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I know it's not this way for everyone but I knew that I liked girls even before I knew what sex was. There's never been a question in my mind if I was gay or not, for me it was just a natural progression to when I became a teenager and started dating I only ever dated women. I'd say that just accept yourself and see what comes. Don't limit yourself based on what other's say, your sexuality is your own.

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I always knew that i liked both men and women but i did the straight route for a long time,married ,kids etc. When that marriage ended it gave me the oppertunity to explore my attraction to men which i did. I found myself to be happier both emotionally and sexually when i was with a man and realised that i am in fact gay. It was a big turning point in my life and i am much more at ease in myself and my life. Everyone has fantasies it is up to you weather you act on them or not. Explore and find out where your at and go from there then you will know .

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I've always been attracted to women, and from an early age fantasized about being one.  I never imagined it would be possible and eventually be accepted by those not threatened or weird-ed out by it.  I am still a guy and can't really think about 'what might have happened' if I had the courage )or belief that it was possible).  That said, I admire those who do and am curious about guys who are like me.  It's comforting to not be alone and I find myself coming here more often.

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I was a pretty awful closet case for years. I was still 'straight, just practicing' when I was fooling around with my friend, even when I was giving him oral.

 

Over time I...guess I just learned. Started to understand the things I was feeling towards other people, been out to myself for a couple of years now, realised there wasn't a problem with being who I was, it's others that are the problem. Simply put, I'm just a lot more comfortable with myself now.

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This might sound a bit cliche, but I was one of those transgirls that just always knew she was in the wrong body. My earliest memory is literally of me being jealous of my sister's dress and throwing a fit about it. So I've never really experience a me that didn't know she was girly, but I think I buried the whole reason for my girlyness until I was about 9 when I first finally said "I feel like a girl, I wanna be a girl." to myself, and cried about it. It just felt the start of a tough journey, even then. 

 

My own odd interest in my partner/sexuality happened later. At first I thought I just wanted to date t-boys, and then I expanded that to less feminine girls, and then I accepted when I was about 13 that I had grown an intense interest in guys. I'm in a committed relationship with another t-girl now.. so I would say I'm pretty open. You just got to be a kind, wonderful person that I want to spend the rest of my life with. That's it. 

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Although I often fantasised about  guys when going through puberty and beyond, for a long time I told myself it was normal and I was just curious and that all guys do the same thing. Since I also fantasised about girls I thought that the half of me that thought about guys was just something everyone did.

 

When I was about 18 years old I even travelled into London to meet a guy I met on this forum who was my Daddy for the weekend, we even engaged in some very light sexual stuff but upon leaving I still considered myself straight! Again, I thought that I was just curious about another person into ABDLism and that it was just experimentation.

 

I continued to be questioning myself but still believing I was straight until I reached 22 years old when a very chance encounter got me talking to a guy called "Infer" (Now known as Alice Reishiki) and after just two weeks we both travelled into London to stay the night in a hotel and by the time we left we had pretty much both confirmed that neither of us was 100% straight!

 

Nearly two years later and we are still together and I moved in properly at the end of last year :D

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My own 'revelation' was a long time in the making because I was in denial of my true self :( I didn't want to be who I was :whistling: I used drinking and drugs to escape from this world not realizing that what I was really trying to escape from was me- and that you can't get away from yourself no matter how hard you try :blush: Once I came to terms with my being Trans and felt attractions to guys and girls both, I figured out what matters to me. I haven't 'made it' with a guy but if that is where I find love then I'm going for it :thumbsup: I'm quite nearly asexual, so that part of a relationship hardly matters to me compared to most people but I am willing to try to make a partner happy that way for their sake since my happiness in tied in with theirs ;) To tell my whole story so that you could understand it would take a book so I won't go there in this post. Just accept your feelings as valid and let your heart take you to the places where nothing else can :D

 

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I was overweight as a teen.  Pretty much convinced myself that I was looking at other guys because I was envious.  Especially because pretty much the only images of gay people that reached small town Iowa were drag queens or leather men, neither of which I related to.

 

Lost a lot of weight in college.  Got to feeling good about my body.  Drinking age was 19 at the time, so I started heading out to (straight) bars my sophomore year.  But try as I might to focus on looking at the women on the dancefloor, I inevitably shifted my attention to the guys.  By then I knew more about gays and started coming to the conclusion that I was gay.

 

AIDS started hitting the news at about the same time.  And although I eventually found out about a gay bar in town, it was from a female coworker to told me that she and her boyfriend went there because they played the best dance music, so going there myself would have effectively outed me at work.  So it would be a while before I did anything about it.

 

But basically I knew once I could no longer come up with excuses to explain away what I was feeling.

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The power of suggestion is quite ahem.. powerful haha. That's why it took me ages to realise I was gay (I was 17), but looking back on it I've always liked other boys, even as a child when I knew hardly nothing about sex. Back then, of course I did not see it as anything sexual, nor did I have the word for it. I knew of gay people of course (my mum had briefly 'told me' about them when I was a kid (bless her). She said, "well, there are some men who like other men instead of women, and those men are called homosexuals". The funny thing is, because she didn't mention women I was convinced for a long time that homosexuality was something that could only "affect" men...

 

So, as I was saying, my initial feelings for other boys felt more like "friendship feelings"; you know like... you see this boy in your class and you just think about him a lot and really wanna make friends with him and spend time together, even though at that age you don't think of anything sexual at all. In sixth grade my English teacher told us we could pick two foreign kids from a list of names to become pen pals. I picked two boys... 4 years later we did a twinning with another school in the country and got to pick one of the students to write to and make friends with. I picked a girl, a conventionally good looking one; then later begged and begged my friend to swap her address with mine cuz I had changed my mind. She had picked a guy...

 

Around the same time I got an obsession for Avril Lavigne. I used to think of her naked and picture the two of us doing stuff, although, obviously, what I liked about her was her blatantly 'boyish' look. As a matter of fact, she and Emma Watson are the only two girls I ever had serious sexual thoughts about. At the same time I couldn't understand why I was never really interested in the kinda conversations my male classmates would have about girls. I didn't think I was gay, I just thought I simply didn't like sex and wasn't very sexual at all, because in my mind in order to be gay you had to like "proper men" (mature looking, hairy ones) and I didn't. The only thing that turned me on sexually was nappies, and boys in nappies. I guess that should have helped me realise...but I just thought that was because when fantasizing about other boys in nappies I could kinda see myself in them. Well I guess that was part of the reason, but not the whole picture.

 

At age 17 I still hadn't had any sexual experience of any kind, let alone a girlfriend, but I guess it was also due to the fact I had other issues anyway. Then I started getting on chats and talking to guys online on a chat-room. Straight ones at first and, once again, I would try and 'make friends' with them. Then one day I just thought "what the hell" and got on the gay section of the same chat-room and, guess what, flirting with a guy, even if only online (I had never had the chance to flirt with a guy before in my entire life) could give me an erection within seconds. I guess that was when I pretty much stopped lying to myself.

 

I am now 25, been in two serious relationships with two guys, never slept with a single woman, and I am openly gay and militant! I came out to quite a few people in my family too recently. It's an ongoing battle, but they are being awesome about it. Still gotta tell dad though. I can tell that's not going to go down well...

 

Sorry for writing a mini-autobiography! I hope I haven't bored anyone, it's just that this topic always gets me reminiscing, as I am sure it does with a lot of other people.

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I've always held an interest in both sexes, growing up. Predominantly, my interest was for women

and I did my best to be a presentable "date" for the girls I was involved with. But ultimately my young,

boy-ish looks and lack of self-confidence jeopardized my chances of maintaining a true girlfriend.

At this time (around my late teens) I became instinctively aware of my desire to dress and be feminine

in front of others guys, which I think was due to how often I was dismissed by the opposite sex.

So I simply switched gender gears and accepted the cards fate had deault me to begin with.

I am and will likely be a sissy baby for the rest of my life. :)

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So I'm the only one who got a certified letter in the mail stating my sexual orientation on my birth certificate?  

 

I think it took years and years for me to figure out I was one of the ones who wanted his cake and pie and ice cream too.  I had a hard time figuring out what I was because I enjoyed dating women but not having sex with them.  The intimacy, romance and cuddling was what I thought I should have with women.  I enjoyed sex with men but did not like the aspect of dating them.  Cuddling with a man felt weird or maybe I just never found the right man.  So the confusion led on for years.  I'm happily married now to a woman but my wife knows underneath it all I'm bi and always will be.  

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I figured it out when I hit puberty and girls didn't interest me in the least lol ;)

 

Well, except for admiring their femininity. I view myself as a girl born in a guys body, but I'm ok with it (not interested in a sex change)

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I figured it out when I hit puberty and girls didn't interest me in the least lol ;)

 

Well, except for admiring their femininity. I view myself as a girl born in a guys body, but I'm ok with it (not interested in a sex change)

 

Not sure if this is prying or not but do you dress as a female in your every day life or is it only in the privacy of your home are you able to fully be yourself?  

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Not sure if this is prying or not but do you dress as a female in your every day life or is it only in the privacy of your home are you able to fully be yourself?  

Not prying at all, ask anything you'd like.

 

At home I will openly dress in feminine things. In public I strike a balance of clothing that suggest femininity but doesn't really turn your head twice, if that makes sense. While I identify internally as female, I don't exhibit feminine qualities. I've been told by many people that when they learned I was gay and the "female" in the relationship, they didn't have a clue. (I'm aware there isn't always a "female" in the relationship... it just happens to be so in my case)

 

What I'm about to say next often opens a can of worms with a lot of people, especially effeminate gay males and sissies, but all that crazy poofy frilly pink sissy type clothing, and effeminate gay males who act "swishy" and talk with lisps or whatever is a little over the top to me. Actual women don't dress or act like that. To me, it seems like an act to draw attention to ones self to proclaim to everyone around them that they are in fact gay or feminine, in lieu of being the real thing. They may have been doing it for so long, that's actually the way they are now, but no female acts or dresses like that. You can make any argument to the contrary that you like, but my view on that will never change.

 

Don't get me wrong, I *know* that looks judgmental, but I'm not judging. Just stating my point of view. You do you, and I'll do me, and if that's how your comfortable, knock it out the ballpark girl!

 

Basically I have chosen to live my life physically male despite the fact I'm in the wrong body. There are a few things I do to indulge my femininity. I don't wear underwear, I wear panties (even in public under my clothes). I find them more comfortable physically, mentally, and emotionally. I like cotton high cuts. At home with my husband, I have some pieces of clothing any woman would have on a daily basis. A pretty shirt, low cut socks etc. My favorite pair of pajamas are a cute set of pink/purple tinkerbell shirt/pants set. For our more intimate encounters I have some very sexy lingerie. I like the way it makes me feel, I like the way it makes me look.

 

I'm a complicated creature. While I might dress feminine to indulge that side of myself, I'm acutely aware that being male and dressing that way, being the "girl" in the relationship is kind of taboo and so it's a huge turn on to me. I kind of dig that. I'd go as far as saying that if I were really a girl, I'd get a kick out of guys who dressed fem and gave themselves up to other men in a feminine way. It's just kinky. The whole idea behind it makes for incredible sex, and I'm a very sexual person.

 

I will leave this documentary to your simple question on this note: While I'm fine in the body I have, I would only ever switch to a female body if you could somehow snap your fingers and I was 100% legit female, it's the only way I'd be happy with that situation, though I respect anyone who wants to undergo the change themselves via conventional methods (m to f or f to m). Otherwise, I'll stick with what I got, it works :)

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I always knew- one of my very first crushes was cheetarah from the Thundercats, and that Police Lady from the Gargoyles cartoon! It helped that I grew up across the street from a lesbian couple- their son was one of my childhood friends. I identify spiritually as bi-gender, but I have a female sex, and I am still almost exclusively attracted to women, so...I consider myself gay. When I came out one parent (mom) already knew, and the other (dad) was as happy as hell because he'd never have to worry about boys!

 

My story isn't very exciting; I've come out to my parents 4 times now (Gay, Bigender, into Kink//Alt, and Polyamorous), and they accepted me every single time- they even had questions and were interested in knowing about my lifestyles, and making sure that I was happy, healthy, and safe. Rare, I know...so I'm glad for it, and I'm always willing to listen to anyone who has a more upsetting story. They deserve to be heard, and even if I don't understand fully I can sympathize. I try, at least. 

 

It may have helped that I was raised in a Pagan//Native American household- there were no religious OR racial hangups (Two Spirits are an accepted part of Native culture), and homosexuality was taught as being natural, to me. If your spirit seeks a different path than you believed it would follow, it's more wrong to hold it down and force it where it doesn't want to go than it is to let it lead you, and help it flourish in a new direction. Follow your heart, and you'll be okay, even if others doubt you. Seek strength in yourself, and in those who don't doubt you...don't be afraid to ask others on your path to take your hand and help you up when you fall. 

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It's always been a part of me. I didn't really know until roughly 5th grade. I remember listening to what the girls paid attention to in guys. I'd look at guys only because I wanted to mimic things they did that caught a girls attention or dress the way the dressed, etc. But my interest in women was from very young. I stuck my head up a relatives shirt because I wanted to know what they had underneath. (Yes, I'm kind of into the whole chest area more than I often admit). But I realized that I looked at girls they way girls looked at guys. They'd talk about his eyes and all that, but I had never seen a guy in the same light, just girls. I guess that's the moment I had the epiphany you could say. But to answer your question, there wasn't one exact moment when I woke up and said 'ok, I'm gay'. It was a gradual understanding of who I was and realizing I prefer women. When I came out, my family was not surprised by the least.

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I was never totally sure until recently but I had suspected I was gay or bi since I was 13. While wrestling my hot jock friend Jason, I would start to get turned out but was (usually :whistling:) able to keep from gettin a hard-on. However, I vacillated back and forth for years... guys... girls... guys... girls... til' I said, "aw F*** it!! guess I'm BIsexual - i dig BOTH!"

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I figured out I was bi when this lady became the highlight of my Saturday night TV viewings ^_^'

I have to say, I like your taste :P 

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I guess I discovered I was gay when I used to want to get my diapers changed in front of my male friends.

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I was always bi-curious for as long as i remember and then one day I did some experimenting and realised I like both :)

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I never had an aha moment, and I still don't know. I do know one thing though. I don't care. I am in a same sex relationship right now, and I love my Abby. Before her, I was in a casual dating relationship with a guy who was awesome. I can't imagine someone being after Abby, but I do know that long before I even consider parts, I need to be attracted to the person, mind, body and soul.

 

I don't consider myself Bi, Gay, Lesbian, frankly to me, it does not matter. I am who I am, and who I am is who I am.

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