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[Newbee]

I think I like wearing nappies more than I thought today is only the 3rd time I’ve worn them but I couldn’t wait to get home from work to put one on so does this mean I like wearing them more than I first thought and if so what now?

[Wet Knight]

12 minutes ago, Newbee said:

I think I like wearing nappies more than I thought today is only the 3rd time I’ve worn them but I couldn’t wait to get home from work to put one on so does this mean I like wearing them more than I first thought and if so what now?

 

It means that you are going to waste a lot of your life and a lot of money.

[Newbee]

I had to change out of my nappy and into regular undies and they felt great too although a bit thin so what does all this mean someone please help me to figure this out as this is all still very new to me and I’m not sure how I’m supposed to feel

[Bettypooh]

Feeling overwhelmed are we? I think most of us felt that when we first allowed ourselves to begin wearing diapers. More than anything, with any pleasant experience you want more, so sometimes you worry that it will take over and not leave you the choice to stop  Sometimes that is exactly what happens, though usually it doesn't. That's the real meaning of this and it would be the same if instead of diapers it was the underwear of a different gender that you wanted to wear. 

So now what- how far are you going to go? Nobody knows that but anything is possible. Just remember that you can still choose any option you want to. Most simply end up wearing occasionally, and some end up wearing full-time. I'm 24/7 now and after about ten years of wearing it's not a problem at all for me. Some people discover or have a "Little" side, some find they are AB, some wear for fetish fulfillment, some wear for the comfort it brings them, and some wear so they can get away from bladder control. All s good 

Right now you are discovering what diapers are to you. That is exactly the thing to be doing! Just step back and think clearly now and then to assess where you are with this, what you're doing with it and how that affects the rest of your life, and whether you are happy with all that. The euphoria of newness passes in time with experience, a and ' new' happens only once so just enjoy it and see where it takes you. If wearing diapers makes your life better then just go for the happiness, but don't just go crazy with it. You've got the rest of your life to figure all this out so go slowly and explore what this is for you. As long as it's not hurting someone then there is nothing wrong with it and there's nothing wrong with you either 

Bettypooh

[rusty pins]

Try this and I don't mean to sound crude here.  Next time you are wearing a diaper, masterbate in it.  After ejaculating, see how you feel about wearing a diaper.  I'm serious about this as most guys who do this lose all interest in diapers for a few days (if you search the forum posts you will find a lot of threads about it).  Many do what they call "Binge & Purge" meaning they buy packs of diapers but after masterbation they lose all interest in diapers and get rid of them, feeling shame and disgust for wearing a diaper in the first place.  After a while they get the urge again and go out and binge on more diapers.

I've worn diapers recreationally for about 50 years.  I love when I wear and use them but they are only a small part of my life.  I treat diapers as just one more interest or hobby.  I used to hunt, I have 2 fishing boats, go to the casino, have a pilot's license, have flown R/C planes for over 40 years and have model trains.  I have many interests.  The thing is balance and moderation.  It's easy to let the diaper fetish take control of your life if you let it.  Bettypooh makes excellent points.  The more you do it, the better it feels and the more confidence you get.  For example, sometimes people are scared to go out in public with a diaper on thinking everyone will know what they are wearing.  They work up the nerve to go out and may go to the corner store for a box of oatmeal or the local fruit stand for some strawberries.  Just a short trip and they are nervous about it.  After they get home and realize no one was paying attention to it, they relax and say, "That wasn't so bad".  They do it again but for a longer period.  The more no one notices the more positive they feel about doing it.  Positive reinforcement.  They do it more and more until they just don't think about the fact that they are wearing diapers anymore.  It's natural, and some people actually get to the point where they wish someone did notice they were wearing diapers.  The more you do it without any negative actions, the better you feel about it and the more you want to keep doing it.

All things in moderation though.  It's perfectly fine to wear your diapers and enjoy them if you keep a good healthy balance between them and the rest of your regular life.  When you start turning down invitations to go out to a movie or ball game with your friends or your bowling night because you would rather stay home and wear your diapers, that is when the fetish has taken control of your life.  You might find yourself losing concentration on your job because all you can think about is getting home and putting on your diapers.  That can be dangerous depending on what type of job you have, and it could cause you problems if your job performance starts to suffer.  Some people get to the point where they start to wear diapers to work hoping no one will notice, then they start wearing them almost all the time and eventually get to the point where they don't care who knows they wear diapers.  At that point some people don't care anymore and go 24/7 in their diapers.  They have lost control of their previous lifestyle for a diaper lifestyle.  That's fine if that is truly what they want, but that didn't happen to many of them over night.  The desires gradually kept getting stronger and stronger until they became full time diaper wearers.  If you are in the early stages of diaper wearing and don't want to become a slave to your diaper feelings as they get stronger and stronger, you have to keep those feelings in check.  It's actually more fun and hightens the experience if you plan ahead for a special day or time to enjoy your diapers.  That way you look forwards in anticipation for that day to come and it makes it all the better.  Just wearing all the time can be fun for a lot of people but also a chore for many.  It's not as much fun when it's your daily routien instead of a once or twice a week thing.  What would you feel like if you loved to play golf and that was your favorite hobby.  All of a sudden, you wake up every single day of your life and have to go to the golf course and play golf all day long.  It might be fun at first, but then it's the next morning and the morning after that, every day for the rest of your life.  Then it's not so much fun anymore.

What has worked for me for almost 50 years (and I have been a DL since I was about 5 years old) is moderation.  No one knows I like wearing diapers and I will never tell anyone.  I wear 2 or 3 mornings a week when I get up early for about 3 to 4 hours or if I go out of town running errands for the day, I will wear all day long changing in restrooms with outer door locks when I need to.  That doesn't happen as often as it did when I was younger but 3 or 4 times a year I will spend the day running errands out of town in my diapers.  The rest of the time I am just a regular normal guy going about my life.  I may think about diapers now and then but I keep those feelings in control until the planned day I will wear diapers.  Then it's back to normal again.  It's OK to have those feelings for wearing diapers and enjoy wearing them when you do, I just think it's a good idea to keep a balance between them and your regular life so those feelings don't start to take over and control you instead of you controling them.

[Newbee]

You guys are great you have given me some great advice. You have made me feel better about myself I really thought that my thoughts and desire to wear a nappy was wrong but you have made me see that it can be the most natural thing in the world and that I’m in control of the situation. My thoughts are still all over the place but I hope that with time my head will get clear on this matter, I guess only time will tell. Once again thankyou and if you have any advice on all things dl I would love to hear it.

[Bettypooh]

Time will tell, and time will reduce the urges to a more controllable level, which is how anything new and good goes. And if you like them, diapers are good, not bad  Just remember that they are only a part of your life- they need not define you or control you 

Bettypooh

[vvp39]

Sometimes when you've learned a lot of new information about something that's really important to you, even if it's something you are intellectually okay with, it can take some time to become emotionally okay with it. Maybe that's just another way of saying "I hope that with time my head will get clear on this matter, I guess only time will tell."

[Newbee]

Well I've decided that today I'm going to spend the whole day in diapers and see how that makes me feel I think after today it will give me a better idea of how much time I want to be in them. You have all been great Thankyou.

[Britnee]

sigh...I envy you.  I remember when I felt that excited and could barely get the diaper on for obvious reasons.  Now, while I still get excited (because...DUHH...), to have the same issues of barely able to get them on requires my fiancee/mommy which, if I'm honest, is okay with me since I don't like doing anything super sexual without her anyway so it kinda works out.

my first piece of advice is to just enjoy it.  My second is after the initial OOOOOOOO......phase is over (probs about a week or so) take a step back by not wearing them for about the same amount of time. This is just to be sure those feelings aren't simply because of some form of taboo excitement from trying something new and "naughty" (and by naughty I mean against the social norms to enjoy wearing an adult diaper not that wearing them is bad).  Reason I bring this up is because for some it can be similar to an adrenaline junkie moving from rollercoasters to bungee jumping, to sky diving or mountain climbers going from a traditional belay climb style to a faster speed style like Simul climbing or from solo climbing to free solo.  Meaning, once you don't have that "high" anymore you find something else to fill that void and that can and has lead people down some dark paths. (don't want to be a downer or anything just want you to to be aware).

Main thing right now is enjoy and later figure out what it is you like about it and what you (maybe) don't.

[dlnoir]

The thing I would advise you it to look at the whole experience with an open mind and remember you are harming no one. You will have to find out what it all means to you and how you can make it a part of your life. For sure you will come across cross roads which will fill your head with doubt and maybe even disgust. The hardest part actually may be coming to terms with your own feelings and if you get involved in a relationship do I tell my significant other. Take things slow, first try to figure out are diapers really the thing you want and desire. If so it can help you to avoid binge and purge cycles, they cost you a fortune that I can tell from personal experience. Use a helicopter view to monitor your learning curve and desires. You can ask others for advice and tips, they can be very useful no doubt about that, yet most important is to be true to yourself you get only one life to live.

 

[rusty pins]

And most of all remember!  You can wear and have fun with diapers anytime you feel like it and as much as you want to.  Keep in mind there is an on AND off switch!  Just because you wear a diaper doesn't mean once you have worn one you now have to wear them all the time for the rest of your life!  Maybe wear at home but not to work.  Maybe wear all weekend long 24/7 but not during the week.  Maybe wear on odd days and not on even days.  You can vary how much you wear diapers from just a few hours a couple days a week all the way up to 24/7/365.  You are not locked in to one thing with diapers.  Just because you love wearing diapers doesn't mean you have to always wear them.  Decide for yourself just how often you want to be in diapers.

[Newbee]

I did wear a nappy all day today for the first time just to see if wearing them for a long period of time was for me, and I must say that at this stage it’s not even though I do find them comfortable I did find it a struggle to keep going through with my personal challenge through the second half of the day so for me atm I think this means I am only comfortable wear a nappy for a couple of hours at a time weather that turns into everyday I don’t know yet time will tell. One thing this challenge did do for me was I now know definitely that I do want to wear nappies and that it is now a part of my little life.

[Guest]

I go along with your suggestions and advice  about when to wear and refrain from weariing diapers. But myself being incontinent, I don't really have a choice now since age is a factor. I will admit that I became attracted to diapers and plastic pants (rubber pants) when I was around the age of 5. This I think was brought on because of my bedwetting and pants pooping accidents as a kid.

Now that I have the problem with incontinence and need protection 24/7, I am not that concerned if someone notices that I might be wearing and not being stressed out about it.