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Are you progressing as a DL?

Feeling good about things. Wearing a diaper more days than not. Having no trouble wetting, shy bladder not an issue. Not having guilt issues. I'm learning more about being a DL and have come to admit to myself that I am. While I've kept being a DL to myself, I've found this forum to be helpful and supportive in expressing how I feel.

Are you progressing and where to go from here?

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My biggest issue to embracing my DLness to the fullest is just having the time. I get so tired of the extra effort of having to deal with cleaning and disposing that it just becomes a consideration often but then I'm just like nah.

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I have gone from wanting to wear diapers at age 7 to wearing diapers full time now at age 53.

Back when I turned 18 I decided I wanted to need to wear diapers, so I started wearing as often as I could, than I started wearing daily, from there it went to diapers 24/7.  Now I can no longer go without a diaper on for fear of either wetting or messing my pants. I however have no complaints about now needing diapers, as it is what I had always hopped for. 

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I have gone from it being a hugely sexual thing to more comfort. The purge and binge and  guilt after masturbating is gone and I feel quite content wearing 24/7 and being enthusiastic to re-nappy myself after I've orgasmed. I now wear daily and can wet very easily.

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12 hours ago, iluvmydiapers said:

I have gone from wanting to wear diapers at age 7 to wearing diapers full time now at age 53.

Back when I turned 18 I decided I wanted to need to wear diapers, so I started wearing as often as I could, than I started wearing daily, from there it went to diapers 24/7.  Now I can no longer go without a diaper on for fear of either wetting or messing my pants. I however have no complaints about now needing diapers, as it is what I had always hopped for. 

We must be related, I have been trying to lose control since 7 or 8. I finely went 24/7 at age 44, now at 56 to quote you "I can no longer go without a diaper on for fear of either wetting or messing my pants. I however have no complaints about now needing diapers, as it is what I had always hopped for".

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About 4 years ago I had seen a pic of a guy online wearing a very cute girly print baby pullup diaper. Being into cute and fem I decided I had to get some to try. Little did I know then that things would progress to the point where I would become a 'real deal' DL, but boy I sure am. I was hooked immediately after putting one on. What really sealed the deal was when I decided what the heck and relaxed to let the pee flow.  Boy was I hooked. Of course didn't take me long to graduate to the real adult diapers. I've finally settled into a routine that involves wearing them every night. Thankfully my wife accepted the fact that I wanted to do that. I've now progressed to the point where I want one on during the day as well. I just don't feel right if I don't have one on. Weird huh??  I've found that pullups with a booster pad work for me during the day as it makes it easy to stop at the rest room to do number 1 or number 2. I don't mess in mine. Hard even for me to believe I have gotten to this point.

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Are you progressing as a DL? Good question. It is Personal but I would say yes absolutely. My memories go back to the age of three maybe four years old. Thinking about it I can still see myself sitting on a stool playing the organ my parents used to own. Back then I wore mostly at night and sometimes during the day if I asked my mom to put a diaper on me, I felt comfortable to ask for one. Nowadays I wear full time at the age of 52. I found as I came to terms with my desires and more so that I wasn’t the only one (I was 31 when I found out I wasn’t the only one) it became harder to resist the desires to wear 24/7 and to use them for their intent and purpose, only for number one that is. So for me it has always been a slippery slope while others are able to resist the desire to wear more often. It is all depending on your personallity and strength

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LOL!  This just came to me after reading your post dlnoir.  I bet a lot of people here sit on their "stool" playing their "organ".  Or should I say sitting in their stool playing with their organ all diapered up and messy.

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I would say yes. I've come here to this community, and recently I find myself diapered pretty much always due to some changing gears in my life... My work life is going to allow me to wear as often as I please now, and really, if I stop to think about it, ideally I'd like to commit the rest of my life to being diapered and having to rely on them for my freedom. I don't know about fecal incontinence honestly, but if I were to acquire the ability as well as the struggles involved with dribbling out all over the place all the time, I would be happy with it.

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I have progressed as far as I am going to in my current situation since I get plenty of time to use on my weekends and I don't have any desire to wear and use diapers more often.

Now if I was living with a Mommy and not single I definitely would be using diapers more often, but I'm content as is for now.

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I would say yes, and at the same time I would also say that I'm close/at where I'd like to be goalwise.  My goal is simply wearing (not necessarily using, I would like to retain potty training control) 24/7.  Ideally that would be some sort of daytime pullup for work, and a tape-on diaper for home use. The pullup concept is so I can both use the toilet as needed at work, an also to keep overall cost of diapers low.

On the same thread though, I feel like I may have surpassed some of my earlier ideas/goals.  I was always a DL, and never indended to take much of an interest in onesies or pacifiers, and now on top of those items I also own an adorable diaper bag and a few AB styled shirts/clothes (yay being petite, I fit into size 12-14 kids)

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I have worn and wet at night for over twenty years and never minded washing my cloth diapers every other day or so.  I find it a comfort that I am taking care of myself. 

Although I didn't wear to work and am now seven years into retirement, this last fall I started wearing my cloth diapers and plastic pants more often during the day and found that I was gaining more confidence in myself for doing so.  I could wear under my jeans in the company of others and not worry about discovery (no one seemed to notice anyway). I checked  in a full-length mirror first and felt that it isn't really all that noticeable. So, since New Years, I wear all the time. 

 I have discovered that by avoiding caffeine, even an older,  thinner pre-fold doesn't flood and can be worn for one or two hours after it is wet without leaking.   Like many on here have discovered with constant wearing, they tend to wet more frequently but in smaller amounts, giving the diaper more time to absorb the wetness.

Wetting during the day is fun but I tend to want to use it only when it is inconvenient to use a toilet like when driving, gardening, shopping or going to the cinema. I know, I am only fooling myself that this is somehow a justification for wearing but it satisfies me and I can also be sure that I will always be able to control it when I have to.  Even Littlelolikat of the Dotty Diaper Company recommends keeping some control in one of her videos. 

I learned that an  advantage of cloth is that it can be pinned loosely enough that it can be  pulled down  like regular underwear to use a toilet when it would be inappropriate to be wet; something that I found was a real struggle in a disposable diaper. 

I also learned that by wearing all the time,  I am not being nagged by my mind constantly that I could be enjoying the comfort of a diaper right now.

I found a website recently  on the subject of accepting oneself as a DL ( I think it was  Wikihow). It recommended keeping a journal about these kinds of conditions that will enable a person to look back on past events and not be affected by the emotions of the present. I may try that but I keep recalling someone saying that you should never write down what you don't want anyone else to read - Yet another challenge!

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i feel that i have progressed some as a DL. it had become easier for me to wet when i am diapered again. i was able to easily wet years ago, to the point of waking up in wet diapers, but stopped wearing shortly after because of my living situation. now i have the freedom to wear diapers whenever i feel like it! however, finances are now against me lol after some projects wrap up, i'll buy more. 

guilt is still present. mostly thoughts that more than likely aren't there. my g/f isn't much for diapers, and i feel that sometimes diapers get in the way of our own intimacy and driving a slight wedge in between us. not a huge wedge, but a wedge none the less. i know she doesn't mind my diapers, and encourages and supports me, but the negative thoughts are still there. 

that being said i do feel that i am more in touch with who i am as a diaper lover. im not sure if i have fully accepted myself yet, but i am definitely more accepting than i was years ago. i've been trying out more varieties of diapers, wearing my onesies more, ordering more clothing and just enjoying myself more and more. i get the urges every so often to go 24/7 and even the desire to untrain myself at times so i can wear more and have a reason/excuse to. but these pass quickly enough, and i remember how much of an upheaval, change and financial load it would be. 

soon enough i hope to expand my collection of diapers, onesies and plastic pants so that i can wear most whenever im home so can relax and enjoy even more than i currently do.

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35 years as an active DL has certainly seem some progression.

  • I can wet anywhere and anytime (standing, sitting, laying down, walking, driving).

  • I can mess anywhere and anytime.

  • I can sleep soundly like a baby (utterly unbothered if my diaper is wet and/or wet and messy)

  • At night if diapered I will wake up and wet then have a moment of panic when I realise I *think* I am diapered but I haven’t actually checked.

  • Diapers are more about comfort than sex and I have no desire to take them off after sex

  • My bladder cruise range is nowhere near what it once was and a diaper can be a godsend

Unfortunately, as good as I’ve gotten at being a DL, my partner’s tolerance has faded.  I have a deep longing to experiment with some 24x7 but I just can't see it happening without a catastrophic effect on a marriage. 

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I can't say I can track any "progression" anymore. After I had my back re-injured at work last year I've had bouts of bladder and bowel weakness or incontinence. I can gauge if they'll happen by how bad my back is bothering me. If It's bad enough I'll stay 2~3 days in diapers or until the pain subsides back to a dull, acute ache. It's an adjustment, but I'd rather be protected than try to explain a puddle or smell.

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Tomorrow will be a big day for me when I wear diapers to see my doctor for a pre-op physical for a knee replacement.  I have worn diapers to bed since 2008 and diapers 24/7 since 2012, but I have never worn to my primary care doctor.  I told my original doctor (now retired) about my bedwetting and he referred me to a specialist who diagnosed me having OAB and UI, so it must be in my records.

But there will be no way I can undergo surgery and spend any time in the hospital without wearing diapers.  So, thus begins a new progression, medically, in my life as a DL.

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FYI, and you may find this out when you go for all the pre-op information prior to your knee replacement.  I had my knee replaced June 2016, my brother had one knee replaced this past September and the other one this past December.  In the pre operation meetings we were told that we (all the knee and hip replacement people in the meeting) would have a catheter inserted not only for the operation but over night as well so that we would get a good nights sleep.  Perhaps you can specify diapers instead, but the plan is catheter for the first 24 hours at least.  Usually they remove the cath the morning after your surgery.  Let me know if that is what they tell you and if diapers are something you can request instead.  Keep in mind you will be on a lot of pain meds and though they get you up walking the same day with a walker, you will be spending 6 hours a day, 2 hours at a time on a machine that will flex your new knee and leg, both while in the hospital and then for another 2 or more weeks at home.  The second and third days will be the worst with pain.  While you may be able to wear diapers instead of the cath, I expect the first night you will be in a cath no matter what you request just due to the trama, bandages and condition of your leg and knee.  You will have presure stockings on your legs to help prevent blood clots and with all that will be going on with therapy and nursing care for your leg and knee, the changing of diapers for staff (you won't be able to do it yourself right away) might be too much and could cause too much unusual movement of your leg and knee the first couple of days with all that has been done and all that is going on.  Keep I mind that they want you to flex your knee straight up and down on the machine, but moving your leg or twisting it in any other positions, such that would be needed to change your diapers or having to roll you on one side or the other in order to slip a dry diaper undernieth you would put stresses on your leg and knee that are not good for it.  Hospitals have other ways of dealing with incontinence issues other than diapers out of necessity based on what type of surgery you are having and your recovery time, such as catheters for bladder issues.   I wish you luck and hope for your diapers in the hospital, but frankly, with all you will be going through I personally would take the catheter if I had a choice and looking back on my own surgery, I would be glad for it instead of diapers based on all I went through the first 2 days.

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I was progressing a lot as a DL, I started growing confident in using/wearing a diaper everywhere. Especially in a public setting. I was continuing too fall deeper into the DL lifestyle, Until I decided to try using a pacifier for the first time as an experiment. That's when I realized that I'm not just into the DL lifestyle but more into the AB lifestyle. That's when my progression stopped because at that point, I had "unlocked" a new part of my life and just explored that area. But, needless to say. I'm making a quick comeback, on the fact I finally can buy diapers with the tapes, instead of the pull up ones. They work so much better :lol:

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Caths are evil. Knee replacements have come a long way since I had mine done in 2009, and now the pain management is so extremely localized that you will be up and walking within 6 hours. My neighbor was back home and walking our to his mail box (800+ feet) within 24 hours. So go ahead and tell them you prefer diapers if you do not like UTIs, it's your choice.

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Speaking from experience, I few years back, I had both my knees replaced(full knee replacement), one in January and the other in December.  In each case, I was in hospital for 3 days including day of surgery. 

For the first knee, they did use a catheter, removing it on the third day.  That experience was more to recover from than the surgery, and I was sore for more than a month due to my prostrate issues. 

With the second surgery, I insisted that they do not use a catheter, explaining why in pre op interviews.  Day of surgery, just prior to going into the surgery theater, a nurse tried to put a cath into me and I was alert enough yet to put a stop to that.   

After surgery and in my room, it was well through the first day after several trips up from bed and into bathroom, that I convinced nurse that I might not make it the next time, and best to use a diaper to avoid a wet bed, which was agreed to.

Unfortunately, all that was available were the thin pull ups so had to avoid a full out flood but was able to do that over the course of the next couple days.

The point, if you don't want to use a catheter, that is your choice (providing there is some logic to it) and the hospital has to respect that.  They do have other means to deal with difficulty to get into a bathroom, so you may have to be insistent as I was.

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I sure appreciate all of you sharing your own experiences to help me with mine.  I think I will wear diapers to the hospital and then we can discuss them before the operation.  I will also bring some of my own to wear while in the hospital for recovery.  Hopefully they will let me use them.

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