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My friend likes to get off on videos watching videos of babies and toddlers getting their diapers changed. He doesn't Express sexual interest in children, but he's a diaper fetishist.

Should I be worried? Is this a sign that he's a potential pedophile? Am I just overreacting?

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3 minutes ago, ppdude said:

Only you know the answer to that question. If it bothers you, discuss it with him and act as you think you should or should not.

That's the thing. He says that it's only a fantasy and I want to believe him. However, I also think he should curve it in favor of less questionable fetishes.

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15 minutes ago, JWR said:

That's the thing. He says that it's only a fantasy and I want to believe him. However, I also think he should curve it in favor of less questionable fetishes.

Agreed. I don't know if the videos could be considered porn or used in a case against him. Perhaps someone more qualified could answer that.

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There are plenty of videos, of adults having diapers changed. Some are even adults, who pretend they are children, (Adult Babies, or Littles). So, I’m wondering if he, (your friend) could not get the same satisfaction, watching those, instead of actually babies, or toddlers? 

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You might want to try talking to him before going off and telling the entire planet because that could litteraly ruin said persons life everything from dating to getting a job to normal every day tasks its better to risk letting guilty person go than an innocent person hang I would strongly suggest finding out the full reasons and trying every possible solution before contacting police or psychiatry services because both are extremely likely to immediately jump to conclusions that he is a pedophile without conducting any real serious unbiased investigation in which case you may ruin the life of someone who isn't a threat and are you sure it was real toddlers and not adults dressed as baby's and he just forgot to mention the adult part if he is watching actual children I would observe his actions and routine covertly i.e. stalk w/o him knowing and see if spends a notice able amount of time around kids or pays significantly more attention to kids and minors than average adults or if he makes it a habit of being around schools day cares or toy shops or kids sections of department stores without reason dropping his kids off at school should not be taken as unusual behavior how ever if goes pulls into school parking lots and doesn't have a legit reason for being there than that would be cause for concern or gos out of his way to be around minors its one thing to give kid a piece of candy when he's talking to the parents or something and just happens to have it in his pocket its another thing to carry a bag of candy around for the specific purpose of giving it out to every kid he meets or go to the car to get piece and bring it back if you do still believe he's a pedophile after conducting your own investigation then definitely go to the police but if not then don't overreact and ruin someone's life because you were suspicious suspicion is cause for an investigation not a punishment if after investigation suspicion is confirmed then that is cause for a punishment but get the facts before you act because once you act you can't go back even if he's proven innocent in a court of law it could financially ruin him with attorney cost and destroy his reputation I am in no way trying to justify what happened all I'm saying is be sure you know he did the crime before ya make em do the time also I would advise talking to a lawyer and documenting everything 

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You taking this guy to a seyicrist is probly gunna make him hate you forever. What the seyicrist will probly do after the sesson is call the police and they will have him tryed as a sexual predator. The court system is very blind when it comes to how people find their diaper interests.

My hint to save him from actually going through that or to prevent him from going to children is to find babyfur or diaperfur photos and go from there. Some artists have actually done animations of fursonas doing their business. Fake is better then real...

 

Dont do real or a world of hurt isa comin'!

 

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Here in the US, HIPPA generally protects a person regards private matters when there is an agreed-to Doctor-Patient relationship. That becomes less clear when the Doctor is a third-party. Psychiatists, Therapists, and Licensed Counsellors also have to follow HIPPA, but they are permitted to call in the authorities or cause their client to be admitted to a care facility if they believe that person is a clear and high risk to themself or to society in general. With today's paranoia regards child safety I go to great lengths to distance myself from actual children even online, because if that gets discovered it will be twisted to be used against you as much as they can possibly do, even if you would never actually act on that fantasy. So here, I would be having a long talk with that friend to get them to understand the risk they are taking and it's likely consequences. If they fail to back away from this, then I would back away from them. What I wouldn't do is tell anyone else about this unless I truly believed that they would harm a real person, and even then I would tell them that I was going to do this before I acted in hopes that at least then they would understand the problem and work to mitigate it.

I love seeing children playing happily- the purest and strongest expression of true joy there is. But I am an older single 'guy' with no kids, and if I actually do that I will immediately be suspected and likely be seen as a predator when there is nothing farther from the truth. Not only would I never harm any child, I would immediately kill anyone who I saw doing that even if it landed me in jail for the rest of my life. There is nothing I can do to change that because of modern society's paranoia regards child safety so to protect myself I simply avoid it. I really have no other choice. Your friend doesn't have a choice either and he need to understand that before he becomes his own victim.

Bettypooh

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First off, it's HIPAA not HIPPA. 

The Doctor-Patient relationship has been protected long before HIPAA.   HIPAA protects the electronic and other records that stem from the treatment.    HIPAA applies to all covered entities and their employees and contractors regardless of what professional capacity they are in.   A covered entity is essentially anybody who uses electronic records for insurance billing, which means EVERYBODY that takes any form of insurance payment these days.

There are exceptions, any time the safety or abuse of a child is involved, most of the people listed (doctors, therapists, counselors) are mandated, reporters.    Alas, how mandated reporting relates to patient privileged conversation with is provider depends on what state you are in.   Each state has rules on where the boundary are.


To answer the original question.   Is he a pedophile.  Possibly, possibly not.    If you even get a whiff of child pornography (video or graphic views of nudity or sexual acts), he's committing a felony and you need to, at the least, distance yourself from his activities, less you be charged with a felony.    If you find that he's involving real children in his activities, you need to contact the police IMMEDIATELY.     Other than that, what you can suggest is that he suggest getting professional help.    Having a desired to view child porn or even abusing children isn't illegal.   Heading off that before he acts on it is vital.    I've got a friend whose doing 14 months (suspended down from 15 years) for child porn.   He's looking forward to four years of NO INTERNET after he gets released.     Google Alicia Kozakeiwicz sometime.   That hit a bit close to home.   The guy worked for the same company as a bunch of my friends and the whole thing took place a few miles away from me.   Another friend was the first lawyer the abuser contacted.

Suggest strongly this guy get help and don't let him drag you down.

 

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11 hours ago, Warmwetandcozy said:

You might want to try talking to him before going off and telling the entire planet because that could litteraly ruin said persons life everything from dating to getting a job to normal every day tasks its better to risk letting guilty person go than an innocent person hang I would strongly suggest finding out the full reasons and trying every possible solution before contacting police or psychiatry services because both are extremely likely to immediately jump to conclusions that he is a pedophile without conducting any real serious unbiased investigation in which case you may ruin the life of someone who isn't a threat and are you sure it was real toddlers and not adults dressed as baby's and he just forgot to mention the adult part if he is watching actual children I would observe his actions and routine covertly i.e. stalk w/o him knowing and see if spends a notice able amount of time around kids or pays significantly more attention to kids and minors than average adults or if he makes it a habit of being around schools day cares or toy shops or kids sections of department stores without reason dropping his kids off at school should not be taken as unusual behavior how ever if goes pulls into school parking lots and doesn't have a legit reason for being there than that would be cause for concern or gos out of his way to be around minors its one thing to give kid a piece of candy when he's talking to the parents or something and just happens to have it in his pocket its another thing to carry a bag of candy around for the specific purpose of giving it out to every kid he meets or go to the car to get piece and bring it back if you do still believe he's a pedophile after conducting your own investigation then definitely go to the police but if not then don't overreact and ruin someone's life because you were suspicious suspicion is cause for an investigation not a punishment if after investigation suspicion is confirmed then that is cause for a punishment but get the facts before you act because once you act you can't go back even if he's proven innocent in a court of law it could financially ruin him with attorney cost and destroy his reputation I am in no way trying to justify what happened all I'm saying is be sure you know he did the crime before ya make em do the time also I would advise talking to a lawyer and documenting everything 

This is terrible advice. Stalking is against the law.... and this behavior IS a warning sign. As was pointed out, it is just as easy, and in many ways actually easier, to get videos of adults being changed while dressed, acting, and in the settings of a baby.... This is completely inappropriate behavior, and is pedophilia, even if the child and its parents are not being directly harmed in the encounter. He is using children for sexual gratification, and is in fact choosing them over an equally accessible non-child option.

Don't shift the guilt of "ruining" someones life when this guy obviously needs help and it is better he gets it now before he runs the life of a child.

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With most things, it's not what you're thinking but what you're doing that counts. It's perfectly legal to think about murdering someone, even to planning it in the finest detail. It's when you begin to act on it that the problems begin. Local news here a couple days ago told of a guy who's going to jail for many because he tried to buy a bomb to blow up some ex-friends, and the "seller" turned out to be Law Enforcement ? Of course buying or making a bomb is illegal, but so is making the attempt to do those things. While I'm sure this guy knew that doing the deed was illegal, I'm not sure than he knew making the attempt without actual doing it was also illegal. The same thing applies here- it is illegal to have children or pictures of them involved in a pornographic manner at any level. Even just viewing online in your own home without ever going outside and doing anything further. Even if you never communicate those thoughts to anyone else. What you or I think of that does not much matter when the law is clear on that point. And most importantly here for the OP is that if you have contact with anyone who is caught breaking that law, you can bet your a$$ that this will be discovered and you're going to be deeply investigated too.

Do try to help those you care about, but if they are bent on a path of self-destruction then get away from them and don't let their problem spill onto you. And if you honestly believe that someone is going to hurt a child then act on that, for children cannot defend themselves against things like this and that responsibility falls on all of the rest of us to see that they are defended, and never come to harm because of things like this.

Some years ago, my best and truest friend ever decided to go back on drugs even though he knew it would positively kill him because of his heart condition. No amount of pleading and trying to give him alternatives would change his mind. No amount of showing my care or concern could change his decision. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done to distance myself from him, for I loved him like the brother he was to me and there were no limits to what I would to to help him out. But his course was set- I couldn't change it no matter what and how I tried- so all I could do was back away slowly and let him go. I've always felt guilty for doing that but really there was nothing else I could do for him or me. I had to limit the damage that was going to happen to me for if I hadn't, I would have likely killed my own self afterward because of my Clinical Depression. Sometimes there is absolutely nothing else you can do for a situation except protect yourself and let the rest of it go as best you can.

Bettypooh

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I think some folks need to take a step back from this.  Before you go off and ruin this guy's life you need to have some sort of definitive PROOF that he is indeed a pedophile.  Don't just make the accusation willy nilly and destroy the guy.

We do have due process in our respective countries.  Innocent until PROVEN guilty is the foundation of our laws and punishments.

MAKE sure before you go off half cocked....

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6 minutes ago, drynot said:

I think some folks need to take a step back from this.  Before you go off and ruin this guy's life you need to have some sort of definitive PROOF that he is indeed a pedophile.  Don't just make the accusation willy nilly and destroy the guy.

We do have due process in our respective countries.  Innocent until PROVEN guilty is the foundation of our laws and punishments.

MAKE sure before you go off half cocked....

The OP claims he masturbates to babies having their diaper changed... if we are going to take the OP at his word, we have proof. He has made the choice to not only involve a minor in a sex act, but has made it the focus.

It is pretty cut and dry. He needs to be reported to the police, and the OP needs to distance himself. 

Like I said before, I do not give a shit about his life being ruined. He has had the chance to make choices. When he eventually escalates to actual real life kids, those kids wont have a choice.

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Somebody accusing someone else of something is FAR from PROOF.  You need evidence that the act has taken place.  While this is indeed a horrifically despicable act you have to have factual evidence that it took place before making an accusation.

Make DAMN sure this guy is what you say he is before you move forward.

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28 minutes ago, drynot said:

Somebody accusing someone else of something is FAR from PROOF.  You need evidence that the act has taken place.  While this is indeed a horrifically despicable act you have to have factual evidence that it took place before making an accusation.

Make DAMN sure this guy is what you say he is before you move forward.

Ok, if you say so... I mean the OP's sentence is phrased as a 1st hand witness account, so... 

But I get it, we can't risk ruining the life of a guy who likes to jack off to babies.

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Concerned or worried?  Yes.  Should you do something?  Probably not.  Have you said anything to him about it or asked why he is turned on by seeing babies and toddlers getting their diapers changed?  that would be the first thing I would do if you have any concern.  See what his answer is and if it gives you any more cause for worry.  Up to you as to how you proceed and many people here have given great advice, but at best I would only say to him, if you feel you have to say anything at all,  "It's not good to think of kids getting their diapers changed in a sexual way.  That can give people a very bad idea about you".  See what he says about that, but remember, you can't change his sexual desires.  I'd personally hate myself if I knew a friend was a sexual predator and especially if children were involved, but callus as I may sound, he is responsible for his own actions and consequences.  Warning others to keep their kids away from him can backfire as people have said and can ruin someone's life if you are wrong and lead to a lawsuit against you as others have said.  Maybe keep a little more distance from him, especially since you too may be a DL (because you are a member here yourself and don't want to get caught up in anything should he have a 'problem'), watch your children around him and when you are together in public, just kind of keep your eye out on how he may react when seeing babies and toddlers and what interest he may show in them.  Don't stalk him, just observe when you may be around him in public. 

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Sexually involving minors in the United States, whether real or materials, is considered by most jurisdictions to indicate pedophilia. Materials of minors used for masturbation is used all the time in cases of pedophiles to convict them. Also, an FYI, since Adam Walsh's the Center Missing and Exploited Children stamps every video and image uploaded to the Internet with IP Addresses of users. This is how the Fed's bust pedophile porn rings in this country. Images and video are just bits and bytes of data. John Walsh was instrumental in getting this done for minors and missing children.

 

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It is a definite red flag. What concerns me is, if hes fantasizing in private more than likely he is looking and fantasizing when hes out in public. Not saying hes acting out in public but hes looking. I hope he can disengage the thought before he goes outside. If you do go out with him. Pay attention to his demeanor. Whats his eyes looking at? Make darn sure he dont go to a public bathroom alone. Suggest a private bathroom. If a kid is in there, you both turn right around and leave! But he does need help. HE has to want the help. It does not matter what you, or a shrink says. If he dont want it then help will not be effective.   

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It seems as though we all walk a fine line as ABDL's today.  While I certainly think there is much more awareness about us the attention we get is far from positive most of the time.  While we see nothing wrong in playing with plush toys and wearing and using diapers, many out there take extreme exception to it.

I could just imagine the thoughts that would go through some of my friends heads if they found out that not only do I wear and use diapers but I wear and use ABDL diapers.  Fancy prints, childish drawings, even pink ones all seem wonderful to me.....but all it takes is someone to make an accusation and my reputation could be ruined for ever.

I don't know the OP and I certainly don't know his friend.  However I have seen where false accusations have ruined someone's life...even after the accuser was found out to be dishonest.

All I ask is that you MAKE SURE before choosing to accuse someone.  As ABDL's we're all in the crosshairs......

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40 minutes ago, drynot said:

It seems as though we all walk a fine line as ABDL's today.  ng and using diapers, many out there take extreme exception to it.

 

Well said. I wear onesies in public. They are great for keeping the shirt from coming untucked. They also keep my pants/shorts from  falling down around my ankles, even with a belt. Got no butt and no hips. :rolleyes:

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Sounds like pedophilia if he is getting off on it. This is borderline on CP because there is no sex and minors being harmed, the fact he is seeing it sexually is concerning but it's not illegal what he is doing since it's not real CP and no child is actually being harmed. The fact that there are people out there that get aroused seeing babies getting their diapers changed is creepy and alarming. It's possible he might be imaging himself being the child and he is getting his diaper changed but there are plenty of adult videos out there of adults getting their diapers changed. I watch those instead. I have no interest in watching a child getting theirs changed and I bet parents post those online for educational purposes. "My kid had a diaper blow out so I am going to show all the parents out there how I handle them so they can do it too without giving their kid a bath. I will show them how I clean this all up without resorting to giving them a bath." But the rest, I don't get the point in posting them online, everyone knows how to change a diaper and put one on and if someone doesn't know how to put a diaper on, make a educational video using a doll and putting the diaper on it. I don't need to see what a big mess your kid made in their diaper. Do parents actually enjoy watching that stuff? 

 

Also how can you possibly make an appointment for him and take him to a psychiatrist when he is an adult? 

 

Just because he expresses no sexual interest in children doesn't mean he is not sexually attracted to them. He might just be repressing it which is what pedophiles should be doing. Does he go out of his way to avoid kids like if you go somewhere with him, does he automatically turn around and want to leave all of a sudden whenever there is a kid around? Some pedophiles will go out of their way to avoid minors and will leave when they see one. Does he also turn down jobs that will involve minors for example you tell him a place is hiring and he looks at the job and sees there will be minors there so he loses interest in applying there? If he never watches adults in diapers then that is another clue there he could be a pedophile. Sometimes people just avoid kids or working at places that involve kids just because they simply don't like children and some people can't stand the sight of them, not because they are attracted to them, they are repulsed by them. But yes your friend does need help and the only way he will get help is if you support him and not judge him for his sexual attraction. He didn't choose it. People don't choose to be pedophiles but they can choose to act on it. Getting off on kids getting their diapers changed is borderline acting on it since it's not real CP and no minor is being harmed. But it's still creepy. Does he also collect photos of kids in diapers and videos of them? 

 

I wonder if there is a different form of pedophilia out there where a person only likes kids in diapers and not adults and only likes to hear about them regressing and being a baby but they lack the desire to have sex with them and other sexual activities and they are only interested in the DL stuff with them and the age regression? 

 

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