Brand new and unsure

[Ames]

Hey I'm 30, I don't think I want to be an adult baby but have always had a curiosity about diapers. A couple of days ago I gave in to the desire to try them. Just over 48 hours later and I'm still using them. I just love it but feel like I shouldn't. Not really sure where to go from here but I figured this is a good place to start. Hoping to get to know some of you lovely people. Feel free to come say hi x

[AbabeBill]

Hi Ames, and welcome to DD, and to diapers too. At least wearing diapers now that is, I see you said, you have always had a curiosity about them. You are now a “Diaper Lover”, there’s no going back! Lol, don’t sweat it though. You’re in good company here, lot of likeminded people. Explore your diaper curiosities, and see where it takes you. If you have questions, don’t be shy to ask. Now, come on in, relax, have fun, and enjoy! See ya round.?

[babyalan]

Welcome do DD Ames you should be able to find all sorts of advice and coaching on how to get you in touch with this phase of your life that has been missing until now my advice is to dive right in and enjoy it all.

Wetly Yours 

Babyalan 

 

 

[Ames]

Thank you, I have literally spent all night at work reading things on here. I can't wait to get stuck in 

[littleTomás]

3 hours ago, Ames said:

Hey I'm 30, I don't think I want to be an adult baby but have always had a curiosity about diapers. A couple of days ago I gave in to the desire to try them. Just over 48 hours later and I'm still using them. I just love it but feel like I shouldn't. Not really sure where to go from here but I figured this is a good place to start. Hoping to get to know some of you lovely people. Feel free to come say hi x

Welcome! Don't let shame bring you down. Life is to short to let others judgement get in the way of something you love.

Little Tomás

[Ames]

45 minutes ago, littleTomás said:

Welcome! Don't let shame bring you down. Life is to short to let others judgement get in the way of something you love.

Little Tomás

Thanks for the encouragement little Thomas, it's not so much judgement but the practicality of things ie my partner, children, work etc but I am already learning a bunch from here and it's so good to see that even though I'm kinda weird, that here, weird is celebrated x

[Frankies Wet]

Welcome!! Life too short to not be yourself

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[rusty pins]

Remember one thing.  Just because you enjoy wearing diapers does not mean you like acting like a baby or have to relate wearing diapers to being a baby.  Many of us who enjoy the feeling of wearing diapers do not like the idea of acting like a baby at all.  Keep this in mind also.  Many companies make disposable underwear for people with light bladder leakage and they also make tape on diapers for people who are incontinent.  Although there are exceptions, those adults who are incontinent and wear diapers to deal with it lead normal everyday lives and don't think of themselves as babies just because they need to wear some heavy duty protection to keep their pants dry.  No shame in that, same as there is no shame in a person who uses glasses to help them see or a wheelchair to help them get around if they have lost the use of their legs.  Professional divers will wear diapers to keep from compromising the integrity of their dry suits.  Astronauts have to wear diapers at times when going into space.  Some gamblers will wear diapers to the casino so they won't have to lose their spot at a gaming table or slot machine when they are on a winning streak and have to go to the bathroom.  How many people admit to wearing diapers in Times Square New Years Eve?  You may not physically need diapers for incontinence, but they are a tool for people to use if they  choose to do so for whatever reason, and there is nothing wrong with enjoying how they feel when wearing them, wet or dry.  

[Ames]

Thanks rusty pins. That's the thing. As I said, I have always had a curiosity about wearing/using a diaper. This has lead me to do a little research and most things I have found, relate to being an AB. I have never had the desire to act like a baby or be treated like one. But since wearing a diaper a few days ago I just really liked it. It's been something I have also found arousing. The feelings I have been having these past couple of days have surprised me and I feel like I have found the key to open up a whole new world I never really new existed. 

[babyalan]

The hard part for you is hiding it from your partner and children ,children should never be subjected to exposure to this however your partner is another thing altogether keeping secrets can lead to bad things, being honest is always the best idea that being said you need to feel it out first to see how they may react perhaps staging an accident by purposely wetting your bed while pretending to sleep and going to having diapers on before you go to bed might give you an indication of how they feel about it.

As for the kind of diapers well there are lots to choose from in the disposable and cloth categories whichever makes you feel the best.

Wetly Yours 

Babyalan 

 

 

[Ames]

9 minutes ago, babyalan said:

The hard part for you is hiding it from your partner and children ,children should never be subjected to exposure to this however your partner is another thing altogether keeping secrets can lead to bad things, being honest is always the best idea that being said you need to feel it out first to see how they may react perhaps staging an accident by purposely wetting your bed while pretending to sleep and going to having diapers on before you go to bed might give you an indication of how they feel about it.

As for the kind of diapers well there are lots to choose from in the disposable and cloth categories whichever makes you feel the best.

Wetly Yours 

Babyalan 

 

 

My partner is a bit of a big deal for me. We have been together for more than 10 years so it would be massive if it wasn't something we could come to an agreement over. That being said, it has never been a discussion so I don't know how he feels. For all I know he could feel the same. I will have a conversation with him about it in time. I agree with you as far as the children are concerned. Although I am lucky because I work nights so generally in the day I sleep unless I have a day off 

[babyalan]

He should know how you feel sexually and why but also be supportive you know him best if he is closed minded then keeping it from him may be better but if he is open to being adventurous in your intimate life then by all means share but very carefully I would say with leading and directed questions and and measured responses is the safest bet.

Before my wife and I were together I told her about my bed wetting and diapers and the AB DL side of me and she is accepting and even supportive.

But we love each other way too much to let anything come between us she has even on occasion wore with me bot as much as I would like but we have found ways to make if fun for us

[Ames]

10 minutes ago, babyalan said:

He should know how you feel sexually and why but also be supportive you know him best if he is closed minded then keeping it from him may be better but if he is open to being adventurous in your intimate life then by all means share but very carefully I would say with leading and directed questions and and measured responses is the safest bet.

Before my wife and I were together I told her about my bed wetting and diapers and the AB DL side of me and she is accepting and even supportive.

But we love each other way too much to let anything come between us she has even on occasion wore with me bot as much as I would like but we have found ways to make if fun for us

To be honest, he is pretty opened minded with stuff. That's why we have been together so long lol ☺️ he has his things as I have mine. I think that even if it isn't "his thing" , we can find a way to make it work for us both. For now though I'm just having some fun trying and learning stuff for myself. I have a definite 2/3 weeks before I think I have to have those conversations and seeing as he goes to work when I'm get home, I have some time to explore in the mean time. 

[littleTomás]

1 hour ago, Ames said:

To be honest, he is pretty opened minded with stuff. That's why we have been together so long lol ☺️ he has his things as I have mine. I think that even if it isn't "his thing" , we can find a way to make it work for us both. For now though I'm just having some fun trying and learning stuff for myself. I have a definite 2/3 weeks before I think I have to have those conversations and seeing as he goes to work when I'm get home, I have some time to explore in the mean time. 

Take your time. The best way to have a difficult conversation is to take it slow and be relaxed going into it. I know quite a few DL’s who are with partners who aren’t into diapers, but they just say, “diapers are just my partner’s lingerie.” It sounds like ya’ll won’t have any problems if you are already able to work out differences in preference.

[Ames]

9 minutes ago, littleTomás said:

Take your time. The best way to have a difficult conversation is to take it slow and be relaxed going into it. I know quite a few DL’s who are with partners who aren’t into diapers, but they just say, “diapers are just my partner’s lingerie.” It sounds like ya’ll won’t have any problems if you are already able to work out differences in preference.

I want to spend time working on what I like before sharing it. In all honesty, whilst I have had a curiosity about diapers, I have been surprised by how much I have been enjoying them. The fact that it's just my little secret makes it more pleasurable for now 

[littleTomás]

10 minutes ago, Ames said:

The fact that it's just my little secret makes it more pleasurable for now

I feel the same way when I wear diapers out in public! I’m the only one who knows I’m wearing a diaper and that makes it lots of fun.

[Ames]

From what I have read on here, it seams that wearing in public can take some time. In that aspect I guess I jumped right in lol. I was at work the first time I tried a diaper ?

[Little Sherri]

3 hours ago, Ames said:

My partner is a bit of a big deal for me. We have been together for more than 10 years so it would be massive if it wasn't something we could come to an agreement over. That being said, it has never been a discussion so I don't know how he feels. For all I know he could feel the same. I will have a conversation with him about it in time. I agree with you as far as the children are concerned. Although I am lucky because I work nights so generally in the day I sleep unless I have a day off 

Hi, @Ames, and welcome to this strange little corner of the world. There are a lot of friendly and patient people here. There are even some threads here touch on opening up to partners about these interests. I go on at length in my 24/7 thread about my transition to wearing diapers, while having a wife of 20 years, and kids. There is also a great thread by @oznl discussing the implications a diapered lifestyle can have on a relationship. 

But, don't necessarily rush into that part, would be my advice. I wore diapers to bed as a kid, then became interested from a "recreational" perspective as an early teen, but then gave diapers up for decades, so I didn't even think to mention it to my spouse when we first met, or when we got married. But then the interest came, ahem, flooding back, and I found myself trying to keep it a secret. Eventually, I decided to open up to my wife, but it was a decision that took a couple of years, so if you are in your diaper "infancy", so to speak, don't rush in. Get your bearings, figure yourself out, and then, when you're ready, if you think he can handle it, move forward. 

If I may ask, what do you think precipitated your interest, Ames? 

14 minutes ago, Ames said:

From what I have read on here, it seams that wearing in public can take some time. In that aspect I guess I jumped right in lol. I was at work the first time I tried a diaper

Wearing a diaper to work was something I definitely had to build up to, so if you just jumped right in, I'm impressed! Have you bought any of the ABDL diapers available on the market yet, or are you using ones you can buy at retail outlets? Let me tell you from experience, if you're going to wear in public, diaper technology has moved WAY past most of what can be purchased in a drug store or a supermarket, in terms of adult diapers. To get the kind of comfort and protection that, say, a Pampers Cruiser offers, in a larger size, you have to go to the specialty market. One great outlet is www.rearz.ca . 

[Ames]

Hey @Little Sherri I'm not totally sure how it all started. I have always wandered what it would be like to wear a diaper but quickly pushed it out of my head because it's "weird." then I had a friend, several years ago who opened up about his enjoyment of wearing them.this was the first time I knew anybody else thought this way. He convinced me to try with an incontinence pull up. It was OK but I was a bit underwhelmed so it wasn't something I took any further at the time.  I met my partner and had kids. The thought of wearing an adult diaper was still something I thought a lot about but to be honest, I didn't know such a thing existed until recently. I changed my job and realised that there were so many options! The other night I was working alone and figured that I would grab a couple of diapers from the stock room and give it a go. Needless to say I was not disappointed this time. ☺️

At the minute I'm just working with a handful I grabbed from work. I'm not really sure what they are. I live in the UK so the pharmacy is kind of limited. I have been looking into online options the last couple of days but I want to chat with my partner before purchasing and having to hide a big box lol 

[Little Sherri]

1 hour ago, Ames said:

I have been looking into online options the last couple of days but I want to chat with my partner before purchasing and having to hide a big box lol 

I hear that, @Ames; until I opened up to my spouse about wearing diapers, my only option was to buy them from places where I could pick them up. I've tried a lot of the brands available in stores, and they are all pretty much the same: low quality and unreliable. I do live close enough to Rearz to order online and pickup from their warehouse, and there is another online medical supplier that offers a pickup option that I can drive to, so I'm lucky enough to have been able to get decent quality and/or cute diapers without having a giant box arrive on my patio, but now that I am "out", I don't have to be quite so clandestine about it, thankfully, although I still keep it hidden from my kids, of course. But they don't pay attention to what comes in the post, whereas my spouse is usually the one picking those things up, so a giant box of nappies showing up would have raised some difficult questions. 

[Ames]

8 minutes ago, Little Sherri said:

I still keep it hidden from my kids, of course. But they don't pay attention to what comes in the post, whereas my spouse is usually the one picking those things up, so a giant box of nappies showing up would have raised some difficult questions. 

My kids don't care what comes in the post unless it has thier name on it. As I work at night and sleep in the day, my partner is usually the one picking up the post. I'm sure he would get quite a shock if a box of diapers sudenely turned up with no explanation haha. I have learned quite a lot in the last few days though. How much the diaper can hold for example. Things almost became embarrassing at work this morning?

[Little Sherri]

23 minutes ago, Ames said:

How much the diaper can hold for example. Things almost became embarrassing at work this morning?

I laughed at that - I've been there. You definitely learn some stuff as you go. I take it you work in a medical or long-term care environment? So you probably have access to better nappies than what you can buy at the drugstores, but because institutions tend to favour low cost over high quality, they still don't compare favourably with what you can get from a good ABDL diaper or a premium "medical" diaper supplier. 

A lot of people on this site use plastic pants over top of diapers, as a second line of security, although for me, I find the combination too bulky. However I have tried a lot of brands and I know what works for me and how long I can rely on them. But I have had near-misses, and also, complete failures, although thankfully never while I'm actually at a work location or function (I work from how a fair bit but I am in client's offices or in my own office with some frequency as well). The worst I ever had was actually in church, but thankfully, I was a kid of 7 or 8, so when my diaper leaked and soaked the back of my pants, everyone assumed I was just a kid who wet his pants - not a great look, but better than being known as the kid whose diaper leaked! 

[Ames]

11 minutes ago, Little Sherri said:

37 minutes ago, Ames said:

How much the diaper can hold for example. Things almost became embarrassing at work this morning?

I laughed at that - I've been there. You definitely learn some stuff as you go. I take it you work in a medical or long-term care environment? So you probably have access to better nappies than what you can buy at the drugstores, but because institutions tend to favour low cost over high quality, they still don't compare favourably with what you can get from a good ABDL diaper or a premium "medical" diaper supplier. 

I work in care with teenagers and young adults. Thankfully our lounge furniture is wipe clean. I may have got a little carried away wetting in my diaper this morning haha. Although I didn't take spare clothes. Luckily it was almost the end of my shift so I could get away with putting my winter coat on and leaving sharpish. 

I don't really know much about price and quality yet. The ones I grabbed seem to do the trick and at least I know thier limits now ☺️ 

I have looked at the plastic pants for over the top but I think that even I'm not that brave. I think they seem pretty noisy. I really like the bulk and whilst it's so cold it hasn't been so tough to hide but as the weather gets warmer I think that might pose a problem. 

[Little Sherri]

14 minutes ago, Ames said:

I have looked at the plastic pants for over the top but I think that even I'm not that brave. I think they seem pretty noisy. I really like the bulk and whilst it's so cold it hasn't been so tough to hide but as the weather gets warmer I think that might pose a problem. 

Same situation here - I'm in Canada, so right now, while water in its natural state is a solid rather than a liquid, nappy bulk is less of a concern, but in the summer, discretion is more of a challenge.

[Ames]

9 minutes ago, Little Sherri said:

but in the summer, discretion is more of a challenge

The thing is, I don't know what my long term plan is yet. I don't know if I will still be wearing diapers as much in the summer. At the minute it's a huge novelty but it might wear off or it might not and then I will have to get creative when it gets warm.