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I used to be the type that would go through binge and purge cycles. My biggest struggle I always faced with this fetish is the desire to want to look at women in diapers. Here recently though I'm trying my best to gain control of that part and not look because with being a Christian, isn't looking at that type of stuff basically still considered a form of porn? I hate the nude photos though I just liked to look

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The trick here is to accept yourself for who you are and do what makes you happy.

In the end it's just a diaper. There are millions of people all over the world who wear diapers every day for a variety of reasons... and they're not all children. If done properly you can wear 24/7 and go about your daily life without anybody being the least bit suspicious... it's really not a big deal.

As far as your religion goes, if looking at a little porn and having sexual fantasies is that big of a deal hell is going to be a mighty full place. Christ's message was focused on love and humility. Do you work on Sundays? Do you eat pork or shellfish? Are you clean shaven? Do you wear clothing of mixed construction? Well, the Bible says you shouldn't do those things... I don't see any Christians getting worked up about them.

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I think the problem you have is in accepting yourself. I think that becomes clear from looking at your post history, and I'm not using it to judge you positively or negatively I'm just looking at it from an outside perspective.

You made a post last November about thinking of diapers when seeing a pretty girl. I think it is pretty natural, if diapers are a kink or fetish that you enjoy, to see a pretty girl and imagine them participating in it with you. It's kind of like anyone else seeing someone they are attracted too and fantasising about them.

Then there is a post about quitting diapers and you said you have tried. Something very common amongst people who haven't accepted that there are parts of the ABDL lifestyle that appeal to them on a very base level... Something that if ignored only starts cropping up more and more until you break and start binging again. I say that because this was shortly after a post about you wanting to buy a lot of diapers.

Finally, more recently, you made the post about whether this lifestyle is a mental issue which seems to me to be looking for an excuse of why you have it and perhaps asking if it is something that could be "cured."

These are all classic signs of someone who has a part of their life that they are still battling with.

Imagine someone who had a fetish for clowns... They don't want the fetish so they try to hide it away. They avoid all the clown fetish sites, they distract themselves with other things, they do whatever they can to not think about clowns. But, over time, the sub-conscience starts wanting clowns more and more. It understands that clowns = good feelings and it wants to satisfy those urges!

So this person is going about their life and all of a sudden they start seeing clowns and things that remind him of clowns. He can keep ignoring it and trying to distract himself but the desire just grows and grows until it is unavoidable.

The person will then go online, buy a huge expensive clown suit with oversized shoes and a red nose that makes a funny sound. They will go to their old clown websites... For a while, maybe a few days, maybe a few weeks, they will embrace the clown. They can't get enough of clowns and clown culture.

Then the subconscious is satisfied. You wanted clowns? Here's clowns! But not that it is satisfied, that desire for clowns disappears. Suddenly all that this person is left with is all of their clown costumes and internet history... He feels guilty for giving in to the desires, he feels disgusted because he is so scared of these desires that after they explode like this he throws all of his clown stuff away and deletes his accounts. Again.

He starves his subconscious of its need until... The subconscious demands satisfaction again and the whole process starts again.

So... How do you beat the binges and purges? You accept that you like diapers. You accept that you like how they look, how they feel, you like seeing other adults in them, you like talking to others about. You moderate your behaviour... You let yourself enjoy diapers when you want to enjoy them, you smile and happily join communities and wear your favourite clothing and you keep the subconscious happy and satisfied without going completely overboard and binging.

Basically, you reach a happy medium. You wear when you want and you can also not wear when you want. But you make the decisions, you take control and accept your body and brain want something so give it to them... In moderation.

As for the Christian thing... I'm agnostic at best but if there is a higher power, I'm pretty sure they put people here to enjoy themselves. It would be pointless and cruel to put people here just to hate themselves. I think that quite often religion is used as an excuse to limit yourself, to not explore things and to deny cravings. If you want to be religious that is up to you, but you only get one life so don't torture yourself just because you are told that you should.

Trust me... If you let yourself be happy and proud to wear diapers, you will find yourself much, much happier and will probably be able to control your thoughts a lot easier too.

I hope this helps and I hope you can find acceptance within yourself :)

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12 hours ago, iweardiapers said:

I used to be the type that would go through binge and purge cycles. My biggest struggle I always faced with this fetish is the desire to want to look at women in diapers. Here recently though I'm trying my best to gain control of that part and not look because with being a Christian, isn't looking at that type of stuff basically still considered a form of porn? I hate the nude photos though I just liked to look

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14 hours ago, Elfy said:

I think the problem you have is in accepting yourself. I think that becomes clear from looking at your post history, and I'm not using it to judge you positively or negatively I'm just looking at it from an outside perspective.

You made a post last November about thinking of diapers when seeing a pretty girl. I think it is pretty natural, if diapers are a kink or fetish that you enjoy, to see a pretty girl and imagine them participating in it with you. It's kind of like anyone else seeing someone they are attracted too and fantasising about them.

Then there is a post about quitting diapers and you said you have tried. Something very common amongst people who haven't accepted that there are parts of the ABDL lifestyle that appeal to them on a very base level... Something that if ignored only starts cropping up more and more until you break and start binging again. I say that because this was shortly after a post about you wanting to buy a lot of diapers.

Finally, more recently, you made the post about whether this lifestyle is a mental issue which seems to me to be looking for an excuse of why you have it and perhaps asking if it is something that could be "cured."

These are all classic signs of someone who has a part of their life that they are still battling with.

Imagine someone who had a fetish for clowns... They don't want the fetish so they try to hide it away. They avoid all the clown fetish sites, they distract themselves with other things, they do whatever they can to not think about clowns. But, over time, the sub-conscience starts wanting clowns more and more. It understands that clowns = good feelings and it wants to satisfy those urges!

So this person is going about their life and all of a sudden they start seeing clowns and things that remind him of clowns. He can keep ignoring it and trying to distract himself but the desire just grows and grows until it is unavoidable.

The person will then go online, buy a huge expensive clown suit with oversized shoes and a red nose that makes a funny sound. They will go to their old clown websites... For a while, maybe a few days, maybe a few weeks, they will embrace the clown. They can't get enough of clowns and clown culture.

Then the subconscious is satisfied. You wanted clowns? Here's clowns! But not that it is satisfied, that desire for clowns disappears. Suddenly all that this person is left with is all of their clown costumes and internet history... He feels guilty for giving in to the desires, he feels disgusted because he is so scared of these desires that after they explode like this he throws all of his clown stuff away and deletes his accounts. Again.

He starves his subconscious of its need until... The subconscious demands satisfaction again and the whole process starts again.

So... How do you beat the binges and purges? You accept that you like diapers. You accept that you like how they look, how they feel, you like seeing other adults in them, you like talking to others about. You moderate your behaviour... You let yourself enjoy diapers when you want to enjoy them, you smile and happily join communities and wear your favourite clothing and you keep the subconscious happy and satisfied without going completely overboard and binging.

Basically, you reach a happy medium. You wear when you want and you can also not wear when you want. But you make the decisions, you take control and accept your body and brain want something so give it to them... In moderation.

As for the Christian thing... I'm agnostic at best but if there is a higher power, I'm pretty sure they put people here to enjoy themselves. It would be pointless and cruel to put people here just to hate themselves. I think that quite often religion is used as an excuse to limit yourself, to not explore things and to deny cravings. If you want to be religious that is up to you, but you only get one life so don't torture yourself just because you are told that you should.

Trust me... If you let yourself be happy and proud to wear diapers, you will find yourself much, much happier and will probably be able to control your thoughts a lot easier too.

I hope this helps and I hope you can find acceptance within yourself :)

I got to say one thing about you Elfy,you sure know how to say the right things in a post, for your age that is

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1 hour ago, fuzzybunny said:

I have never meet a chrisitan who has never struggled with something. Regardless of what it was (sex, money, drugs, relationships) etc.

Now if this fetish is getting in the way of you funcationally as a human (contact with family, going to work, etc.) Then you might want to step back and look at this "lifestyle" for a moment and set boundries. All self control.

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