master911 Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 My girldriend is not normally into diapers. i've talked yer into wearing them but she really isn't in it and i don't teand to get that satisfaction that i have in my fantisies. so is it worth it to keep trying to keeo her in diapers even though she's only humoring me? Link to comment
diapermommie Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 Do you KNOW she's not into it or are you assuming so? Have you shared your fantasies with her? Sometimes being part of a relationship (in my opinion) is doing some things to please the other person. Granted, there are boundaries to that. If it's something you want to do 3 or 4 days a week and she's only wanting to humor you once a month...you're going to have to discuss that with her and think realistically if that is ok with you, and with her. Giving up something really important to you is never worth in, on either end. I'm honestly horrible at asking for what I want, but I frequently taunt my husband for doing the same thing, when it comes to fantasies and such. Why, I don't know. It's just not as important to me, I've never had any fantasies that I've had for years and years and that I'm just WISHING would come true. For me, most of my fantasies are just day dreams, alot of them I wouldn't want to do in person, even if I had the chance. But it's fun to make his come true when I learn what they are. Both because I just plain enjoy it, and because it's something I can do for him because some of them he's thought about for a long time. It's nice to be in that type of control position Anyhow, you don't get anywhere without talking about it. You have to set your expectations out there, and so does she, then you go from there. Maybe she enjoys it more than you think, just not as often. Maybe she has her own fantasies that feel overshadowed by yours. You only find out by asking. Link to comment
:gremlin Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 you need to talk to her not us. maby she just likes for you to play with her bottom. Link to comment
curiositykilledthecat Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 talk to her, share your fantasy(ies) Link to comment
Baby Bethany Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 I can't add anything to what the others have said, other than sometimes the reality just doesn't live up to the fantasy. The mind is a powerful thing, and if you've had the same fantasy for quite a long time your mind kind of perfects it. Then when you try and do it in reality, the fantasy is too perfect to live up to. Beth Link to comment
Saschadzg Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 I can't add anything to what the others have said, other than sometimes the reality just doesn't live up to the fantasy. The mind is a powerful thing, and if you've had the same fantasy for quite a long time your mind kind of perfects it. Then when you try and do it in reality, the fantasy is too perfect to live up to. We call that head cinema. I prefer reality more than virtual worlds. Link to comment
adriansurley Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 You gotta do what makes her happy - if she is happy doing it for you thats one thing - if she is not happy then thats another thing. Link to comment
badjimmy Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 There was a time when I could get my wife is diapers once in a while. She didnt really enjoy it but she knew I liked it so she did it anyways. After a while it really became obvious that she was just doing it for me and then it really just wasnt fun anymore. It really kinda kills the mood when something you thought was an intimate moment that should be bringing you closer together is really just something done to humor you. Link to comment
curiositykilledthecat Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 There was a time when I could get my wife is diapers once in a while. She didnt really enjoy it but she knew I liked it so she did it anyways. After a while it really became obvious that she was just doing it for me and then it really just wasnt fun anymore. It really kinda kills the mood when something you thought was an intimate moment that should be bringing you closer together is really just something done to humor you. Wait I thought that was 90% of relationships? Link to comment
Guest dllightning Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 yup, talk to the woman. Communicate, communicate, and communicate. Google "Flag Page Test" and start there. It is a good relational tool that I found that generates good communication - it's a start. And like someone else said- its not as much fun if they are not "in to it," BUT if the spouse is keen, they will act in to it to please you, and in turn they like that they pleased you as long as they aren't doing something against their internal law book / conscious. Link to comment
CBD Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 As Dan Savage of Savage Love would undoubtedly tell you, a healthy sex life is an essential part of a healthy relationship. He points out time and time again that if a partner is not having their sexual needs satisfied, they will look for a way to do it ... be it cheating, spending time on porn sites instead of with their lover, hiring a pro, or whatever else they need to do in order to fulfill their needs. Basically, relationships between people who refuse to be GGG (good, giving, and game) for the person they're with just don't work out. Whether the timeline of a relationship like that extends weeks, months, or years, you can count on one thing: there will be problems down the line unless the partners in question can work out a plan that makes them both happy. And if you can't see a way to make sure both parties concerned are satisfied and happy? I think all his regular readers know exactly what he would tell them in hopes that one of them would listen before the shit really hits the fan ... DTMFA. (Dump The Mother Fucker Already.) Link to comment
babylin Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 My girldriend is not normally into diapers. i've talked yer into wearing them but she really isn't in it and i don't teand to get that satisfaction that i have in my fantisies. so is it worth it to keep trying to keeo her in diapers even though she's only humoring me? Your expectations. Your satisfaction. What about hers? I suggest you skip the diapers at present and just get her into plastic pants. Think of yourself just in plastic pants with plenty of KY in the right spots. Now think of her anatomy and KY and plastic pants and you giving her slippery fun. Go slow and keep her warm and comfortable. If it is all about your satisfaction, I suspect that she will not be your girlfriend for long. happiness is wearing cotton diapers Link to comment
Nat Posted December 16, 2008 Share Posted December 16, 2008 Don't force her into diapers. That is a good way to end the relationship. If she wants it, then it be okay to do. Link to comment
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