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My boyfriend has a fetish for women wearing diapers and acting infantile. I wouldn't have a problem with this, but my issue is this is the only thing that turns him on because of circumstances. I've just about given up on ever having a sex life with him because of this. It's not that the idea of it makes me uncomfortable, but it just doesn't do anything for me and I would just feel silly/awkward doing this for him. It's just not a turn on for me to act as an infant and gives me no kind of sexual thrill or desire. Now, I love my boyfriend very much and I don't want to even consider leaving him because of his sexual desires, but I have sexual desires, too, and it just seems like we are sexually incompatible and will never be able to have any kind of sex life if something isn't done about this. I've been with him for 2 years, so I'm not ready to give up. I know a relationship isn't all about sex, but 2 years of having little to no sex life is really unsatisfying in a relationship. I just want to know if anyone has any kind of advice for this type of situation and I felt like a website like this wouldn't judge a situation like this harshly. Thank you for any kind of help in advance. What are your suggestions?

PS: I don't mean anything against the community at all. It's totally cool if you guys are into this or even have this as your lifestyle.

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I'm not entirely sure about an open relationship because every time I hear about one, the couple tends to drift apart and become more enthralled with other people. When I tell him it doesn't turn me on, he says he understands but that he can't just shake the desire away and that it's something he says he needs to fulfill: if not from someone else, then through watching porn. It may seem kind of selfish, but he's also my best friend and I want to support and him help through everything that I can. He is going to try to seek psychiatric therapy because of the circumstances that caused him to desire this and only this, but I still would like to know what other people think or any ideas they may have.

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its quite simple, he shouldnt just expect you to do it his way. its unfortunate that a lot of ab's have selfish needs and dont consider the other persons feelings or needs as long as theirs is satisfied.

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Actually, my biggest thing is I want to be able to please him. He has pleased me before, and I'm happy with that, but not being able to please him in that way without fulfilling his fetish exactly that way he wants it is what frustrates me the most. I don't know why it's a need for me to sexually please him, but it frustrates me that I'm not able to because he can only get turned on by women in diapers.

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You two need to have a serious talk about what you want in a relationship, and what sort of sex life you need. Not wanting to leave your boyfriend due to his desires is admirable, but you're not doing either of you any favors if you two can't come to a compromise of some sort that will make you both happy. No, a relationship isn't all about sex, but unless you are asexual, or have a very low sex drive, it's a very important part of it. Bad sex life = bad relationship. Sex is good for you, it relieves stress, it helps with the bonding process, it helps patch things up after arguments.
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Take it from me Soupy. I'm a bit vanilla when it comes to my own desire to want to wear diapers. Mostly, I all but hate myself for it.

I have battled through relationships due to coming out about my fetish... One girl was not pleased with the idea at all. Lost all sexual attraction she had for me, and eventually found another man who could give her what I could not.

Another seemed supportive, even contributed some, and though that was great, we had to many differences between eachother that drove her away.

The girl I'm with now is the love of my life. She means everything to me, but she's made it clear that "weird fetishes" are something she just has a hard time dealing with... I have hinted at the idea of "what if" I was into this fetish, and she all but told me that she'd leave me. She compared it to pedophilia and cross dressing...

So, I have been suppressing my desires, and making the sacrifice to stay with her. I try everything in my power to satisfy her every needs, because she does the same for me... Granted yes, my fetish needs aren't met, but I don't expect them to be.

I have been judged by others for the fact that I don't leave her because she doesn't seem to support anything this community stands for. I've seen people judge her for finding adults wearing diapers for fun disturbing.

I've also been told that I was selfish for not telling her the truth about my fetish and that it will make me miserable.

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And, transvestism doesn't involve children...and certainly not harming them...so there is a little confusion there...you know, ewww, not my sex, bad for the children, who shall we burn at the stake???

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Pretty much what Dill said. Y'all could maybe try to alternate every Wednesday or something with what you're aiming for in bed. Like, one Wednesday it's super-fun-diaper-time, and the next Wednesday it's super-special-what-you're-into-time.

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I am in the same situation. My boyfriend does however have sex with me without the fetish involved but not as frequently as I'd prefer. I think you just need to be really open about it, find some sort of compromise in my experience pleasing him with them will make him want to please you without them. Just make sure he knows that this is not an all the time thing.

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