Being changed

[Rachael-Little]

While I’ve never really experienced this from a real mommy or care giver as an adult, but isn’t it just such a great baby feeling being told it’s time to change your diaper then being laid down and talked to like a baby. Maybe having a pacifier put in your mouth or a toy to play with as your powdered, cleaned and diapered.

I think I would just feel so regressed and babied for sure 

[Snugglebear_69]

Being changed by a loving partner is so so so very incredibly special. My Daddy keeps me in diapers four days of the week, he'd prefer 7 days but that's just too much for my tastes. As such he changes me four days of the week and multiple times each of those days.

It is such a special bonding time for us and serves to reinforce our love for one another, commitment and the emotional and intimate bond we have together. I honestly wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.

He makes me feel so loved, cared for and safe during a diaper change but even more so afterwards when he pulls me onto his chest and gently strokes my nose and hair while I listen to his heartbeat. Even this description is a pale imitation of what it feels like to snuggle against his chest wrapped warmly by his arms.

Certainly having a Caregiver or Daddy isnt necessary for someone to be little but I personally can't imagine going into littlespace without my Daddy there, smiling, reassuring me and showering me with unconditional love as I shower him with the same unconditional love.

Little kaiya

[Rachael-Little]

Kaiya, that does sound so very special indeed. Glad you have that 

[DiaperedAllTheTime]

I find it so important for my wife to change my diaper also.  For me having your diaper changed by a partner is about as vulnerable as you can be with someone else.  As someone that also desires humiliation it helps to reinforce how much of a man I am not as my wife removes my used diaper and puts me in a clean one.

When I have misbehaved and my wife punishes me by not participating in any baby girl games I feel devastated.  I need my wife to be my Mommy just as much as I need to be in a diaper.

[sweetlilone]

Being diapered by a loving, caring partner is the most amazing feeling ever. My mommy makes sure I"m securely diapered every night. Nothing beats looking into her beautiful eyes as she diapers me. 

[Mark84]

This is the one thing that I want to experience most, that I never have, as an adult. My wife has come a long way in terms of dealing with my ABDL side. She’s basically gone from once asking me to never wear diapers again, to now, even encouraging me to wear from time to time because she now understands how much it means to me. In fairness, she has taken diapers off of me, but I have yet to be able to get her to diaper me. I think, eventually, she may give it a shot. She knows that I’d like her to try it at least once. 

[herb330]

On 6/12/2019 at 2:38 PM, Rachael-Little said:

While I’ve never really experienced this from a real mommy or care giver as an adult, but isn’t it just such a great baby feeling being told it’s time to change your diaper then being laid down and talked to like a baby. Maybe having a pacifier put in your mouth or a toy to play with as your powdered, cleaned and diapered.

I think I would just feel so regressed and babied for sure 

I'm not allowed to change myself.  My wife changes me .  She checks on my diaper periodically and then escorts me to the changing tbale for a change when she is ready.

[Dprczyone]

@Mark84 My wife is just the opposite. She will diaper me, rarely, but never touch a used diaper. She once told me "you stink" when I had on a wet diaper. Since then it's just the occasional diapering. It is awesome when she does it though. 

[DiaperedAllTheTime]

On 7/30/2019 at 2:23 PM, Dprczyone said:

@Mark84 My wife is just the opposite. She will diaper me, rarely, but never touch a used diaper. She once told me "you stink" when I had on a wet diaper. Since then it's just the occasional diapering. It is awesome when she does it though. 

My wife always tells me how much my wet diaper stinks.  I am not sure if she says this to humiliate me or if she says it in disgust.  She will pull my used diaper out from underneath me but generally will not roll it up.  She just lays it down on the floor at the foot of the bed and has me take care of it once she had put me in a new diaper.

[Rachael-Little]

6 hours ago, MarkSmith said:

My wife always tells me how much my wet diaper stinks.  I am not sure if she says this to humiliate me or if she says it in disgust.  She will pull my used diaper out from underneath me but generally will not roll it up.  She just lays it down on the floor at the foot of the bed and has me take care of it once she had put me in a new diaper.

Interesting, I know for me since I don’t have a mommy or caretaker when I get my wet diaper off I just love how it smells inside. A good reminder that I wet my diaper and the aroma is intoxicating to me 

[Newbee]

My husband has never said my diaper smells he just always comments on how full it is, he calls me a leaky faucet. 

[Mark84]

On 7/30/2019 at 5:23 PM, Dprczyone said:

@Mark84 My wife is just the opposite. She will diaper me, rarely, but never touch a used diaper. She once told me "you stink" when I had on a wet diaper. Since then it's just the occasional diapering. It is awesome when she does it though. 

In fairness, I don’t actually use my diapers for their intended purpose. I know some people might think “what a waste,” but it just doesn’t really appeal to me. On the plus side, my diapers last much longer

[ppdude]

6 hours ago, Mark84 said:

In fairness, I don’t actually use my diapers for their intended purpose. I know some people might think “what a waste,” but it just doesn’t really appeal to me. On the plus side, my diapers last much longer

Nothing wrong with that!

[DiaperedAllTheTime]

On 8/3/2019 at 2:55 PM, Rachael-Little said:

Interesting, I know for me since I don’t have a mommy or caretaker when I get my wet diaper off I just love how it smells inside. A good reminder that I wet my diaper and the aroma is intoxicating to me 

I love the smell of my pee pee filled diaper as well.  It is olfactory proof that you are nothing but a potty pants and I find that intoxicatingly humiliating.

I think my wife just honestly is disgusted by the smell of pee pee which also explains why she finds me completely sexually unattractive among other things of course.

[DL-Boy]

I wish my wife would try to change me just once, but back in the 90s she told me point blank that she would tolerate my diaper wearing but not to ever expect her to change me.  She reiterated that sentiment when my interests reawakened a few weeks ago.

I've dropped hints several times recently and even read a few forum messages to her about some ABs and their CGs but she will have nothing to do with it.

[Mindylou]

I'm new to diapers and wanting to be diapered by my daddy/hubby.. I asked him just this morning if he'd be open to putting one on me sometime and he said okay, he's so indulgent of me! But I would not go so far to ask him to change me, knowing how my full diaper smells.. that would be asking too much I think. 

PS.. this has happened twice now, getting diapered for the night. He won't take the wet one off me though or clean me.. sigh..oh well. 

Edited September 9, 2019 by Mindylou
Update

[Forced2wet]

My partner is in charge of my wearing, she tells me when I get put in a nappy and she’ll change me when it’s at leaking point.

The only downside is that whilst she is control I can only wear when she decides and not when I get the urge.

[babyeric]

Being changed by your partner is the most intimate of acts. I used to have a mommy and it was awesome ! When I would come home from work, my girlfriend would take me by the wrist to our bedroom. She would have me lay down, put a pacifier in my mouth, and diaper me. Every hour she would change me weather or not I was wet. To me during changing times, she would enforce the fact that she was in charge. To me, that alone was amazing. It takes so much trust to allow someone to change you. You are 100% exposed both physically and mentally.  Thanks for letting me share

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

While all this is true, a baby is not one bit aware of it. I remember being changed as a toddler and all I saw was the panties because they were in my field of view. I did not tink or feel anything; Full stop. The first thoughts of what being in diapers mean is for littles 3-1/2 at the earliest. And none of it is good, which is why dommes like the idea. It "makes you a baby". You are helpless to control a basic function like everyone else so you are dependent and therefore inferior (even if only to the one who is putting the diaper on you). You are laid down and your clothes pull up or donw and your legs spread and your chastity area gotten at. For little girls, your skirt can be easily lifted up. Whoever can get THAT intimate with you can do as she pleases: If she can get between your legs, she can do whatever she wishes to you. This was especially important to little girls when I was little because girls were put in diapers on certain occasions until a far greater age for reasons I have explained elsewhere. Also, "she can put [or make you wear] rubber panties", which had their own special meaning which gave them a life of their own and deserve their own subforum (how may ABDL's were motivated by rubber panties?). They were more perceivable as different from diapers,  they feel different and look different from ordinary undies and they are associated with all of the above since having them put on you is the final part of being diapered , identifies you as such and meams you are a baby. The scary part is that rubber panties, which define being a baby, can be put  on you WITHOUT  diapers, such as if you were prone to small "accidents". This made them a valuable tool for training a little girl to keep her skirts down: Who wanted to be seen in rubber panties (which might invite being felt, which you were alos told)?

From a mommy's perspective there are two competing things. First,"Hooray, I do not have to do this smelly work, clean all those diapers and rubber panties. On the other hand. the little becomes more independent and you lose a certain amount of control over the little one since she does not  need you to change and clean her. Added to that is, when she was in diapers you could control other actions by threatening to "put a diaper and rubber panties [or a rubber diaper]" on her in front of either a bitther enemy who will see you laid down and made helpless (and tell just everyone) or in front of a person you adimire and want to be big in front of and have them see you as a pathetic little baby (often for boys it was "baby girl"). That meant that "you better shape up". Also,, for Mommy you are less needede and that has to hurt a bit and, from what I had seen quite a bit during changes, from about age 6 to about 23,, you may have enjoyed feeling the rubber panties

[NotGrownUp]

On 11/11/2019 at 11:03 AM, Little Christine said:

This was especially important to little girls when I was little because girls were put in diapers on certain occasions until a far greater age for reasons I have explained elsewhere.

some intersving insights into how an ABDL's perspective will inevitablu differ from the average real toddler. However, I am curious about this part - it's a big forum, so might I please have a link or at leasv a hint?

 

 

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

A link about what. This was direct observation. Look at ma age via the kyear I was born. Where would I even look for such a link if it existed? There was much that is not found on the Internet

1. Girls were thought to be less able to hold it until a later age than boys and, if bedwetters, were more likely to be put in diapers than boys, who were expected to "be better than that"
2. in groups, boys tended to roam, so if one needed to go, he would find a secluded spot and go. Girls tended to stay in one place for the afternoon (about 12:39 to 4:40). Most of their parents had lived during the Great Depression and were, shall we say, frugal. If a girl was either under 7 or could not hold it COMFORTABLY for two hours, she might go every hour and a half. It became such that if there were two or mor girls under 8 (as a general rule) they would be in diapers. This was the age of the 5 gallon toilet so if you have 2 extra children going 3 times in an afternoon that was quite a bit of water, in addition to tying up the bathroom
3. This was before the Interstate, with  it's unheard of cruising speed of 60 miles per hour, with the average speeds being about 40; 45 on the open road and 30-35 in the various towns and cities through which the routs passed. In the case of a boy  or grown man, the car or truck would be stopped in a wooded area, the person jump out, go behind a tree and go.  Of the trip was, like 50+ miles and a girl could not hold it comfortably for two hours or, again, was under 8, she would be diapered and let to go in her diaper. A trip from Tiverton, RI to Boston, MA takes about an hour down Rt 24, finished in 1966, took 2 hours in 1953 down Rt 138
4. Girls played with dolls and learned the skills that went with having babies, so she learned about diapers and rubber panties.  In fact, she would consider herself very lucky and the envy of her friends if she had some "real" or "person-sized rubber panties". The last I saw of the baby panties that were used on me before I was 3 in 1948, which I remember quiite well, was in 1955 in one of my girl cousin's "dolly box", which every little girl had and which held the things that went with 2 or 3 dolls; in those days, with the exception of bride dolls, ALL dolls were "play dolls"

[Little Cub Pants]

I know what you mean. It would be the best feeling in the world. Also having a daddy Say "it's time for your bottle" and being Daddy's Little boy, that would be great! I would also love my diaper changes with baby powder scented baby wipes. I think that would feel REALLY good. Then Daddy would say "baby likes it when we get his diaper changed doesn't he?" And that would be wonderful!?

[Luvs24]

I'm not allowed to change my diaper, my wife always does this for me. She always checks my diaper, and tells when I need to be changed. If no one is over I'm either changed in the bedroom or on the floor in the living room. 

[NotGrownUp]

21 hours ago, Little Christine said:

A link about what. This was direct observation. Look at ma age via the kyear I was born. Where would I even look for such a link if it existed? There was much that is not found on the Internet

 

I see - that's just the kind of explanation I was hoping for. I just didn't know if you'd want to explain it again if you already did before.

So in the 40s/50s America, girls were still trained in general bi 3 or 4, but often diapered part-time as late as 7 or 8? Was it hard getting them to give it up at that age?

 

 

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

2 hours ago, NotGrownUp said:

I see - that's just the kind of explanation I was hoping for. I just didn't know if you'd want to explain it again if you already did before.

So in the 40s/50s America, girls were still trained in general bi 3 or 4, but often diapered part-time as late as 7 or 8? Was it hard getting them to give it up at that age?

 

 

They were unhappy WITH it. Implicit in diapering is being a baby. Look at the ranking system used here: Newborn, infant, toddler, bedwetter, etc. Contrary to what you see around here, 95% of 4-1/2 and up children do NOT wat to be identified or treated as babies, whether it is for what I described or bedwetting. You could terrify a child by threatining to tell persons that they still wear rubber panteis or worse, leave them around where they can be seen. Girls did not like it also because it was not done to boys of the same age