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Ok, so, considering this isn't the first, or maybe even the second time I've read an article about how someone has pretended to be hiring help for their disabled "son," my instincts lead me to believe that these perpetrators have read the very same news articles, and thought "Hey, that's a great idea!," completely glossing over the part where their predecessors were arrested, and had their dirty laundry publicly aired,...which, yes, in this case would be diapers. I accidentally began to make a terrible pun, and upon recognition, decided "screw it," and have opted to leave it intact.

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What a fucking idiot.  Hire a fetish friendly escort and negotiate a role playing agreement.  Maybe a little more money but you don't hear from the cops about misleading someone into participating in your fetish without informed consent.

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I really hope other ABDLs stop doing this. This is such a bad look for our community. If you want a nanny be up front seek the services of a domnatrix or professional Mommy/Daddy. Don't fake a disability it is very scumbagish an it is fraud. Don't think you will get away with it you will eventually get caught.

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I feel like there aren’t a lot of resources for people grasp a larger view of the general kink community, Ageplay and the power dynamics that come with it. I really wish there were stickies in “The Newbie Nursery” directing people to podcasts, munches, and dos and don’t’s of proper fetish behavior. This is the first sites I went to in my late teens. I really wish there had been more resources about the greater kink community. I didn’t start meeting people till I was 23.  The reason I bring this up is because there was a person who is solicited a friend of mine and it turns out he was married and lived a few doors down from her in her neighborhood. I think this person would’ve had a lot more confidence had they started out meeting real people in real life. Instead of this person spend most of their marriage hiding his kink from his wife, possibly spending years of torment in a loveless marriage instead of being in a healthy relationship where he wouldn’t have to cheat. 

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On 2/15/2021 at 3:14 AM, princesstreegirl said:

I feel like there aren’t a lot of resources for people grasp a larger view of the general kink community, Ageplay and the power dynamics that come with it. I really wish there were stickies in “The Newbie Nursery” directing people to podcasts, munches, and dos and don’t’s of proper fetish behavior. This is the first sites I went to in my late teens. I really wish there had been more resources about the greater kink community. I didn’t start meeting people till I was 23.  The reason I bring this up is because there was a person who is solicited a friend of mine and it turns out he was married and lived a few doors down from her in her neighborhood. I think this person would’ve had a lot more confidence had they started out meeting real people in real life. Instead of this person spend most of their marriage hiding his kink from his wife, possibly spending years of torment in a loveless marriage instead of being in a healthy relationship where he wouldn’t have to cheat. 

@princesstreegirl

I agree with you on many points. The problem that I see is, that there are so many things that are out there on the Internet that describe “our Kink” and there are so many sub variances Of it, and all people see on the Internet or sites that are out there that “put us down” and make generalizations about what our kink is in his not, what something means and what it does not, or make statements or opinions that are negative about the whole kink world in general.

Sites  like daily diapers make an attempt to change this “negative opinion“ of the kinks that we are into. The problem I see is that there is so many negative things that are out there, that for every negative thing out there, there is not that much positive to counteract it. What I try to do as an individual is to tell people that we are here, and try to dispel rumors, or innuendo, or any other thing that is negative that puts a negative spin on our lifestyle. Hopefully by the time I am done every time, people will have a better understanding of what it is and what it is not. What are the things that I’ve learned since the start of this 25+ years ago was that this is not something that involves Children at all, it is something that is done between consenting adults in that is the way it is, and that’s the way it should stay. When people come in and they don’t understand what AB  or DL Or any of that stuff is, it is our duty to explain to the best of our ability what it is. That way at least some people are educated as to what they are dealing with or what they are presented with. When you have someone who is “fear mongering” because they’re worried about someone who may be an AB or DL, Or someone who makes light of it, in a negative way, that puts more negative spin on it when we should be trying to put some positive spin on it. There are plenty of individuals who put us down, and there are a lot of individuals who are coming around and understand what it is and what it is not, and can’t explain what people are dealing with.

I am glad the daily diapers is here: this is one site that I know will tell you the truth straight up and will not try to “white wash the situation“ or try to give you a line of bull. I remember seeing this site in 1995 or later, and I remember seeing a whole bunch of good information, and after a while, I went back to other sites, and they had information, but it was not information that was trustworthy, and you know that there Who are here because they are trying to “examine them selves“ and try to figure out what the heck is going on. When you have parents grandparents caregivers etc. trying to figure out what is going on, you cannot expect them to find good information unless it exists. There may be many sites out there who put a negative spin on things, but for every negative sight, I would hope that there was a positive one to negate all the negative stuff. For example the “site we don’t mention around here“ has stories that were written by a gentleman who liked stories about little boys, and he had people submitting stories, but none of them hold a candle to the ones that are here on DD. Ours are well written, well-thought-out, within the rules, and are more “realistic“ than any story report listed on that site. Our community has a lot of good people in it, and we all have one thing in common: diapers: how when and why we wear them or use them as our business, and who we tell and what is our business. However, if someone comes to us and wonders what is going on, it will be on us as a community here on DD to try to “straighten people out“ when they come across things that are very untrue about our Community.

I also believe that in my heart, that most of my problem is is that they’re always has been the urge to be what I am, way before I knew what I was. What I mean by that is, I had the urge to wear diapers and like diapers when I was eight years old- that was always there, and will be there until the day that I am in the ground. I can’t change what I am, so I accept what I am, because that makes it easy for me. Making the decision to go 24 seven in 2020 was one of the best things that I ever did, because it ends up lowering my stress level a lot, even if it’s not all the way to zero. I refuse to let my emotions get the best of me, and ruin what I have in front of me, simply because I may need to use diapers.  I accept that I need diapers, and as I said on many posts, they serve more than one purpose: the chief of which is to help with my incontinence, some of it is to deal with my “feelings“ and some of it is because it is “fun“ and you have to add that element in order to be able to have a full rounded situation.  My feeling is that if you have the type of person that you feel that you can disclose this to, and that person excepts you for who you are and what you are calling me than you are better off in the long run because hopefully, you will not have to “live in the closet” as a diaper lover, or incontinent person, because they will Understand That you have a physical need, that you have an emotional need, that you have a sexual need, or that you have an emotional need. There are more reasons than just incontinence to wear diapers.  Wearing diapers makes you no less a woman or a man, or a little boy or a little girl in little mode then any other time in your life. A diaper is simply an underwear choice, and that’s all it is Dash if people would understand that then the world would be a lot better off. I mean having to wear a diaper is nothing, and that is the least problematic thing to do. There are a lot of things that happen in this world that are bad, and it is not illegal immoral or criminal to wear a diaper, and then we had reasonably Dash I was lucky because I was able to talk to several of my friends, who understand and accept that I wear – if more people would get to the point where they would accept it, I think the world would be a better place. I know that all people will not accept that, But it is also unhealthy if you have a fetish, and you need to be able to “deal with your feelings or emotions” and you do not do it because you’re afraid you will get caught - failure to deal with your feelings will hurt you in the long run, because you will not be able to be true to yourself. Once you are able to let someone know that you trust about your fetish and your feelings, hopefully that person will accept you for what you are and who you are, and not worry about the small stuff. Wearing a diaper is the least of your worries, but it seems like it can be a marriage destroyer, or a life destroyer depending on who you tell and why you tell them.

that being said, being in this lifestyle is not easy. Even if you are a “veteran“ of the lifestyle, you still have challenges that you have to face. However, if you have the right circle of friends, that know of your use or fetish, because you tell them that, because you trust them, then you should be mostly fine. The problem begins when you have someone who is a closet fetishist who does not disclose, and then decides to “Find a way to deal with his feelings or to release“ and then your significant other decides that is “cheating“ then it becomes a problem. What I am afraid of is that there are people who are closet fetishists who do not disclose, and that could cause marriage difficulty, or mental physical or emotional or psychological problems for that individual, which would end up causing them to have medical problems on top of that. It is bad enough that there are people out there that have to keep hidden, but I understand that there are reasons for this. My feeling is that if you can disclose, And a person is willing to “take you as you are“” love you unconditionally till death do you part“ then you should have no problem diapers not with standing.

I hope that someday there are more people that will accept Will be more accepting of our lifestyle - The problem is is that there are people that don’t understand, and they might not want to understand it, or there are people who want to find out about it, and end up reading all the negative stuff about our lifestyle, and they don’t get it from someone who is knowledgeable in the field or in the lifestyle. I have talked to several people within this community, and they have made me understand what I am dealing with, and I have a better understanding of how to deal with others who may question themselves or what they are feeling. I don’t claim to be someone who knows about everyone’s feelings, but I think I have a pretty good handle on the fact that there people who need support out there, and I will try to be there for as many of them as I can!
 

Brian

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On 1/4/2022 at 2:43 AM, Andy-bozu said:

probably doesn't help but this story just got a short video from  Whang 

 

Thanks for posting that video buddy! I hate reading long paragraphs. LOL!????

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The only thing this guy did illegal was the false pretense , had he just admitted his kink and honestly negotiated his needs ,wants & desired care . He would have been fine . As stupid as trump who for the first time payed a debt he owed , using someone else’s money and lying about it to win an election , had he not cooked the books or stayed out of politics he could pay all the hush money he wanted completely legally with no risk of law breaking , he skated his entire life as a con man , it’s his narcissistic need for one last epic con ,that has directly finally  screwed him as he reaps what he has sowed . 
 

I have legitimate disability and caregivers who are responsible for changing me , the difference being they know about my need to be diapered and changed Fed ,watered , medicated , catheterized ,dressed put in my wheelchair or put in bed as part of my routine daily plan of care . My aides know I need all the care and protections of a full sized special needs adult toddler , I have the mental intellectual abilities of any middle aged college educated guy , with the physical abilities of a toddler ( my aides 11 month old can snatch and hold my candy whereas I can’t even contemplate taking hers ) .

why do people who do this shit ,default to intellectual impairment for needing diaper change ,there’s a whole world legit functional impairments that require diapers ( please know I am not giving  ideas or encouraging dishonesty ) I am a caree now but having been a caregiver , I know trust has to go both ways , I have everything in the house someone would need to keep me sedated and constipated , they could knock me out do minimal diaper changes,food and water  and party with my money .instead I get good care ,respect and correct medication ,proper nutrition and diaper changes every day. Sometimes I think my aide wishes I talked less when I am high , but that’s a different story .

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14 hours ago, Cruiser 03 said:

why do people who do this shit ,default to intellectual impairment for needing diaper change ,there’s a whole world legit functional impairments that require diapers ( please know I am not giving  ideas or encouraging dishonesty ) I am a caree now but having been a caregiver , I know trust has to go both ways , I have everything in the house someone would need to keep me sedated and constipated , they could knock me out do minimal diaper changes,food and water  and party with my money .instead I get good care ,respect and correct medication ,proper nutrition and diaper changes every day. Sometimes I think my aide wishes I talked less when I am high , but that’s a different story .

@Cruiser 03

I don't know why people do that either. I can understand that people are incontinent, I can understand that people like diapers, and I can understand that helps them in some ways or others. the one thing that I can't quite get is the fact that there are some people out there that love to see what can happen if they can get someone to feel sorry for them or otherwise do something to "fake it".

when you are disabled and you are reliant on people to help you, and I mean something like 24/7 care or daily care., These people are there to help you. for that for that to happen, you have to end up forming a bond of trust, And if you find that bond in it continues, after a while it won't be a problem because, because both sides know exactly what is going on, and they know what they're supposed to do and they know what they're not supposed to do. the problem lies in the fact that there are some people who do this type of work, and they might try to take advantage of their client or the person they're helping, And sometimes that could be physical mental emotional type of abuse or worse, or they end up taking something financially, which could be something that could be considered exploitation of a vulnerable adult. This is a crime and I've seen people get in trouble for it here in the state of Vermont and all over the place.

This is why it's important to have the best caregiver you can have, and one that knows exactly what is expected of him or her, as well as to understand that they're there to help you, not to try to take something away from you or make it harder for you to function. it's bad enough that someone may be disabled, and is in need of services like this, but the problem is there are certain people who take care of hive needs adults that might try to take advantage of a situation, And if they do, that is something that I call a breach of professional conduct and professional integrity. When you have someone who is trained to take care of you, their most important job is to do exactly that, not to try to take something from you when you're not looking or try to make it look like they're not doing something when they are. Being disabled, you have to be on the watch for this type of behavior, and even when you are an older adult, this can happen because your children or your grandchildren or your aunt or your uncles or whoever it is that takes that takes care of you can try to exploit you. this is something that I absolutely positively cannot stand!

As I said it's bad enough to be disabled, and it's bad enough to have to have round the clock care like this. when you have run the clock care or you have specialized help, you have the expectation and the right to be treated with respect, and always treated with care and courtesy. Professionals like that are not supposed to take advantage of the vulnerable adults or people under their care, they are there because a person or persons cannot do the activities of daily living that everybody takes for granted, and when you're disabled, even simplest things can be more difficult for them. This is why I've always said that there's wish somebody out there worse off than I am, and that's what I remember, because there's always somebody that needs more help than I am in need in need of, and I am proud to be able to do whatever it is that I can do for myself, the rest of it, I let somebody else handle.

Diapers::  As far as people wanting to wear diapers, we have a lot of people out there who may want to wear them for whatever reason. I have no problem with this and I support anyone who wants to do it, because that's their choice, and I am in no position to say otherwise. however, when you have a person who is disabled, and needs to use diapers and needs the support of individuals, faking something is not appropriate. If somebody wants to wear diapers, they should do it. they should also realize that they are responsible for their own actions, and they need to be able to do it in appropriate ways inappropriate situations location. Just like when you are an AB or a DL, you don't want to force your kink on to somebody else, or expose it to somebody who does not wish to know about it or participate in it. If you have an individual that is helping you as a support person, i've always stated that the best thing that you can do is to keep a professional relationship professional and a personal one personal, Because if you have a professional that is doing things to help you, and they know of your kink or whatever, and they do something like that, the wrong person finds out, and then the state finds out and a whole bunch of stuff happens.  This is why it's very very important to keep the professional side professional the personal side personal, And if you have somebody that is willing to do it for you on a personal level, don't mix it with your professionals. In your personal life is your own business, what a professional does for you in in support of your activities of daily living such as showering toileting diapering dressing or whatever it is they do, they do it because they're there to help you, and you should remember that. Believe me I do know the limits, and I am right on top of it from the start. if I don't know something or don't understand something, I can pick up the phone and make a phone call, and find out if something is allowed or not. His comment it can be added to my plan, if it is not, then I can be told it is not, That way no one in the agency that supports me gets in trouble. the idea here is to maintain professional relationships where they belong and personal ones are kept between consenting adults providing whatever support and services they do on a personal level.

As far as people who try to expose people to our kink doing it the wrong way, and by wrong way I mean by doing things that people in our community would not do, and try to draw unwanted or unneeded attention to themselves, there are people out there who for some reason may not be " all there" and as such they do things that they shouldn't do, and they act like streakers are people who do things for shock value. i've heard many times on the news in my local area people that ask people on the street to change them or whatever it is that they do, and I've heard it at least three or four times. These type of people, may need mental health assistance or some medical assistance, so I'm not going to say that's these guys are totally out of it, but I sincerely hope that these people get they need. It is one thing to enjoy a diaper fetish or enjoy what you do with your friends and close confidants, it's another to allow it to it to be something that can be put in our spotlight, when we don't need negative attempt attention. people that need diapers, should have them, people that want to wear them, should have them, but they need to know when it is appropriate to use them and when it is not, and use their common sense. people who would come out and ask somebody on the street to change them Probably don't have that particular common sense working the way it should be.

I think most of the time when you have people in that position, they probably want the attention, and they want somebody to do that for them because they have some sort of need.  wearing diapers is a need, wearing diapers is a choice, but they have to make sure that they're not drawing undue attention and negative attention to themselves or other community. People that need diapers for all intents and purposes should have them, and people that need them for whatever reason should have them as well.

Brian

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