Acceptable Public Exposure?

[DprDJeff]

So here's the deal. My girl has this fantasy of being publically exposed in diapers. There are a couple of options that I intend to follow through with for her. One being a local porn shop that often has fetish dressed people. The other being Kinkfest next month in Portland, OR.

My question is, are there any other acceptable places where exposing her diapers would not be frowned upon? I'm drawing a blank.

Thanks in advance. =)

[Pudding]

Both suggestions are probably good ideas ~ more particularly the kinky get-together. Kinkclubs can be a good idea, too ~ the sorts of places where everybody has their own little slice left-of-the-centre and so doesn't judge. Otherwise, there are great venues where you can take her in a diaper without exposing her directly; the cinema being a favorite. Make her suck a paci and wear low-ride jeans if you want to push the envelope a little bit. Or take her for a walk somewhere secluded for a picnic; stipulating that she's to take off her skirt/pants when you arrive there and be just in a top and her diaper. The chances of running into someone are remote-to-none, but the thrill exists nonetheless.

(And yes, I was very much thinking of Soapy when I made these suggestions ♥)

[DprDJeff]

The problem is she isn't turned on by the possibility of getting caught. She enjoys the humiliation of strangers seeing her in diapers. Kinkfest and the local porn shop are easy, but they are also filled with people that are open minded and would probably just think it was cute. Trying to think of a place that is appropriate, but would have people that most likely will think she is an oddball, is hard.

Thanks though. =)

[Pudding]

The trick is, of course, being able to satisfy her desires without thrusting it into the faces of people who may not wish it to be so. There's a fantastic episode of Mr. Bean, where he changes a babies messy diaper and leaves it to the side; where the wind then takes it and flutters it away to land in unlucky peoples faces. This is quite a good analog for the fetish, amusingly XD Nobody really wants some strangers diaper shoved in their face, you know?~

You could go to a swingers meet; where the people there are open in regards to relationship but maybe not so much into every kink. She'd certainly make a splash there, no doubt. The problem with other social situations is that people are more likely to assume she's actually incontinent, before they think "oh that kinky little tart..".

[LILJIM]

New Years & Halloween partys!!! Only other place that comes to mind is Medical supply shops, or Pharacy shops.

[Hasen]

Just take her for a trip to walmart in a skirt. You will probably even end up on the peopleofwalmart.com

[diaperbrownie]

Walmart is an acceptable place for sure. I see people there all the time either 1.) doing stunts dared by their friends such as wearing funny/odd things 2.) Wearing funny/odd things because that's how they dress and 3.) wearing funny/odd things to get a sexual kick out of it.

I've seen women in suits (although that's not strange anymore) men in super high heels, men in super short skirts, people wearing funny hats, people brely dressed at all, people wearing thongs who shouldn't be wearing thongs, etc etc.

And I have on multiple occasions (spread out over years) people wear diapers under clothing obviously worn to expose the diaper. One very partocular moment I remember was a guy came in YES **A SKIRT** and it was rather short. You could see under it there was a diaper and you could tell (**by sight AND smell**) that it was pretty dirty. He would not have drawn much more attention had he not (yea, I followed him) went to an aisle in the jewelry section and pretended to drop a bracelet so he could bend super low and fully expose his used diaper.

It was, in a nutshell, disgusting and embarassing, me being a fellow ABDL for another ABDL to stoop so low as to do this. He got attention alright.

Not the right kind.

But Walamrt is still acceptable if you go and like wear jeans or a long skirt or something and maybe just casually bend over far enough so maybe the people behind you get a quick peek at the top of your diaper poking out the back of your pants. Maybe do it in the front doorway as people come in? I don't know, experiment!!

Porn shops, for sure, though!!

[timmyc]

I would think a bar, no kids to worry about, people are relaxed and having fun and excuses such as temp incontinence, while drinking or nasty bathrooms would be believable.

[tcc]

So here's the deal. My girl has this fantasy of being publically exposed in diapers. There are a couple of options that I intend to follow through with for her. One being a local porn shop that often has fetish dressed people. The other being Kinkfest next month in Portland, OR.

My question is, are there any other acceptable places where exposing her diapers would not be frowned upon? I'm drawing a blank.

Thanks in advance. =)

NO! Emphatically, NO! ESPECIALLY if her only thrill is to shock other people. Our community does NOT need this. Great for HER, BAD for others who would simply be offended. I'M an avowed DL and would be offended KNOWING that the exposure wasn't "inadvertant", but intentional.

Please, please, please stick to places where it might be accepted, kink clubs, kink gatherings, even porn/kink shops. Otherwise, do this DISCREETLY. And, Wal-Mart already is enough of a zoo without it being a magnet for "flaming" AB or even DL types that simply want to shock other people.

The need to go "public" can be strong, and person MIGHT have nothing to lose in doing so. However, the damage it does to our community is almost irreparable. We really DON'T need any more negative press...

[drynot]

Unfortunately TCC makes a really good point. (not slamming you TCC!!)

Our little corner of the world has taken some major heat lately and while I certainly wouldn't be offended to see a fellow AB/DL enjoying themselves in public I know most folks these days won't be so forgiving.....

[diaperbrownie]

No, I think there are some places where intentional diaper exposure is acceptable. One of those places being porn/kink shops. You have a level of expection when entering such a shop on seeing some *unsightly* things, but only because it comes with the underground lifestyle. People in thongs, wearing all sorts of leather things, etc etc. So one can expect to see diapers since diapers ARE a huge fetish arena.

If one wants to have some public diaper exposure then porn shops are the way to go.You can bet they have seen many diapers on their customers.

[timmyc]

However, the damage it does to our community is almost irreparable. We really DON'T need any more negative press...

I can see it now

US health care overhaul heading to supreme court

Chaos in the streets of Cairo

We are getting word of am impending terrorist threat that could have a major impact on....

This has just been handed to me, a woman in walmart partially exposed her adult diaper. No less than a few people may have seen it. Now keep in mind people this is a product they sell at walmart but she wasn't medically authorized to wear them outside of her own bedroom. When asked for comment, President Obama indicated the AB/DL community may just behind the incident and promised justice will reign not just for the victims in walmart today, but for all Americans. In Flint Michigan, Micheal Moore led a demonstration to get adult diapers pulls from the shelves of walmart. When asked to comment, a spokesman for the AB/DL community stated, on the condition of anonymity "It was a tragedy and we could have stopped it we knew it could happen, but we didn't know when or where." We will have up to the minute information as this story unfolds on our website.

Coming up, Amy with weather and Stu with sports

[DprDJeff]

NO! Emphatically, NO! ESPECIALLY if her only thrill is to shock other people. Our community does NOT need this. Great for HER, BAD for others who would simply be offended. I'M an avowed DL and would be offended KNOWING that the exposure wasn't "inadvertant", but intentional.

Please, please, please stick to places where it might be accepted, kink clubs, kink gatherings, even porn/kink shops. Otherwise, do this DISCREETLY. And, Wal-Mart already is enough of a zoo without it being a magnet for "flaming" AB or even DL types that simply want to shock other people.

The need to go "public" can be strong, and person MIGHT have nothing to lose in doing so. However, the damage it does to our community is almost irreparable. We really DON'T need any more negative press...

First, I am trying to come up with ideas where it is acceptable, but still humiliating for her. I specifically said this... I have no intention of exposing her anywhere it might lead to bad press or anything of the sort. Secondly, she is not trying to get her thrill by shocking other people. It's about humiliation. Being laughed at perhaps. Not having people walk away in disgust.

Come warmer weather, I was thinking some of the clothing optional beaches would be a good place to go. I vaguely remember there being ABDL events at one beach in Oregon. The web site of the one I found locally specifically says fetish clothing is acceptable.

[PArms]

You might just have to set up a scenario with actors. Obviously if they agree, they won't be offended. If you're girlfriend doesn't know that, then she'll get her humiliation.

[LuvsGurl]

Some people get really up tight about this, and some don't. It's really a gray area open to interpretation. There are places to do it and places not to do it. I wouldn't have an issue with someone showing a bit of diaper in Wal-Mart, but in Macys it is a totally different story.

My diaper shows sometimes when we go out in public, it's not intentional but I still get looks. Some of my shirts are really short (that's the style these days apparently) and when I bend over "oops" they ride up. I don't derive any kinky pleasure from others seeing but it is pretty funny to see the shocked look on their face when they figure out that it isn't normal underwear.

Honestly I've seen a lot worse things than diapers on display too. If she wants to go out to a store in a skirt and just "accidentally" bend over at the right moment I don't see anything wrong with it. If people don't want to see it they don't have to look. Just be careful how "accidentally" it happens or you may end up getting security called on you. The skinny girls do stuff like that all the time with their thongs on display and BDSM people and furries wear their collars out in public, so what's the big deal? It's not going to scar anyone for life, just don't go flashing diaper to the kids OK?

[:dlb]

Walmart is an acceptable place for sure. I see people there all the time either 1.) doing stunts dared by their friends such as wearing funny/odd things 2.) Wearing funny/odd things because that's how they dress and 3.) wearing funny/odd things to get a sexual kick out of it.

I've seen women in suits (although that's not strange anymore) men in super high heels, men in super short skirts, people wearing funny hats, people brely dressed at all, people wearing thongs who shouldn't be wearing thongs, etc etc.

And I have on multiple occasions (spread out over years) people wear diapers under clothing obviously worn to expose the diaper. One very partocular moment I remember was a guy came in YES **A SKIRT** and it was rather short. You could see under it there was a diaper and you could tell (**by sight AND smell**) that it was pretty dirty. He would not have drawn much more attention had he not (yea, I followed him) went to an aisle in the jewelry section and pretended to drop a bracelet so he could bend super low and fully expose his used diaper.

It was, in a nutshell, disgusting and embarassing, me being a fellow ABDL for another ABDL to stoop so low as to do this. He got attention alright.

Not the right kind.

But Walamrt is still acceptable if you go and like wear jeans or a long skirt or something and maybe just casually bend over far enough so maybe the people behind you get a quick peek at the top of your diaper poking out the back of your pants. Maybe do it in the front doorway as people come in? I don't know, experiment!!

Porn shops, for sure, though!!

just because idiots do it doesn't make it acceptable.

[gweg]

Some people get really up tight about this, and some don't. It's really a gray area open to interpretation. There are places to do it and places not to do it. I wouldn't have an issue with someone showing a bit of diaper in Wal-Mart, but in Macys it is a totally different story.

My diaper shows sometimes when we go out in public, it's not intentional but I still get looks. Some of my shirts are really short (that's the style these days apparently) and when I bend over "oops" they ride up. I don't derive any kinky pleasure from others seeing but it is pretty funny to see the shocked look on their face when they figure out that it isn't normal underwear.

Honestly I've seen a lot worse things than diapers on display too. If she wants to go out to a store in a skirt and just "accidentally" bend over at the right moment I don't see anything wrong with it. If people don't want to see it they don't have to look. Just be careful how "accidentally" it happens or you may end up getting security called on you. The skinny girls do stuff like that all the time with their thongs on display and BDSM people and furries wear their collars out in public, so what's the big deal? It's not going to scar anyone for life, just don't go flashing diaper to the kids OK?

Hydi lynn was a prime example of this being OK... I wish she was here to straighten out a bunch of you.

[DprDJeff]

Even the ABDL community has it's conservatives. I have no problems with taking her to the store with a diaper under her jeans, so when she bends the right way it pokes out the top. It's embarassing for her and nobody is going to be offended because it's no worse than seeing underwear poking out.

However, she wants to be exposed fully. Like wearing a short skirt and having the skirt lifted to expose her diapers while I check to see if she is wet. She likes the sensation that she is being exposed by me and not just exposing herself.

Another idea is one of those clothing stores with personal shoppers. They see all kinds of crazy things and pretty sure they wouldn't have any issues with it. I had a friend years ago that was a personal shopper and she told me stories about guys coming in to buy clothes for crossdressing or looking for clothes that could hide chastity devices or other bondage apparel. Might be fun to take her to buy some new pants and specifically ask the personal shopper to find her pants that would fit over thick diapers. lol

For those that don't know what a personal shopper is(I didn't until my friend told me what she did for a living), they basically fetch the clothes you are interested in while you wait in a private dressing area. They help you get dressed, offer advice on sizes and colors, etc. =)

[LuvsGurl]

If she really wants to be totally and fully exposed I would suggest a private fetish party or fet night at a local club.

I don't know how close Spanaway is to a beach or other place where people sunbathe, but she could also get away with a bikini top and diaper in that sort of situation. Of course you would have to wait for summer.

[DprDJeff]

I actually saw an older woman at a local beach wearing a diaper under her granny swimsuit. For her it was obviously medical, so nobody said a word or even really took a second look. That's a lot different than a 110lb women that looks like she belongs on a swimsuit calendar wearing a diaper at the beach. lol

[lil_baby_wet_n_squishy]

I would much rather see someone showing a bit of diaper, then the typical teen scene of their pants hanging half off there butt, or the people that show off their butt crack because their clothes are too tight/short on them.

[timmyc]

what about pictures here or fetlife? She can be exposed and people will comment, but it is in a controlled environment

[tcc]

First, I am trying to come up with ideas where it is acceptable, but still humiliating for her. I specifically said this... I have no intention of exposing her anywhere it might lead to bad press or anything of the sort. Secondly, she is not trying to get her thrill by shocking other people. It's about humiliation. Being laughed at perhaps. Not having people walk away in disgust.

Come warmer weather, I was thinking some of the clothing optional beaches would be a good place to go. I vaguely remember there being ABDL events at one beach in Oregon. The web site of the one I found locally specifically says fetish clothing is acceptable.

Even the ABDL community has it's conservatives. I have no problems with taking her to the store with a diaper under her jeans, so when she bends the right way it pokes out the top. It's embarassing for her and nobody is going to be offended because it's no worse than seeing underwear poking out.

However, she wants to be exposed fully. Like wearing a short skirt and having the skirt lifted to expose her diapers while I check to see if she is wet. She likes the sensation that she is being exposed by me and not just exposing herself.

Another idea is one of those clothing stores with personal shoppers. They see all kinds of crazy things and pretty sure they wouldn't have any issues with it. I had a friend years ago that was a personal shopper and she told me stories about guys coming in to buy clothes for crossdressing or looking for clothes that could hide chastity devices or other bondage apparel. Might be fun to take her to buy some new pants and specifically ask the personal shopper to find her pants that would fit over thick diapers. lol

For those that don't know what a personal shopper is(I didn't until my friend told me what she did for a living), they basically fetch the clothes you are interested in while you wait in a private dressing area. They help you get dressed, offer advice on sizes and colors, etc. =)

Jeff, I KNOW what you have said. Your quotes are above.

HOWEVER, what SHE wants, as compared to what is "acceptable", has nothing to DO with the "conservative segment" of our community. You are specific about what she would like to experience. Obviously, the places that would generate the most "value" to meet her needs would not BE at a porn shop, fetish club or fetish gathering, where she might even be ignored as simply "doing her own thing".

My concern is NOT "accidental" exposure. And, HER humiliation is fine. The issue IS, unless it is prearranged with/for someone to be an "innocent dupe"(read that, previously agreed to play along and be "shocked" and "humilative" to your GF), the negative that can be generated far outweighs and positive that could come of it IN THE PUBLIC EYE.

I would that BDSM may be more "acceptable" simply because it's more widely known, but the last time the news reported on someone being taken out in public wearing a collar and a leash, it generated a LOT of negative press. And, the last guy that chose to go into 7/11 at midnight wearing diapers, a t-shirt and sandals, BESIDES getting a ride "downtown" in the back of a police car for "psychological evaluation" ended up highlighted in newspapers across the country, as did the idiot that hired a "babysitter" to "change his diapers", only for HER to discover he was NOT disabled OR mentally lacking or medically incontinent. HE ended up being charged with a crime, minor though it was.

The question WAS a great one. However, like all of us in ANY community, there ARE things that are better NOT played out or certain desires simply NOT fulfilled due to propriety and simple consideration of others. And, that has nothing to do with our "kinder, gentler" namby, pamby society we've become. Sometimes you just gotta' suck it up and wish it could happen, but just let it go, lest you bring down a "house of cards" upon yourself.

She can do what she wants, and you can assist her in her quest, but I, for one, would ask that you both try to fulfill this need another way... That's just me.

[DprDJeff]

what about pictures here or fetlife? She can be exposed and people will comment, but it is in a controlled environment

Internet exposure was the first step. She's still not comfortable showing her face, but I just added six videos of her on my site. I would attach a photo here, but not sure it's appropriate. hehe

[LuvsGurl]

Jeff, I KNOW what you have said. Your quotes are above.

HOWEVER, what SHE wants, as compared to what is "acceptable", has nothing to DO with the "conservative segment" of our community. You are specific about what she would like to experience. Obviously, the places that would generate the most "value" to meet her needs would not BE at a porn shop, fetish club or fetish gathering, where she might even be ignored as simply "doing her own thing".

My concern is NOT "accidental" exposure. And, HER humiliation is fine. The issue IS, unless it is prearranged with/for someone to be an "innocent dupe"(read that, previously agreed to play along and be "shocked" and "humilative" to your GF), the negative that can be generated far outweighs and positive that could come of it IN THE PUBLIC EYE.

I would that BDSM may be more "acceptable" simply because it's more widely known, but the last time the news reported on someone being taken out in public wearing a collar and a leash, it generated a LOT of negative press. And, the last guy that chose to go into 7/11 at midnight wearing diapers, a t-shirt and sandals, BESIDES getting a ride "downtown" in the back of a police car for "psychological evaluation" ended up highlighted in newspapers across the country, as did the idiot that hired a "babysitter" to "change his diapers", only for HER to discover he was NOT disabled OR mentally lacking or medically incontinent. HE ended up being charged with a crime, minor though it was.

The question WAS a great one. However, like all of us in ANY community, there ARE things that are better NOT played out or certain desires simply NOT fulfilled due to propriety and simple consideration of others. And, that has nothing to do with our "kinder, gentler" namby, pamby society we've become. Sometimes you just gotta' suck it up and wish it could happen, but just let it go, lest you bring down a "house of cards" upon yourself.

She can do what she wants, and you can assist her in her quest, but I, for one, would ask that you both try to fulfill this need another way... That's just me.

Use enough quotes and CAPS there?

Come on, you are just coming off as closed minded and overly judgmental.