Needing some adive

[MommyAnna]

Hello, my name is Anna. I’m a Mommy Dom, but I’m also very soft-hearted and definitely have some middle tendencies.

I’ve been wondering something lately. How do you learn to channel your dominant side when being naturally nurturing and soft is such a big part of who you are?

Sometimes I worry that I’m not assertive enough or that I’m simply too soft to really be a good Mommy Dom. I can be confident when I need to be, but I also have a tendency to almost cave when someone gives me those eyes or asks sweetly enough.

So I’m curious are there any other soft Mommy or Daddy Doms out there who have struggled with this? How did you learn to find that balance between being gentle and being in charge?

I’d really love to hear your experiences and advice.

Thank you 

Anna

[Crimson_Wolf]

   If you have basic rules for a little to follow and you have various punishments depending on how severe the infraction is or how many times they break the same rule.  You have to stick with those rules and punishments accordingly.  Being a dom isn't just doling out punishments but having that person understand why they're getting punished.  And be sure after the punishment is done wheather its a timeout or spanking you sit them down and tell them its over and have them explain why they were punished.

[MommyAnna]

27 minutes ago, Crimson_Wolf said:

   If you have basic rules for a little to follow and you have various punishments depending on how severe the infraction is or how many times they break the same rule.  You have to stick with those rules and punishments accordingly.  Being a dom isn't just doling out punishments but having that person understand why they're getting punished.  And be sure after the punishment is done wheather its a timeout or spanking you sit them down and tell them its over and have them explain why they were punished.

I believe that's one of the areas I fail at the most is punishments. I always cave when I have a little and I'm unable to carry out their punishment. 

Thank you for giving me such kind and wonderful advice. 

[Crimson_Wolf]

   You're welcome it just takes practice, you can also find another Mommy Dom or a workshop to teach you how administer punishments as a caregiver.  This isn't you being a dom in the strict BDSM sense.  Like a said before, when you have a little visiting you sit them down and explain the rules and the punishments for an infraction and subsequent infractions of the same rule.  Amd after the punishment is over you have them explain why the punishment was administered.

   I would take it like having a dog they'll give you the eyes like a little would but you have to stick to your guns.  Not saying littles are dogs but they both give those big begging eyes.