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PLEASE READ. 22m I told my fiance 20fm about my little secret .. A message of hope for young people in search of acceptance from a partner! Discuss partner reactions/reasons you are scared to tell here !


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Hi guys. I am a 22 year old male Adult Baby. I like wearing and being babied, and I am really into the sex side of the fetish. One day, on total impulse and also because the selection of fetish videos is unsatisfying after awhile. The other day I decided to tell my girlfriend of 9 months about my little secret.. I was very nervous about doing so. 

My last ex was somewhat accepting.  She never wanted to talk about any aspect of it and made me feel really weird about having this fetish.. like it was a flaw she reluctantly put up with..  when I broke up with her threatened to tell everyone in our circle (we live in a small town) about my fetish. Her exact words were "how dare you break up with me, i accepted your weird ass fetish.. no one else ever will. "

 

Harsh and it cut me deep. Never thought I could trust anyone with my secret again. I wondered for years if she spilled about my secret to everyone and lived in fear and shame of my secret. My anxiety skyrocketed and I lost my job, house and spiraled into deep drug addiction thinking the whole town had made me an outcast and thought I was a weirdo or pervert. She kept close ties with my family so I pushed them away as well, thinking she had likely told them about my secret and they thought of me different. 

 

Two years passed and the scars began to heal. I met a great woman who had a son that I took in as my own. She pulled me out of a dark dark addiction to IV Meth and helped me heal. Sex was good and happened daily.  We always both got off. She treats me so good that I knew something i couldnt control  (like a fetish) would neveer make her love me less and my urges were beginning to take a toll on our relationship. I masturbated alot to AB stuff to get my fix.

 

I decided to ease into it. One day during sex I asked her to baby talk to me. she noticed this got me really aroused (more than usual) and took it further.. she called me her "baby boy" and I decided to take the final step.

 

I crawled into bed with a diaper under my shorts. (Goodnite XLs) because money was tight. To my surprise she was into it because i was. and she now lets me wear during sex. Thats as far as its went so far. She was really interested in the fetish and told me she wished i would have been honest sooner. She said she didnt think it was weird. And would allow it because "you cant help thats what you like."

 

She asked me to show her the porn on the matter so she could partake better and i am wondering if you all had any suggestions about what to show her or what the next step should be?.. I figured no wetting or messing stuff and just roleplay videos as I dont want to scare her off.

 

She doesnt make me feel weird about it like my ex did, she constantly asks if shes doing it right and wants to know how to please me. Just know that there are people out there who will love you enough to accept ANYTHING about you. You simply have to have confidence  bringing up your fetish/whatever it is you have because thats YOU and if that isnt good enough for someone than **** them!!! :) I now could give a ***** if my ex told the whole town, because the one person that matters sees that it makes me happy and that is okay with that.

 

We are also a normal looking couple surprisingly. Since we as a community dont get to see eachother in person that much. Here is a jpg of her and I. :) I would like to make AB friends around my age. Girls and guys! Please hit me up!!!

 

I dont want her feeling uncomfortable or move too fast for her. Need this forums help and figured this would be a good place to discuss your partners' reactions when you told them.

 

And if you havent, I may be able to help as I have gotten 2 Non ABDL partners to let me partake so far:) I would advise to be careful who you tell. Your dirty laundry can quickly become everyone's comedy in the age of social media. 

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  • 1 month later...

Well I’m apologize in advance for bad grammar and punctuation.

but I told my girlfriend about my love for diaper about 8-10 months into Are relationship.i have never told anyone else only her And I am happy to say I made the right choice because we have been dating for 4 years now and I  intend to marry her one day but anyway.

It started off with me telling her I want to show her something and not to freak out she said ok so I went into my closet and put on the agile pull-ups I had at the time scariest moment of my life I walked out and she saw them and didn’t freak and we started making out and having sex with me in them.after that i slowly progressed into telling her more about what I liked about wearing diapers and getting more baby items.first thing I got was actual diapers just plan white and once they came in I asked her if she could put me in one which she did.then it progressed into getting some onesies.pinky’s,bottles things like that.then I actually got the adult baby diapers with print on them and she actually thought they were very cute.it was awhile before other items came into play though and it turned out she started to really enjoy it as well just because it was something special between us and she loved how she could drive me crazy when I’m in them.i don’t know exactly what you want from it but I would just say take it slow and show her what you want a little at a time unless she asks for everything all at once.atleast that’s what worked for me.if she loves you and it sounds like she does she will except it you just need to figure out we’re her Comfort level ends or if they end at all there are certain things my girlfriend does not like and won’t do with me but I had to ask to figure those things out.

also to my knowledge almost all the porn for age play does wetting/changing and stuff like that so idk if you want to show her and say you don’t like that or what but that’s up to you.

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I told my girlfriend ( who is now my wife) about my desires in a subtle way and she seemed really accepting. After we were married, I brought it up from time to time but nothing ever got anywhere. Then she got pregnant. Now, we're attending baby showers and my house is flooded with diapers and bottles and it's a constant reminder of something I was trying so hard to suppress. Everything came to a head one night, and she told me that she didn't think I was serious. We hit a dark place, I went to counseling, and I thought very seriously about ending my life. I thought everyone would be better off and I wouldn't hurt anymore. But I didn't. She finally told me that she would try to do this for me once our kid was a little grown. She didn't want to change diapers all day. Then our second child came along. And I've still tried so hard to push this away, because I love my wife, but ,as my name says, I feel so conflicted and torn and not whole. I try to wait patiently for something that may or may not come. It's like Schrodinger's Diaper. Now, if I start talking about being babied, she assumes that it's just because I'm stressed out. And that that reminds me that this is a null issue for her.
So I come here hoping to talk to people who know and understand, maybe some vicarious living through those who have their desires affirmed. 

I guess I just love my wife more than I love myself, because there are times I don't really know who I am anymore.

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I haven’t yet told my girlfriend and we have been together for 6 years. I’m just scared of what she will think when I tell her and I’m scared if she thinks it’s weird she might kick me out and I will have to move back in with my parents. I’m also nervous if I tell her and her boys find out what they will think. It also doesn’t help we live in a small town. I wish I could get up the courage to tell her and that she would be ok with it and could add it to our role play that we could do when her boys are gone. I would really like to have her diaper me and baby me when we have alone time.

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Rather than focusing on your fetish, why not give some thought to hers?  A good place to begin is with the classics, and the most insightful of them all is Nancy Friday's MY SECRET GARDEN.  Next, itemize your own fantasies and/or fetishes.  Even if you don't realize it, you undoubtedly have more than one to play around with.  Why not start with something more commonplace than a diaper fetish, but still unusual?  How about a food fetish?  Pouring chocolate sauce over her sensitive spots and licking it off is a good one.  Is she ticklish?  Tell her that you have been dreaming about tying her to the bed (with scarfs) and then taking your time exploring her body with a feather (go out and buy one beforehand that you can show to her).  Do you want to joint the Mile High club?  The idea is to ease into it by focusing on her rather than yourself.  If she finds any of this exciting, I guarantee you that at some point she will broach the subject of your deepest darkest fantasies.  If you have more than one, lay them all out and let her choose how to run with it.  If you are patient, you can get a yes or no about any particular fetish without putting the relationship at risk. 

The hard part comes if she won't play ball.  Then you have to ask yourself whether you are in the right relationship.  I divorced my first wife when it became clear that our differences were indeed irreconcilable.  But this opened the door to a series of wonderful relationships, including two long and very good marriages ended only by death.  As Snugglebear wrote earlier, life is about making choices.     

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@Babypantsi will try what you just said and I will itemize my own fantasies and fetishes and let her know about some of my other ones first like my doctor fetish and my cheerleader fetish and some of my fantasies like playing doctor with her and yes I do have some food ones like whip cream on certain areas and being blindfolded and tied up and then see if that leads to us telling each other more our fantasies and maybe our deep dark fantasies and fetishes. 

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45 minutes ago, Goodniteslover89 said:

@Babypantsi will try what you just said and I will itemize my own fantasies and fetishes and let her know about some of my other ones first like my doctor fetish and my cheerleader fetish and some of my fantasies like playing doctor with her and yes I do have some food ones like whip cream on certain areas and being blindfolded and tied up and then see if that leads to us telling each other more our fantasies and maybe our deep dark fantasies and fetishes. 

Food is good, but I strongly recommend that you read Gael Greene's Delicious Sex to refine your ideas.  If your partner likes movies, see if you can track down Tom Jones, which has a fantastic food/sex scene.  Another good one is From Here to Eternity, with its fabulous love scene in the Hawaiian surf between Burt Lancaster and Deborah Kerr.  Movies make good ice breakers because they are visual, and give a guy natural lead-ins.  Keep the focus on her, make her feel special, and show her that you have a romantic side.  Isn't there a beach somewhere in Lake of the Ozarks country that you would like to take her to? 

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I told my girlfriend and she insistes I wear every night when I get home from work. She says my shoulders look amazing in a onesie and even wants to go to capcon next year (yay) . She was 100% vanilla when we met. There is always a chance. Stay positive y'all

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I got no response to the question as I have no partner and don't really want one. See I met the girls my age in my area and they are all sluts. They enjoy the fuck and ditch party and that isn't me. If I'm going to have a partner it is for life because I will have a family with that partner it isn't fair to child to bring them into a fucked up home and so I choose not to have a partner. 

Had a doctor loose their shit meeting a 35yo virgin. I said I'm old school 😏

I mean honestly did this doctor that looked like he just got out of a damn bar fight think saying it isn't normal for someone your age to never have had at least 1 std. Are you fucking kidding me that is your encouragement go get a deiease to fit in with a bunch of horney sluts in the area ? Na fuck that shit man. 

On 6/26/2023 at 8:25 PM, TigerTy said:

I told my girlfriend and she insistes I wear every night when I get home from work. She says my shoulders look amazing in a onesie and even wants to go to capcon next year (yay) . She was 100% vanilla when we met. There is always a chance. Stay positive y'all

Man the term vanilla is useless for ABDL 😂

Just thought you should know that unless you are saying she was sweet as pediashure but now she has put her foot down and it's diapers while home period. 

Just so you know nothing in ABDL can be considered taboo. Even by doctors and mental healthcare providers. You should meet my treatment team man 😂.

You think it is unfair to demand you are in diapers when you are home? 

My treatment team would have you messing the diapers you use for bedwetting with 0 control after 3 steps from your bed. 

Let's see if you think it is unfair after that or haveing your primary care provider laugh and when you said you tried to hold it until you got to the bathroom but couldn't raise her origional dose to the max allowed by the FDA for constipation.  Not kidding my pharmacy has to make a special order for lactulose just for me and give me 4 bottles a month. That is almost if not over 1 gallon of lactulose a month.  Do you really think it is unfair for her to make shure you just wear your diapers when at home ? Try haveing my treatment team you would be parinoid not to be in diapers 24/7 because you never know when you are going to have to go number 2 and you only get like 20seconds to 3minutes to get to a toilet before you have a pretty bad day. Man with my treatmemt team you either are in diapers 24/7 or you risk wrecking your pants. 

Not kidding I only seem to get a break from 24/7 diapers for 1 season out of the past 4years👀

 

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