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Hey everyone,

This is my first post ever as I just recently joined this site. I was in a bad accident at work about 4 years ago in which I severely injured my lower spine. They told me I would never feel anything from my waste down again let alone walk. I was stuck in the hospital for 6 months following my accident and was cared for by some amazing nurses. These ppl helped me to accept the fact I needed to be diapered and cared for like an infant for the most part, as I was having a very difficult time adjusting to the helplessness of my situation. I can honestly say that their help was the foothold I needed to prove the doctors wrong about never walking again. I worked very slowly with physio therapy specialists and began to regain feeling and control of my lower body and eventually worked up to being able to move my legs and re-learning to walk again. Unfortunately, my injury also damaged various nerves in my spine and has left me virtually 100% bladder incontinent and some bowel issues as well. I'm a strong willed person and I tend to never accept defeat, but my incontinence is something I know I'm going to need to learn to live with.

I wrote the story of what happened to me, just so people have an idea where i'm coming from and can maybe offer me advice as well as support. Being incontinent isn't by far the worst thing in life, but it is a major change and I am having some trouble adjusting. A LOT of trial and error and live and learn situations relating to wearing diapers full time and i'm assuming ppl here can give me ideas on pretty much anything to do with something that affects your life like this.

Also, i'm looking to meet people I can get to know and talk to not just about this, but about anything. (Always a plus Having common ground, lol)

On the plus side to all of this, I've discovered I have a little bit of AB or DL in me, lol. I'm just not sure which it is or to what extent and haven't pushed it. lol.

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I too was in an accident witch caused me to loose my bladder control and I have nerve damage in my legs, if I have a bruise I have to go get x-rays done. It took me a yr to learn how to walk again. I still walk like I'm a child that just learned to walk, I some times I loose my balance and fall down, but I get up and do my best. If I'm going to walking far I now use a walker. I excepted my diapers and I enjoy wearing them. I even got into acting like a child for fun to spice up life alittle bit.

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I developed urge incontinence as the result of an unexpected side effect of surgery when I was 14 years old. I'm 69 now; so I've been dealing with icon issues for a long time. I've been in night diapers ever since the surgery and in full-time day diapers for the past 25 years or so. I was able to get by without daytime diapers from the time I was about 18 until I was in my forties, when the daytime issues got worse. However, I've been extremely fortunate to have generally good health apart from the icon issues.

Of course, I started out with cloth diapers and plastic pants and developed enough sewing skill to produce my own diapers and plastic pants. However, I was happy to switch over to disposables when they became good enough to offer a viable alternative to cloth.

Becoming incontinent just as I was starting high school in a small town during the 1950's was a terrible emotional blow. However, as the old saying goes, anything that doesn't kill you makes you stronger; and I think my incontinence has made me tougher in some ways and more compassionate in other ways.

Incontinence certainly is a nuisance; but as physical handicaps go, it's relatively minor. I've made dealing with it a part of my everyday life and have managed to have a successful professional and personal life. Giving myself permission to enjoy the erotic side of diapers has also been a tremendous benefit. Why suffer from incontinence if you can enjoy it?

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I was in a car crash in 1999.... Broke my back L1/L2.... Have pelvic nerve damage.... and was diagnosed with serious Rectal cancer in 2010.... I was able to overcome it..... (even though I had 5 doctors telling my a permanent colostomy was the only way to go)...... so after many radiation treatments.... and alot of chemo.... (which i will be going back on in about 2 weeks to kill any possible chance of recurrance)..... I say welcome, sometimes..... diapers can be blessing..... ;)

If you have ever had to make it to bathroom and couldn't...... crowds/to far/short notice........ you know exactly what I am talking about :)

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Yikes! I got a stabbing pain in my groin just READING that! Details?

Ceramic tiles can be sharper than glass and can break without warning. One wrong fall while under the shower is all it takes. I got part of a grab bar and tile in me in the process of falling. I can't tell you how many stitches the OUTSIDE wound took because the doctor told me she quit counting after twenty.

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Hey everyone,

This is my first post ever as I just recently joined this site. I was in a bad accident at work about 4 years ago in which I severely injured my lower spine. They told me I would never feel anything from my waste down again let alone walk. I was stuck in the hospital for 6 months following my accident and was cared for by some amazing nurses. These ppl helped me to accept the fact I needed to be diapered and cared for like an infant for the most part, as I was having a very difficult time adjusting to the helplessness of my situation. I can honestly say that their help was the foothold I needed to prove the doctors wrong about never walking again. I worked very slowly with physio therapy specialists and began to regain feeling and control of my lower body and eventually worked up to being able to move my legs and re-learning to walk again. Unfortunately, my injury also damaged various nerves in my spine and has left me virtually 100% bladder incontinent and some bowel issues as well. I'm a strong willed person and I tend to never accept defeat, but my incontinence is something I know I'm going to need to learn to live with.

I wrote the story of what happened to me, just so people have an idea where i'm coming from and can maybe offer me advice as well as support. Being incontinent isn't by far the worst thing in life, but it is a major change and I am having some trouble adjusting. A LOT of trial and error and live and learn situations relating to wearing diapers full time and i'm assuming ppl here can give me ideas on pretty much anything to do with something that affects your life like this.

Also, i'm looking to meet people I can get to know and talk to not just about this, but about anything. (Always a plus Having common ground, lol)

On the plus side to all of this, I've discovered I have a little bit of AB or DL in me, lol. I'm just not sure which it is or to what extent and haven't pushed it. lol.

From reading your post, at first glance, I don't think that the incontinence is something that you will need to live with. What I am saying is that since you have leg muscle control - which I agree took time to achieve and also a lot of practice, there is a possibility that you could gain some level of continence control.

Bowel control, as I have previously posted, is a matter of timing and diet. I am not trying to be unfeeling or harsh, but bowel control can be managed with timing. Bladder control is all about fine muscle control and communication. The human body is a master at adapting or 'rewiring' itself. All you need to do (and I know that this is easier said than done) is to relearn the muscle sequence control and adapt accordingly. If you can control your legs, it means that your fine muscle control is intact, and needs to be extended to control your bladder.

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My own history - I was about 2-3, I can't remember the actual age and personally do not wish to find out exactly. I was in hospital, childrens ward. Due to my age, and energy levels, I climbed out of my cot and was running around the ward in a footed sleeper. This was around 1970 where the feet of these garments did not have any grips, but were the same material as the rest of the sleeper. As a result, I had little to no grip. I slipped, and fell backwards. I knew I hurt myself, and was crying due to the pain in my back. The hospital nurse, hearing me crying, assumed that I had slipped, dragged me up by one arm and dropped me back into my crib.

The fall had forced 4 individual vertebrae into my spinal cord, and damaged the mylin that protects my cord. The vertebrae went back to their original position when I was moved, but the damage was done. The injury was not discovered until a CT scan when I was age 7/8. At that stage, the mylin at the locations had gone. Also, the core central nervous bundle is severely damaged. This has caused progressive reduction in control, which my body is constantly adapting to fix. However, since the damage created at such an early stage of my development, and I was still diaper dependant, I have never gained full continence control, and also know that due to the limited nerve fibres I have available, will probably never be fully continent.

I am bladder and bowel incontinent when asleep / relaxed, but gain some to full control when fully focused on controlling my bladder / bowels. At this stage in my life, I don't find it a problem unless I have to deal with a messy diaper when out of my comfort zone.

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Due to diapers being so closely associated to infants, infantile behaviour and babyhood, a large proportion of people that need diapers to make their life easier chose not to wear, and will find an alternative way of handling the situation.

What you discuss is normal, where the person that is wearing diapers is the one who does not have the ability to chose. Despite what we in the community want to believe, the people that wear diapers for need are placed into same by a career.

If diapers were not so much associated to a baby, I believe that more would chose to wear, and be better able to care for themselves. What I mean by that is seen in the normal care a nurse gives to a *paitent - ie every hour or so, reminds the patient or helps the patient to the bathroom. In larger care facilities, where the nurse to patient ratio is less, said patient would be diapered, with the consent of the patient, and changed every four or so hours.

As a person matures, their ability to last eight hours overnight without using a bathroom diminishes, and will have to interrupt their sleep. This interruption creates secondary problems such as insomnia etc. Despite popular myth, the human body is designed to be awake during the daylight hours, and asleep for the rest. Interruption in the sleep period causes a myriad of problems.

In my opinion, it is better to wear and wet a diaper overnight than to disturb the sleep period.

*The paitent I refer to is one who should be wearing diapers due to limited control and/or reduced capacity etc.

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wow there is a lot of experts on here, a lot of definitive statements about this subject that broker no disagreement.

It interesting that some people think that one kind of incontinence is trainable and the other is not, also that due to having some control of lower limbs returning automatically means that control of ones 'water works' will also return.

In my own circumstances, I go to the loo, sit down, then clean myself and then 20 min later its like I haven

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Tour taking the OP's statement out of context. without knowing all of the details you can not say one way or the other what the best coarse of action at that time was. It's poosible that the inury would not allow him to be cathed.

My car accident did not break my back. However, it did seem to damage the sacrel nerves or the nerves that run from this bundle to the brain. I have also had a series of other issues that ertain to the prostate. All of which have contributed to my incontinence. I agree that in most cases medical profesional's will discourage diapers. However, if its a matter of quality of life then they will support the patient. Instead of bashing everyone here, why not stick to topics that interest you.

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Awww..... Mommy isn't putting your diaper on you and snuggling up in bed with you at 23 years old wearing high heels with a supposed major back trama?

Still trying to figure out how you wear a dry 24/7 to work under a skirt with no one knowing....that shizz is magic!!

About as Magic as you in this form and not believing that I have worn Molicares for over 15 or so years under my jeans and nobody has noticed either and I wear old school jeans as in Levi slim fit.. I have worked all aspects of jobs to a quiet office environment to roofing jobs, you name it...even delivering pizza's like the duckster.. Your comments and condescending tones about people that are incontinent are not only unwelcome they are against site policy.

While the medical community might say that having a cervical spine injury is not a cause for incontinence, I can assure you that my personal doctors know that not only is it real, that I deal with it with diapers. Granted some people don't wear them and should, but it's not your choice to judge those of us who do. Please Eject yourself from this thread.!

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To all here:

I have removed all scenarioX posts and quoted comments here. This member has been instructed to never post or reply in this forum again- if you see this happening report him immediately and he will be banned from the site. Mention this post in your report. Sorry I didn't get here sooner but I don't visit as much as I once did.

Bettypooh

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Works for me... and Poof he was gone! I can't ban either and just not time out as well . :P I swore it worked the other day but I don't have the confirm button at the bottom anymore but can check all the boxes and stuff what gives? :huh: I have the ability to suspend or delete though? ;) Mike a little help here???

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wow there is a lot of experts on here, a lot of definitive statements about this subject that broker no disagreement.

It interesting that some people think that one kind of incontinence is trainable and the other is not, also that due to having some control of lower limbs returning automatically means that control of ones 'water works' will also return.

In my own circumstances, I go to the loo, sit down, then clean myself and then 20 min later its like I haven

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Repaid, I don't have ANY buttons, any functions, or any way to do anything more than raise warns and send PM's. I'm more than sick and tired of having to go through hoops to help people when it's neither necessary or intelligent.

One of my favorite sayings: Be careful what you ask for because you might actual get it. Someone wasn't careful and wasn't thinking when they asked for an 'upgrade' based on the answers I'm seeing come down the pike. Whatever- nobody can accuse me of not trying to keep this a nice place for all of us.

BP

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babykeiff my right arm was paralyzed for 5+ years and the stupid neurologists kept agreeing with the first guys assessment that i must have slept on my shoulder wrong and bruised my brachial plexus , each and everyone would say give it a month and it will be better,what they did not see was the CIDP destroying the nerve roots on the right side of my spine,what none of these brilliant Doctors didn't last thru was the 5+ years of agonizing pain in and arm and shoulder that was paralyzed but you wanted to stick in a meat grinder because it would probably feel better,and just before the arm reanimated about 8 months prior i found a specialist who could put a name on what was and is destroying my body.if i dyed the salt out of my hair, shaved my body hair and walked into a doctors office i could very easily pass as a 12-13 year old, my body is a wreck i used to be big very muscular and strong being an active firefighter you have to be and now i'm shrunken,but the whole reason for writing this is the degree of insult (Injury) to a particular nerve depends on how long it will take to regenerate and if i remember correctly its 1/16 of an inch per month on nerves the have been bruised and not Severed so its a long road home, and me myself if i was newly incontinent and trying to cope this is not the site that would be high on the teachers list-at the hospital i'm sure they gave him a list of manufacturers websites and chat groups that are all heavily moderated round the clock and are there for just those kind of people, so me personally i do not believe his post or his story i think he is trying to play on peoples good nature-thats just my opinion i could be wrong.

Nappy

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