babykatie12 Posted September 6, 2010 Share Posted September 6, 2010 Hi everyone. I am a typical girl, I date men and I really like men, but I have always secretly wanted to be babied/loved/cherished by a woman. Has anyone else felt this way? Am I technically bi? Katie Link to comment
KittenAB Posted September 6, 2010 Share Posted September 6, 2010 Depends on if it's sexual or not ... and since you "date" men you would be bisexual, not lesbian. Link to comment
babie Posted September 6, 2010 Share Posted September 6, 2010 not if sex is in play 1 Link to comment
babykatie12 Posted September 18, 2010 Author Share Posted September 18, 2010 If you wish to have sex with another woman then you may be bisexual or other variants. I think it's normal to want to be 'parented' by your same gender. You made me feel a LOT better. Thanks!! 1 Link to comment
sarah_ab Posted September 18, 2010 Share Posted September 18, 2010 basically if you find women sexually attractive, not just one woman, but if you think about women in a sexual way, the SAME sexual way you fantasize about men, then you may be bisexual, but sexuality is something uniquely personal, and because you have a fantasy to be with a woman, does not make you anything other than how you already identify. I have had sexual relatinships with a few women, i was attracted to them, and would have sexual relationships with them again, however, i do not fantasize about woman, and in general am not sexually turned on by women, and i consider myself heterosexual. Link to comment
aleyxsis Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 Im a lesbien i love women even thou i am asexual does that make any sense ?? and im a guy who would much rather be a girl ! Link to comment
speels Posted September 27, 2010 Share Posted September 27, 2010 You are very much welcome. However I must jump in and excuse my earlier answer as I fear I may have accidentally overstepped the boundary on my own remit and definition of what LGBT minorities are. I am very aware that to define onesself as lesbian, bisexual or other does not depend on the physical determination of sex. It is very important to recognise the asexual community (myself included though not through choice) included; in that one can be under these titles without wishing for physical intimacy or 'sex'. Apologies. So you are saying (in my case) i can define my self as a bisexual just becouse i like to have a gay episode in my life or just dream about one many times ? Being bi or gay starts in your own brain? Well it sounds logical. The best explanation i ever saw. And by that one i have to say i am bi. I had 30 years to see that one comming but only saw it last 2 weeks. Link to comment
Total Trash Posted September 27, 2010 Share Posted September 27, 2010 If you'd never has a bisexual experience, then I suppose the PC term would be bi-romantic. You can still have sexual desires even if you've never had sex. I haven't, but still call myself pansexual because I'm capable of being sexually attracted to people of any gender identity, and would like to have experiences with male, female, and everything-in-between partners. Link to comment
WallaWalla Posted September 29, 2010 Share Posted September 29, 2010 No really, why is it important to worry about such things? Can you not just say to yourself, 'I like what I like?' That's what I tell people when they ask at least. I don't really see a need in evaluating all of these invisible lines that one might cross to 'BE a lesbian' or 'BE straight.' It's just a lot easier to define the behavior(which is hard even still) than it is to define the people. I'm not even a raging anti-label sort when it comes to most things. Link to comment
KittenAB Posted September 30, 2010 Share Posted September 30, 2010 No really, why is it important to worry about such things? Can you not just say to yourself, 'I like what I like?' That's what I tell people when they ask at least. I don't really see a need in evaluating all of these invisible lines that one might cross to 'BE a lesbian' or 'BE straight.' It's just a lot easier to define the behavior(which is hard even still) than it is to define the people. I'm not even a raging anti-label sort when it comes to most things. While ideal, what you suggest is almost impossible still, sadly. People have labels too ingrained in them as a society to just forget, give it time and one day even "male" and "female" will finally vanish from our species. Link to comment
curiositykilledthecat Posted October 1, 2010 Share Posted October 1, 2010 doesn't mean anything. My girlfriend is a lazy, self centered psychopath so I am looking for a mommy or daddy to meet my needs. I'm not gay, it's just easier to find a guy into it. Link to comment
Total Trash Posted October 2, 2010 Share Posted October 2, 2010 While ideal, what you suggest is almost impossible still, sadly. People have labels too ingrained in them as a society to just forget, give it time and one day even "male" and "female" will finally vanish from our species. As far as labels go, I think it would be much easier to do away with sexuality than, say, race or gender. Our concept of it is pretty specific to Western thought of the last couple hundred years, so even among modern cultures, ideas about sexual orientation vary significantly. I would place a large portion of the blame for promoting the now-popular idea that sexuality is immutable on the mainstream LGBfakeT movement (to quote Dean Spade) who somehow got the impression that denying their own agency would make them more sympathetic. I can't speak for everyone, but "I didn't choose to be gay!" just reeks of self-pity. Of course people won't respect your movement if you actually promote a pathetic image. While it's true that many people go through their lives never questioning their sexuality, I would give most people more credit in their ability to understand that sexual desires can change over time and in different situations. Sexuality generally isn't something that appears on drivers' licenses, job applications, or really any other kind of official document, and can't be picked out (in the vast majority of cases, at least) by appearance. It's not something that's considered appropriate for casual conversation between acquaintances (in most environments, at least. If someone does bring it up, it's probably something they're very open about and are interested enough in to try to understand more than just in terms of stock answers), so if you're talking about your sexuality with someone, there's probably already some kind of relationship between you. In this kind of situation, the person will likely be much more receptive to you and willing to try to understand your point of view than just anyone off the street. I feel like I'm not really making any coherent point, but I had an idea in my head of what I wanted to say. Link to comment
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