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i've worn and wet 24/7 since February with the goal of permanent, complete loss of bladder control (yes, i'm making progress). i recently visited my primary doctor for the first time diapered, and ended up sitting on the edge of the exam table with my pants down while he examined my knee. He was sitting on a stool at eye level with my diaper, so he had to have seen my diaper, but to my surprise, he had zero reaction or comment about it. At some point, though, i'm sure he'll get around to asking me during a visit why i've started wearing diapers. He's gay, and knows that i'm kinky, so it probably wouldn't shock him if i told him i had a diaper fetish. On the other hand, i'm sure he'd raise serious concerns if i shared my goal. Not only that, but i wouldn't want my medical records to reflect that my developing bladder control problems, or eventual incontinence, was "self-induced."

Has anyone here faced the same dillema with their primary doctor? Did you just say that you'd been having some accidents and chose to wear protection? Did the doctor then start pushing testing or treatment? i'd hate to get pressured into medical tests before i had fully lost bladder control, lest they decide i'm "faking it," etc. For that matter, i've wondered the same thing about what would happen if i ended up in an accident or something like that, and was taken to the hospital---would they see my diaper and just treat me as an incontinent patient without question? i'm just trying to figure out how to handle some of these situations as they arise in the future.

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I've had to wear diapers since a car accident 16 years ago, but I've always like wearing them for as long as I can remember. My doctor never pushed me about it either. I always had to prompt him about it even just to get a referral to a urologist. Face it, they're professional and have seen it all. I doubt your primary doctor really actually cares one way or the other. Either way though, the most your primary will do is refer you to a urologist. And yes, that doctor will push many tests, decide if you're faking it or not (though they may not say so), put you on many useless drugs, push as many different treatments as they can, and all the while try to "cure" you while ignoring any attempt to improve your quality of life.

Sorry but there it is.

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My 02 cents.

Having done the tests. Getting checked out etc. I can say I'm glad I went through the trouble. For one reason.

This lifestyle choice is extreme body mod. With anything this extreme it's good to be able have someone to go to if things go down hill very quickly.

What I mean by this is your at risk for a variety of different issues. The most obvious being utis. What however do you do with a sudden Job loss. Bad economy. And no savings 10 Years down the road? In this situation it's a nice fallback to be documented that yes you do have a medical condition. And get some depends to get you through.

I feel with anything this extreme you should have some kind of fallback. If you decide 5 years down the road to change your mind. You can go and try a variety of treatments.

It's a pain. Yes. But a safety net. Gives you a fallback.

-Blake-

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So Blake, you say you were put through "the tests." I take it you told your doctor you had bladder control problems, then (as opposed to saying anything was intentional training)? What was the result of all the tests? Did your doctor question your stated "problems" afterward, or just conclude that you were one of the many cases of "indeterminately caused" incontinence?

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The end result was him have me try some Meds.

Specialists and general practice alike don't blink twice if they can't determine the root cause. I would suggest you only see a urologist After the point of no return. Why? Well at this point physical changes have occurred to your body. So when you are taking these tests. The results will show there is an underlying issue.

What is important to note is the full array of tests are more for trying to get a solution than find a root cause. They examine what condition your body is in at that point in time and point to the best solution. They do not provide a history/report of how your body got to that point.

This is a 2nd string issue in the sense that the professional is usually more focused on the future rather than the past. In my experience having a story and sticking to it is best for the least amount of questions.

You'll be asked questions about when it started. If anything changed etc. for the most part if you stick to a particular story with no idea-just happened. That's good enough for the curiosity.

You'll be asked to try various Meds. You can either decline, saying your here for documentation purposes and your extremely sensitive to side effects. Or tell them the Meds don't work/too extreme side effects.

If you do the latter I'd suggest samples. And decline the 2nd go around saying you can't afford to chance side effects due to where you are in your life.

About 10-30% of people with incontinence issues can't use Meds due to extreme side effects. This won't be surprising.

The doctor may bring up alternatives. Though you can say your not ready for that kind of action. Leave it as an issue that's documented and follow up every few months.

In any case. It's not an ongoing search into your personal life or your past. Just verification you have an issue. What type of issue etc.

For me I took this path. With the Meds having too severe of side effects. I was not questioned. And declined any further treatment.

-Blake-

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I have a life history of leakage problems and while I haven't discussed it directly with my GP since it isn't really an issue to me if the day comes when I must I wlll tell him the truth: that I had all the tests done already, there is no reason for me being like this except that I am like this, and that it's something I am NOT having problems with so why should he be worried when I'm not? :P My choice of underwear isn't hurting me or anyone else so to heck with them- I choose to wear diapers so I can heve a 'normal' life :D

Bettypooh

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i've worn and wet 24/7 since February with the goal of permanent, complete loss of bladder control (yes, i'm making progress). i recently visited my primary doctor for the first time diapered, and ended up sitting on the edge of the exam table with my pants down while he examined my knee. He was sitting on a stool at eye level with my diaper, so he had to have seen my diaper, but to my surprise, he had zero reaction or comment about it. At some point, though, i'm sure he'll get around to asking me during a visit why i've started wearing diapers.

Was this just a knee exam? If so, either he might not have noticed or paid much attention to the diaper, let alone concerned himself with any history of you being diapered. My primary doctor *seems* like he remembers me from one visit to the next, but he does see a lot of other patients in the months between my visits, and he's got his past notes about me in front of him.

If this were a physical, it'd strike me as odd that he wouldn't ask about it, as diapers are rather unusual - regardless of what he knows about your kinky side. Developing incontinence at your age is unusual, after all, and generally speaking could be a sign of other medical issues.

Of course, the cause of your incontinence is much different. If he asks about it at some point, be upfront about it (even if he wasn't aware of your kinky side, but especially because he is aware). Although you might get a lecture about your choice, that beats wasting his time and your time and insurance co-pays on a lot of unnecessary tests to find a cause and/or possible treatments.

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I was still worn out and brain weary from a very long day when I made my above post, and now that I am rested I'd like to delve a bit deeper here ;)

First I'd like to address the medical diagnosis concerns because most people don't have my bladder control history to make dealing with this easier. I remember well when my lawyer told me that only a fool lies to their doctor or lawyer because that person cannot help them otherwise, and when things are so serious that you need a doctor or lawyer, they are probably the only person who can help you :o Then again, there are things they don't need to be exposed to if they are not relevant- only you can decide which is which ;) In any case, unless your doctor is treating you for related medical issues, there is no need to expose them to your diapering. If you have become so 'leaky' that you must wear then the best approach might be to tell the doctor that you are not having a problem with this so they don't need to be asking you about it. If there is any real medical issue with desired incontinence, it would be mostly in the area of mental health, not physical, so it's outside of your physical doctors area of concern :D My doctor and my therapist worked together on my depression and gender issues but that is as far as either went since that was all that was needed. This is how true professionals operate but not all in either field are this professional- in fact few are :( Which makes your choice of doctor more crucial than most people realize. If your medical people can't or won't handle you in the manner you wish, it's time to find someone else to do that <_<

Another medical aspect here is the question of why you're addressing this with your doctor. Are you seeking to have your insurance cover your diapers or looking for a tax deduction? If that is the case are you morally OK with lying to do that? I won't judge that but you need to for yourself. And you need to know that you're going to go through a whole quagmire of tests and Meds which aren't doing anything except waste time and money which are better spent elsewhere :blush: If you are not unwillingly incontinent perhaps you should accept the responsibilities of your decision to be willingly incontinent on your own. That is your call to make.

I have a special relationship with my doctor compared to most people and even though we have not directly addressed this, I would have no problems doing that. He knows my history so beyond being sure that it's not being caused by something which could harm me, he wouldn't be concerned nor would he put it in my records. It took a long time to find a doctor like this but it was worth the effort- he's one of the best :wub: Now if you wanted to, you could 'adopt' my kind of history and tell your doctor that bladder control has always been an issue with you and that you've found wearing diapers to be your best solution. Again this is a moral question which only you can judge; I'm just suggesting it as one way for you to deal with this dilemma. How you proceed is up to you, just know that without the truth your doctor is limited in what they can do to help you should something related to your wearing and using diapers become a issue in the future. If you don't think your doctor can handle this then it;s time to find a better one before this issue arises :mellow: Myself, I will not lie to my doctor or my lawyer and that has proven to be the best strategy for me. I accept that I wear diapers, I accept that I can often do without them but wear anyway, and I accept that if things have reached the point where my wearing has become an issue then it's because I didn't handle it properly prior to this.

To each their own and my hopes that we all will find out own peace and happiness wherever it be.

Bettypooh

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To be clear, Bettypooh, this isn't about insurance or tax deductions. This is just about my own pondering how I'll handle the situation if and when my physician raises the issue with me----something I'm surprised he didn't do when he was literally "face to face" with the matter, and he has treated me long enough to know it was "new." That said, I don't have an issue if my medical records end up with a diagnosis of incontinence at some point---it WILL be a medical issue in time, if my training fully succeeds. I just don't want to end up with a notation in my records that says I intentionally modified my body in this way. A notation like that can be used against someone in very unexpected, seemingly-unrelated ways.

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  • 3 years later...

Yes I've been trying to convince my doctors and my pearents that I have problems with incontinence, with very little success I have been having problems since 2010 and was 30 years old when it all started, I am now 35-36 years old, although I have always been interested in diapers I don't have a fettish or urge to compulsively live that lifestyle or become a AB/DL and my motivation isn't driven by porn or other factors.

I have also gotten used to or come to terms with the fact I will probably be in diapers for the rest of my life, although I didn't choose this myself as it's a bit of a shameful thing to suddenly have to be embarrassed to say that I have problems that means I have to wear diapers virtually all of the time.

pycalogically I also have an inner child but don't want to be seen indulging in babyish things in public although I don't like the stigma surrounding this subject.

my full stories are on http://www.wearing-adult-diapers.com

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