely but I didn't realize. Apparently even the new dry diaper was too hard for their liking. Eventually they let me go.

Your diaper is always wet. So you must have to deal with some form of that every time you go through a microwave scanner.

 

Have you gone swimming again? Have you experimented with any new forms of incontinence protection like a condom catheter or cloth diaper?

 

How are you feeling overall? Any stories or news to share? 

[PeterLupus]

On 11/12/2025 at 1:24 PM, kincaid said:

Then I asked him to remove every last bit and shave it into a clean tunnel so those nasty little buggers would be flushed out. He liked this idea, even if it would cause complete urinary incontinence instead of the current partial one.

Can you please clarify what you mean with "clean tunnel"? Thanks.

[Hannah YMS]

On 9/2/2025 at 7:54 PM, Reddy said:

That sounds good, I was looking for latex pants but I couldn't find them.  I am not sure if it would work.

Rearz has the Transparent Seamless Latex Brief. This might be what you're looking for.

[Rattie]

On 2/17/2024 at 10:08 PM, TheSuperDiaperBoy said:

After reading and hearing from Reddy and his experience, who is seriously considering going to Dr. Aguilar next?

I have a burning desire to become truly, and inreversibly, incontinent, and condemn myself to diapers for the rest of my days. I find it exciting to know the option exists, and will definitely check my options, cost, etc, before taking the plunge. I expect it can become very expensive very quick. (I haven't read every entries just yet, but I will do so in the coming weeks.)

I already wear diapers 24/7, and been doing so for 120+ days. Currently by choice, but I dream of doing so out of necessity. I also don't own any "normal" underwear anymore. I cut them all up, and threw the shreds in the bin. That felt weird doing so. 

[kincaid]

On 11/29/2025 at 1:17 AM, PeterLupus said:

Can you please clarify what you mean with "clean tunnel"? Thanks.

With that phrase I meant the inside of my urethra, including the part where the prostate used to be and where the bladder neck was is completely cleared from scar tissue, debris, any kind of bumps, a smooth surface so urine would flow out of it easily and bacteria would not be able to find a place to hide and multiply. Imagine it like comparing it with a straw,  it's like that now. Of course over time some scar tissue comes back but not enough to cause problems

[PeterLupus]

23 minutes ago, kincaid said:

With that phrase I meant the inside of my urethra, including the part where the prostate used to be and where the bladder neck was is completely cleared from scar tissue, debris, any kind of bumps, a smooth surface so urine would flow out of it easily and bacteria would not be able to find a place to hide and multiply. Imagine it like comparing it with a straw,  it's like that now. Of course over time some scar tissue comes back but not enough to cause problems

Thank you.

[hvb22]

I have a longer sabbatical coming up in summer 26, so I'm thinking of getting the surgery done by Dr.A and then traveling for a few months. I very much look forward to city travel with a bladder that's always empty when I walk around!

Is anyone else thinking of getting the surgery in August or so? It might be fun to have some emotional support during the recovery phase. Or maybe we can negotiate a volume discount or kickback for Reddy?