I love this fetish but any tips to calm it down?

[iweardiapers]

I used to be able to go a couple of days with not wearing. But now I’m finding it hard to go a single day or moment without being diapered and it’s all I think about. I have accepted who I am but is there any tips to calm it down some. Not wanting it to completely take over my life

[Spiderman]

I would try to get a hobby and if you already have one I would try to indulge with some time to that.   For example take up stamp collecting, do some hiking, camping, get out of the house and get some fresh air.   I for example enjoy going for run to help me deal with the stress that causes me to want to wear diapers in the first place.   The important thing is to try to find something that will help you get that balance between wearing diapers and your everyday life.   Sorry about rambling on like that.

 

 

[rusty pins]

I have said it many times in the past in the forums, but I truly believe a person needs a good healthy balance between their AB/DL life and regular normal live, otherwise the fetish can take over.  As much as some people will hate to admit it, we are all adults, not real babies.  Just the fact that you belong to this site, can type, read the messages, work a computer is a bare minimum truth that you are not a real baby no matter what you believe.  No Offence.  Anytime you do anything adult such as work, cook, drive a car, balance your bank account, go out with friends, have sex with your partner, etc., you are an adult.  You also miss out on a lot of cool stuff by acting like a baby all the time, such as driving, doing things with your friends, shopping, golfing, bowling, cooking, going to movies and especially interacting with adults doing adult things that keeps you in a healthy adult mindset.  A fetish is just that. something that sexually turns you on that you enjoy doing, but it should be kept in context and control, not take over your life.  Some people have lost their family, jobs and friends over it when it becomes an obsession.

This can also be true of a DL.  It comes to the point where you are in the habit of enjoying wearing and using diapers so much that it takes over.  The enjoyment you have each time you put on a diaper, wet it, mess it, walk around in it is positive reinforcement of the fetish.  Soon you get to the point you come home from work, immediately put on your diapers for the rest of the evening and enjoy.  You have so much fun you start refusing to do things with friends or go out with your wife to dinner or a show because you would rather just stay home in your diapers.  You dread the morning because it means you have to clean up and put on your big boy pants to go to work.  All you can think of at work is getting home so you can put your diapers on again.  Maybe your job performance and concentration starts to suffer.  Soon it gets to the point where you start wearing diapers to work to see if you can get away with it, hoping no one will notice so you can continue to have that glorious feeling of being diapered.  You may use the toilet so you won't wet your diaper, but eventually you do wet to see how it holds up and if you can manage a wet diaper without having to change and no one else knowing.  That feels so good that you wear bulkier diapers each day and get to the point you are wearing diapers all the time, using them and not caring anymore who might notice or find out.  The fetish is out of control at this point in my opinion.  Some people do embrace 24/7/365 and baby play or wear diapers all the time.  To each his own, I personally don't believe it is healthy for an adult mind and body.  The difference between doing AB and DL play and other obsessions is it is basically harmless to wear and use diapers, although I believe it is not good or healthy to do it all the time.  Some people have similar fetish problems they can't control, but instead of it involving wearing and using diapers or baby play, they go out and molest children, rape women, start fires or murder people.  Same exact thing.  They have this fetish or sexual urge that they can no longer control but it's far more dangerous and harmful than just wearing diapers.

I myself am a DL and while I browse this site most every morning, I keep my fetish in check.  I wear diapers 2 or 3 times a week at the most, then only for about 3 hours when I first get up in the morning.  Then back to normal.  Maybe 3 or 4 times a year I go out of town shopping or running errands, especially around Christmas time.  I will wear diapers discreetly under my jeans most times I take these shopping trips, but not always.  That's it as far as my diaper wearing.  I have tons of other activities to keep me busy and my mind healthy.  I've been a DL for over 50 years but in that time I also managed to get a pilot's license, 2 boats for fishing and skiing, model trains, vacation trips, hunting, casinos, play football, travel to Europe, coin and stamp collect, read books both biography and fiction, date women (never once telling any I like diapers), build models from kits and scratch and have remote control cars and airplanes.  It's such a big world out there with so much you can do it's a shame to spend your life in diapers all the time.  True, you can do so many of these things while diapered, but why?  You don't have to!  I treat diapers as only one of many hobbies I have and while I can wear diapers flying a plane, reading books or out fishing, I prefer mostly to concentrate on each different interest I have and leave the diapers to my special diaper times. 

When someone gets so obsessed with one particular thing, it's hard to break that obsession. It helps to have other activities to interest you and to completely forget about diapers as much as you can.  The longer you can go without wearing diapers, even if for only a few days or a week, the easier it is not to feel you always have to be wearing diapers.  Believe me, I know!  When I had surgery a couple years ago I was not able to wear diapers for a few weeks or even get to my computer to visit the diaper sites.  I found myself getting back to normal and not thinking or wanting diapers as strongly as I did before.  You can do it, you just have to force yourself not to wear diapers and instead do other things and interests.  Call friends and do things with them if you can.  Get your mind off diapers and onto other things.  I will also tell you that when you do plan a day ahead to wear diapers, the anticipation of reaching that planned day makes it all the better!  Something special to look forwards to, not just an every day activity.  It's like looking forwards to the weekend after a long hard week at work.

[Nat]

There is nothing wrong with wearing them 24/7 or everyday. Just wear the diaper and live your normal life. 

[DiaperedAllTheTime]

1 hour ago, Spokane Girl said:

There is nothing wrong with wearing them 24/7 or everyday. Just wear the diaper and live your normal life. 

I could not agree more.  I am am a great worker, father, and husband all while wearing diapers full time.  What is underneath my clothes is my business.

[LittleAmytheil]

I have to agree with many of the above statements.

I'll use my own personal experience as well to shed some light on my take of being a DL.  As many have already said: your underwear of choice is your business.  I live by the very same principle.  I would wear diapers under my jeans to work all the time, keeping them dry during the day to fill that 'need' of wearing them.  I've changed up since to the feeling of pullups (since realistically, I'm keeping them dry anyways).

I don't change my habits while wearing diapers, just go about my day as usual.  I see friends, I grab coffee, grocery shop, and clean house.  Sometimes I'll sit home and play video games and enjoy my wet pants, but otherwise, I don't make that the main purpose of my day.  If someone on the outside can tell I'm wearing diapers/pullups under my clothes, I'm doing something long.  I don't expose my undergarments to others, and I want people to find me interesting because I make chainmail, or play World of Warcraft, or that I'm an artist.

[rusty pins]

OK for those who have embraced wearing diapers 24/7, but the OP is not asking people if it's OK to just go ahead and wear diapers 24/7.  What he is asking is if there is any way to calm it down some as he does not want it to completely take over his life.

On ‎11‎/‎3‎/‎2017 at 9:39 AM, iweardiapers said:

I used to be able to go a couple of days with not wearing. But now I’m finding it hard to go a single day or moment without being diapered and it’s all I think about. I have accepted who I am but is there any tips to calm it down some. Not wanting it to completely take over my life

 

[Nat]

I don't see how wearing them all the time is taking over your life. I don't see my 24/7 wearing as taking over. I still raise my kids, I still shop, go to work, do housework. Diapers have not stopped that. 

[rosalie.bent]

The problem cn be a complex one. this article

https://abdiscover.files.wordpress.com/2017/08/24-7.pdf

Might help as it is about the therapeutic value in going 24/7. Ironically, going 24/7 actually HELPS diapers overtaking your thoughts all the time.

[Nat]

7 hours ago, rosalie.bent said:

The problem cn be a complex one. this article

https://abdiscover.files.wordpress.com/2017/08/24-7.pdf

Might help as it is about the therapeutic value in going 24/7. Ironically, going 24/7 actually HELPS diapers overtaking your thoughts all the time.

Man I wish I can share this article. 

[rosalie.bent]

On 11/16/2017 at 1:34 AM, Spokane Girl said:

Man I wish I can share this article. 

Why dont you?

[DiaperedAllTheTime]

8 hours ago, rosalie.bent said:

Why dont you?

Your article was so awesome.  It hits home to so many thoughts and feelings I have with the decision to wear 24/7.  I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I am so much less frustrated than before.  In turn that makes me have a better relationship with my wife and family.  

[rusty pins]

That may be for a lot of people.  I myself do love wearing diapers but I limit myself to a couple mornings a week or all day only a few times a year when I go out of town running errands or holiday shopping.  If my living conditions were different I might wear a lot more often but I wouldn't want to get to the point I want to wear diapers every day or all the time.  If my desires were getting stronger in that area, I too would want some suggestions on how to calm them down rather than just wear 24/7 like some people suggest.

[rosalie.bent]

10 hours ago, MarkSmith said:

Your article was so awesome.  It hits home to so many thoughts and feelings I have with the decision to wear 24/7.  I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I am so much less frustrated than before.  In turn that makes me have a better relationship with my wife and family.  

We had the same experience. Taking my baby to 24/7 essentially 'tamed' his diaper drive and allowed him to be more balanced. its ironic but 24/7 just works so well for so many people.

[Craisler]

 

On 11/3/2017 at 6:39 AM, iweardiapers said:

I used to be able to go a couple of days with not wearing. But now I’m finding it hard to go a single day or moment without being diapered and it’s all I think about. I have accepted who I am but is there any tips to calm it down some. Not wanting it to completely take over my life

Before trying to give an answer, I'd like to know what you mean by "taking over your life" and "calming it down"?  How do you use diapers when you wear them? Are diapers just another form of underwear for you or do you feel a compulsion to wet and/or mess them?  What is your living situation?  Do you live by yourself or with others?  Are you employed and able to afford to wear as many diapers as necessary?  Would there be significant repercussions if your employer were to find out that you're wearing diapers?

There are several good suggestions above, but their applicability would depend on how you answer these questions.

As counter-intuitive as it might seem, going 24/7 for a period of time might be just the way to "calm things down."  After a while, you'll reach a saturation point when wearing diapers just isn't fun anymore.  Then you could put them away for a while until you feel the compulsion to wear them again.  Then you could experiment with wearing them for short periods of time and going without the rest of the time.  If you're lucky, you'll find a combination that satisfies the compulsion without feeling the need to wear them all the time.

[rosalie.bent]

16 minutes ago, Craisler said:

 

Before trying to give an answer, I'd like to know what you mean by "taking over your life" and "calming it down"?  How you use diapers when you wear them.  Are diapers just another form of underwear for you or do you feel a compulsion to wet and/or mess them?  What is your living situation?  Do you live by yourself or with others?  Are you employed and able to afford to wear as many diapers as necessary?  Would there be significant repercussions if your employer were to find out that you're wearing diapers?

There are several good suggestions above, but their applicability would depend on how you answer these questions.

As counter-intuitive as it might seem, going 24/7 for a period of time might be just the way to "calm things down."  After a while, you'll a saturation point when wearing diapers just isn't fun anymore.  Then you could put them away for a while until you feel the compulsion to wear them again.  Then you could experiment with wearing them for short periods of time and going without the rest of the time.  If you're lucky, you'll find a combination that satisfies the compulsion without feeling the need to wear them all the time.

One of the big problems in ABDL circles is that diapers are more than a fetish or something we like. They are often a deeply rooted psychological need that has to be addressed. And for some people, that need/drive can be exceedingly strong and tend to interfere in life if not dealt with. Ive seen that first-hand. 24/7 diapers for my baby restored balance by giving him back his perspective and ability to function without constant AB drives messing things up.

The other point is that everyone is different. For some nothing short of 24/7 will resolve the issue. For others less draconian measures like wearing to bed only ot wearing regularly at home will work. But the clue is in understanding that it is not merely some fetish or 'want', but far more deeply constructed than that.

[Craisler]

11 hours ago, rosalie.bent said:

One of the big problems in ABDL circles is that diapers are more than a fetish or something we like. They are often a deeply rooted psychological need that has to be addressed. And for some people, that need/drive can be exceedingly strong and tend to interfere in life if not dealt with. Ive seen that first-hand. 24/7 diapers for my baby restored balance by giving him back his perspective and ability to function without constant AB drives messing things up.

The other point is that everyone is different. For some nothing short of 24/7 will resolve the issue. For others less draconian measures like wearing to bed only ot wearing regularly at home will work. But the clue is in understanding that it is not merely some fetish or 'want', but far more deeply constructed than that.

You don't have to convince me that the compulsion to wear diapers is frequently a deep-seated psychological need.  For years, I tried to give them up, before finally giving in to the compulsion and effectively making myself incontinent.  Now, I wear diapers all the time and am quite content with my situation.

You'll notice that instead of giving a simple answer to someone's question, I frequently start by asking questions.  Without some background information about the questioner, it's impossible to provide relevant advice or answers.

My feeling is that at the OP’s current age that he may have options available to him that an older DL might not find useful.  I believe that if, at his age, I had had the option of wearing diapers as just another form of underwear to be worn under certain circumstances, that I may not have taken the more extreme path I did.