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peelover, April 7
Posted April 7
By fully potty trained, I mean when accidents were rare.
I voted 3, but that was night time trained. About 2.5 daytime. And actually, I did wet the bed till about 6. Diapers were gone by 3 years old though.
i will let you know when that day comes.. still working at it..lol
According to my mother and other reliable family members I was day-trained at 30 months and night trained at 33 months.
However, like my older sister, mom, aunt and granny my bladder was tiny and over-active. Therefore Mom would very nicely ask me to wear 'Just-in-Case' diapers for long car rides and special events where finding a toilet in an emergency would be difficult.
My own memory starts a few weeks before I turned 4. Mom, her mother and younger sister made no secret of being urinary incontinent. They all wore pinned gauze diapers 24/7. Penny is my older sister by 5 years. I remember several times when she wet before getting home from school. It could be that her bladder capacity was no better than mine. Penny never once complained about being diapered even when she was nearly 12.
Clearly Mom knew from experience that being nice about wetting was the most practical approach. My youngest sister Missy is 5 years my junior. All the rest of us had some day control until we were 21 or so. Poor Missy lost her day control at age 15, while in high school. Missy put on a brave face and was not embarrassed. Later Mom explained that the just-in-case diapers were also part of a plan that should we eventually loose day control we would be past getting embarrassed.
I agree with my Mom.
Posted April 13
I'm curious about how you mean "diapered." This could imply one or both of two things: 1) you wore diapers, hence you were diapered; 2) you wore diapers that were put on you by someone else, as in "My mother diapered me." At what age do you recall being solely responsible for doing your own self-diapering? And what about your sisters? Were you ever diapered by anyone in your family other than your mother?
As for me, I believe I was fully potty trained by three. My parents used the Dr. Spock books, which I believe (perhaps erroneously) tended to "hurry" potty training. I believe it was traumatic for me being taken out of diapers. Yet at the same time I was a fairly graceful potty trainee. I did have a major bowel accident on my way home from school (walking) when in first grade, and that was very traumatic for me, I remember portions of that episode to this day. But as far as the intimacy lost with my mother after being potty trained, I believe this affected me significantly. It was the only real bond my mother and I shared, on account of my older brother being sickly. I am convinced I would have resisted not the potty training itself but the being taken out of diapers which were such an emotional catalyst in my life at the time...still are, there's no denying that.
Posted April 14
Darling Baby Wendy Marie, I assume your questions are directed at me.
Previously on another thread there was the question about when we started self-diapering.
Remember, when I lived at home prior to moving to a university dorm in August 1981, my family only used pinned classic Curity gauze diapers. Because the family realized dangers of using pins, we were not taught to pin our own diapers until we reverted to bedwetting. Yes, prior to that Penny and I were taught how to pin diapers on our younger siblings.
Penny reverted to bedwetting at puberty when she was 12 and I was 7, so I remember that very well. Penny began diapering me during trips when she was 10. I also reverted to bedwetting at puberty when I was 12.
Of my siblings only our youngest brother Ed and youngest sister Missy routinely wet the bed after age 3. Mom or Granny diapered Ed. Missy had not had a dry night at age 5. We shared the room which had been the nursery which had a changing table. When I was 10 and Missy was 5 Mom taught me to diaper Missy for bed. Then during trips Mom would diaper Ed; Penny would diaper our sister Ruth, herself and me; I would diaper Missy.
Before I moved to university I discussed my bedwetting with the housing director. She told me there were no convenient coin washers, but that the campus general store stocked all sizes of Attends.During the month before I left home I learned to put on disposable Attends and got used to sleeping in them.
By then Missy had been dry at night for a year. Then shortly before I left Missy resumed bedwetting. I taught her how to diaper herself. While Missy was in high school she began day wetting, so she wore Attends to school and gauze diapers to bed.
By the way on trips and special events Penny, Granny and Mom all diapered me. I am told that before I was toilet trained Aunt Betsy often diapered me because she was our babysitter while Mom was at work, but I have no independent memory of that.
Posted April 15
Dear AB (giggles),
Such a wonderfully told recounting of your family history of diapering. Thanks so much for sharing that with us. I'm a detail-oriented person and so I very much appreciate the level of detail you go into here. It really helps me form a fairly clear picture of your upbringing and your family's "diapering dynamic," which I think is quite adorable. Forgive me if I'm trodding on "intimate" ground here, but I'm wondering what it was like to be diapered as you were older, say on trips, etc., esp. by an adult. Was it a tender diapering session? Were you spoken to in even semi-intimate (child-like) terms? Or was it more or less "matter of fact," not necessarily cold but not tender, either? Was being diapered by someone you trusted an event you looked forward to?
In my imagination I can see both parties enjoying the experience, with perhaps some innocent fun, such as tickling, mild teasing, perhaps, or even infantile play, such as "Mommy's going to touch your nose!" kind of thing going on. I guess that's the gist of my question, was being diapered something you looked forward to? My interest in knowing about this comes from my interest in simply knowing, perhaps because of my lack of any memory of being diapered, and I'm interested in knowing as much as I can about how someone who wasn't necessarily considered to be "AB" experienced having another person put them in diapers, esp. as it relates to cloth diapers with the act of pinning, etc. Also, feel free to respond off-thread if you're not sure this content fits in with the current discussion.
I wasn't fully potty trained until I was 6 and even then I still wore diapers at night.
Posted April 16
I answered other, for obvious reasons, I've been a life long bedwetter, I was not officially day trained till 8, or 9, maybe as late as 10, the night wetting started have continued to this day... my day control has been gone since 99, and things have not gotten better... As I'm seated all day driving, and have started losing feeling below my stomach, I've been having messing issues for about 10 years, but I deal as best as I can... Thank GOD I have a wife that understands...
Posted April 17
I was held back a year from starting kindergarten due to still being in diapers, I still bedwet and had accidents through elementary school tho
Posted May 6
I guess it depends on what "potty trained" means. During the day I pretty much knew to use the toilet by about age 3 but had many daytime accidents after that. When distracted I just wet my pants until about age 10 or 11 although less often as time went on. I didn't stop regular bedwetting until into puberty but to me that's not the same as potty training.
I would have to say that I was fully potty trained during the day and night by the time I was three years old. I would have some accidents here and there but for the most part I was completely potty trained when I was three.
Your Friendly Neighborhood Spiderman
Posted May 10
i was never totally potty trained do to my bed wetting the last time i wore diaper during the day as a child was 7 the school required my parents to have me wear them since i had wet my pants on and off during the year at school . not what was worse wearing and getting teased of wetting my pants and getting teased
I was potty trained at 4 but kept having accidents until I was 9 and wet the bed until I was 14
Posted May 16
By the age of 8 I was about as fully potty trained as I've ever been. I don't know if my accidents were ever "rare" by other people's standards.
My control started degrading again around the time I was 19, so I'm on the cusp of having been not potty trained for a larger percentage of my life than I was potty trained.
I was potty trained around 3, but I vividly remember a very rare messy accident at age 9.
Posted May 17
I was finally out of nappies during the day at 5 but stilll wet my bed every night so slept in nappies for a few more years. I still often wet my pants during the day too but nappies during the day were not an option
Posted May 18
My Mom told me that I was daytime potty-trained when I was around 2 and 1/2. However, I can distinctly remember still not being nighttime trained until I was 11 and my Mom threatened me into it.
Posted May 19
Never been potty trained due to medical issues. I'm ok with it.
Posted Tuesday at 03:49 AM
I was out of nappies full time at 5 still had them at night for bedwetting, I was 10 when I stoped that and for long trips and things in the day
Posted Wednesday at 04:42 PM
My mother always said that I was trained at 18 months. I guess she was right, at some level, but I can still remember on, Several Occasions, when she would tell one of her friends that I was trained at 18 months while she was changing my diaper on the couch or living room floor. I didn't think this was very unusual at the time but I sure wish I could ask Mom a few questions on the Details Now!
Posted Wednesday at 10:06 PM
i was potty trained when i was 4 or almost 5 i was a kid who had special needs. i did not stop bedwetting till i was 15. i lived with my grandparents and i would wake up every morning and saw my bed was wet my grandparents did not do any thing about it no diapers, no pads , no plastic bed cover.
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