So very nervous and stressed out.

[BabyChef]

So I'm twenty four years old. And I've known I loved diapers since before I can remember.

[AbabeBill]

Hi and welcome BabyChef. This is not an uncommon reaction from a spouse. Some people don't want to deal with this type of news. It is a lot to take in, and understand, much less accept. Keep some perspective, how would you feel, if the tables were turned. The best you can do for now, is let the subject lie. Keep to yourself,

[Elfy]

I would suggest that you take it slow. It is always better to tell people before marriage but that ship has sailed, it doesn't mean things can't work out well.

My suggestion would be to let it lay low for a while. You sprung a pretty big thing on her and her reaction may have been a bit defensive... You just revealed a pretty big part of yourself that you had kept hidden so she may need some time to work things out in her head.

I would say wait a while and then sit down to talk with her again. Maybe make a nice meal, candles, wine, etc... Explain why you kept it a secret, why you eventually told her and try to get them to talk about it with you. Nearly everything in a relationship can be solved by good communication!

[BabyChef]

Thank you guys so much! I've been leaving her be for awhile. She has Told me to put a diaper on a couple times after a hard shift in the kitchen, but I know how she feels and I don't want to make her uncomfortable. So I dont.

[squishynappy]

hi BayChef, I totally agree with Elfy and

[BabyChef]

Squishy nappy, thank you for taking your time to post, everyone's advice had been wonderful. I mean honestly, would I love for her to want to try it with me and warm up to the idea? Of course! I mean who wouldn't. But at the end of the day all I'm looking for from her is acceptance and an ear to talk to. She has never really said " don't talk about this" but the way she holds herself and her tone o voice very clearly tells me she does not want to talk or think about this. I just feel guiltier and guiltier about the fact that I love wearing diapers. I love being treated little sometimes. I just wish I could not have this part of me there anymore. Then I would be normal and everything would be fine. But I can't just push it down. The desire to feel little and wear a diaper and walk around my room playing and pretending is to much. I hate what I'm doing to my wife and I. This truly is my fault. If I wasn't such a wierdo, there wouldn't be a stigma between my wife and I. We do love each other. More than anything and without a doubt. I know in my heart she would never leave me over something like this. I just really wish I could at least talk to her without her either blowing me off or just making me feel bad for something I can't control, being who I am. And a plus would be if she was even a tiny bit curious to know about that side of her husband. I'm not asking her to do ANYTHING she doesn't want to. It just kinda hurts that she doesn't want to know who I am. I mean, the way I see it, if I was in her shoes and found something out about my life partner and best friend for the last 3 years and spouse for the last year, that they felt this strongly about and genuinely went out on a limb and was honest with me even though it might be embarrassing, and wanted me to know that side of them. I would probably be a little hurt, going from thinking

[AbabeBill]

Try not to beat yourself up so much BabyChef. I know the feeling, and it's understandable, but you are what,