Will it become automatic

[Primcess Mauve]

I’ve been wearing diapers to bed every night lately and even waking up to wet pretty much every night. I’ve been able to get back to sleep wet, but a part of me wants wetting to be automatic where I wake up wet but don’t remember doing it. I’m kind of wondering if this is the way, how long of wetting nightly will take before I don’t wake up to do it, and if it’s worth following my desires for this.

[Rachael-Little]

Well from my experience of wearing to bed for 2 years I still wake to wet. Our bladders are strong once we get trained to hold it.

 Not saying it won’t happen for you but in my case I may have wet once or twice in my sleep or very light awake then back asleep 

[soggster]

I've been frustrated by this too. There have been times where I think I've woken up wetter than I remember but there are definite dry spells which I'm currently in now. 

As others have said, focusing on it seems to make it go away. You need to be in a state of pee-mindfulness where you are vaguely aware but not focusing on it, and if you do wake up wetter than you recall not making a big deal or even consciously celebrating it as that's sure to make it hide again.

[Like2bwet]

I have been wearing nappies to be for the last 8 years, about 3 years ago i have my first sleep wetting, i.e. I didn't wake up to start wetting my nappy and it has happened probably about a dozen time since then, I love finding i have wet without knowing in my sleep.

[oznl]

On 8/22/2026 at 7:30 AM, Primcess Mauve said:

I’ve been wearing diapers to bed every night lately and even waking up to wet pretty much every night. I’ve been able to get back to sleep wet, but a part of me wants wetting to be automatic where I wake up wet but don’t remember doing it. I’m kind of wondering if this is the way, how long of wetting nightly will take before I don’t wake up to do it, and if it’s worth following my desires for this.

I’ve also been in nappies for coming up for 8 years now and am now a bedwetter.  I’m not sure how frequently because it all gets a bit blurry (and I’m literally always in nappies anyway that were probably a bit wet to begin with) but I suspect it’s a LOT these days.

Saturday night was a “100% did” night as due to dehydration and warm weather I went to bed dry at around 11pm.  I woke up at 5am and assumed I needed a pee but found myself to be already wet and I didn’t need to go.

Sunday night was a “95% did” night.  I was a bit wet when I went to bed but I again slept through, by morning however I was quite wet and for the life of me I could not remember waking to do it.

It first happened (with certainty) after around 7 – 8 months of nappies but remained super-rare for a few years.  Shortly after year #1 I tested myself and found that I might wet the bed even if I wasn’t in a nappy.  At about year #3 I suddenly realised it was now happening regularly.

Paradoxically, concentrating on it, studying it or even spending your days wishing for it seems to inhibit it.  For me, it eventually appeared when I was just enjoying my night nappies and not planning for it.  So my experience suggests “don’t think about it, be wet and enjoy the ride” and eventually it will start happening on automatic.

[Diaperboss223]

On 8/21/2026 at 11:30 PM, Primcess Mauve said:

I’ve been wearing diapers to bed every night lately and even waking up to wet pretty much every night. I’ve been able to get back to sleep wet, but a part of me wants wetting to be automatic where I wake up wet but don’t remember doing it. I’m kind of wondering if this is the way, how long of wetting nightly will take before I don’t wake up to do it, and if it’s worth following my desires for this.

I am currently on my way to become a bedwetter.

I stoped being diapered at night at the age of 7. I was still wetting the bed every 2-3 nights untill 10, then it was once a week for next 1-2 years. When I turned 13 I was still wetting the bed every 2 weeks untill I became 15. Untill then i was wetting the bed maybe 2 times a month but I was scared that I will wet the bed on camps, trips, vacations so I started buying diapers and wore them at night when I didnt sleep at home. I liked it so much that after a while i Started doing it during a day. for last year I wore them every 2 weekends and almost every day and night during school breaks.

Now I am 18, one year ago I started wearing them once a 3-4 nights, couple of months later it started to become every 2 nights. For last 3 months I wore them every single night. I really want to be true bedwetter so I drink more water before bed, There were maybe 5-10 nights I woke up dry in the morning, rest of the time I wake up wet in the morning without waking up in the middle of night. I realised that if I drink less or go to sleep without the diaper I dont piss myself. Do you think I will menage to take it to the point were I wake up wet every morning without exceptions.

[babykeiff]

The answer to gaining bedwetting is all about confidence or more correctly convincing your mind that it is better to stay asleep and wet your bed instead of waking to get out and void. It is convincing your mind that your sleep will not be disturbed after you wet...

This requires the following:-

• plastic bed protector - as noisy as possible
• thick absorbant diapers - warm cloth ones are better, maybe slightly damp before sleep
• diaper cream coating your diaper area
• plastic pants
• baby powder - for the smell, and the slickness between the plastic and legs
• a process in the morning for dealing with wet diapers

Smell and touch are very strong reminders of your pre toilet training time.

Make sure that when you go to bed, you will have a full bladder so you can void in the diaper even before falling asleep. When it comes the time to void, just let it happen as you are cuddled up - you need to 100% believe and trust that your diapers will not leak, and even if they do, they will not cause you to be uncomfortable.

Repeat the above everynight so that it becomes so natural for you to wear and use diapers in bed. 

Every night and every morning you will be going through the exact same process, getting the diaper on, and in the morning, handling a wet diaper etc. After a few days, you will forget to wet before going asleep, and just fall asleep in the dry diaper. The next morning, like all others, you will be in a wet diaper where you will not remember wetting. Yes, there will be doubts in your mind of you waking to wet, but even if that occurs, yes you wet, but do in without waking, and out of habit, you will revert.

Another important point is not reacting to either a morning wet or dry diaper. Trust in yourself that you will revert. Some males want to play in the morning wet diaper, and therefore give themselves a reward. Others focus on the state of the diaper, and become disapointed on the result when it is dry. The core idea is not to care either way, so to be nochallant to a wet or dry diaper. After all, it is the diapers job (and the sheets / bed / plastic etc), and no longer your decision. As a baby, the diaper was placed on you without your opinion or decision - and you used it at your bodies whims without interruption i.e. you never made the decision to hold it no matter the state of your diapers.

A good way to handle a wet cloth diaper is to get up without checking the cloth diaper,  get into the shower and switch it on while still in your overnight diaper and plastic pants, and take of the diaper in the shower. As a result, it doen't matter if your diaper is wet as each morning you will be showering and removing same in the shower, where you will be rinsing it out in the shower and letting it drip dry on the shower rail, dry by that evening to be placed in a warming press, and folded again for use the next night.

The idea is to not be able to determine if the diaper is wet or dry in the morning. The concept of playing chicken in the oven - opening an oven door every 5-10 minutes to check if the chicken is done is counter productive as the food never gets hot enough to cook to bird, and therefore, the concept of checking is preventing the act. Similar occurs where one is trying to stop a body enzynme production. The only way to remove it is to change the bodies percieved needed levels - remove the bodies need for this enzyme. The is a term for this concept is called Ironic Process Theory or White Bear Problem.

The important part of this process is do not doubt or check yourself... you are trying to reverse the overnight production of vasopressin, the enzyme that is released to reduce urine production overnight. When you check / focus on this, it forces the mind on the fear response you learnt while toilet training - the fear of wetting the bed and dealing with that as a negative in the early hours of the morning.

In biological terms, it is expensive for the body to produce vasopressin, so once it is reduced / removed, it is very difficult to re-estabilish, but can be difficult to get the body to stop it, but once it is stopped / reduced, you will wet even before your bladder starts to stretch due to a relaxed sphincters.... which means that you will wet very shortly after falling asleep.

For some, this can be a problem if they tend to fall asleep on a chair etc when not diapered. Also, since you are fully relaxed, you will begin to get the best, deepest sleep ever since the internal clock will no longer wake you with a full bladder. This may need to be retrained to wake with in response to an alarm.   

In simple terms, to relearn bedwetting is all about conditioning your mind to remove the fear that was instilled during potty training... i.e. the fear of:-

• ...waking up in the early hours in a wet and cold bed .... and crying
• ...wetting your pants / chair cause you fell asleep on the chair / in the car
• ...others seeing your wet pants / wet bed clothes / wet pyjamas
• ...getting disaproving looks / disapointing another that you are seeking aproval from...
• ...having to watch your career strip your wet bed - 'cause you wet and ruined it

... and all this requires to rebuild the confidence in the mind that it is no longer your problem when you repond to your bodys whims to void no matter time or location - where another will support you fully to ensure that you are comfortable and warm and protected.

Logically, the mind knows that a diaper can absorb, but that requires the mind to be able to determine how wet a diaper is. A disposable diaper, like a cloth diaper has its limits, but is it difficult for the body to determine how much a thick protected cloth diaper can hold before it leaks. Adding the noisy plastic bed protector reminds the mind of the one on your crib mattress, and the smell envelopes you in the same aromas as an infant - overpowering and difficult to determine the difference between a wet and a dry diaper.

Trust yourself - you already know how to use a diaper while awake or asleep as it is one of the first skills that you learnt - and you did it for years without a problem.

[oznl]

27 minutes ago, babykeiff said:

The idea is to not be able to determine if the diaper is wet or dry in the morning. The concept of playing chicken in the oven - opening an oven door every 5-10 minutes to check if the chicken is done is counter productive as the food never gets hot enough to cook to bird, and therefore, the concept of checking is preventing the act. 

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The is a term for this concept is called Ironic Process Theory or White Bear Problem.

Thank you I've learned something today!

I think I'd intuitively figured out that concentrating on achieving bed wetting had the opposite effect but I had not heard of "ironic process theory" which nicely encapsulates this.  In my own mind I was trying to link this to an unfortunate motorcyclist problem: target fixation.  This little psychological gem can make motorcyclists sub-conciously steer into the very objects they are trying to avoid.  Ironic process (which is possibly related) is a better fit though.

I also agree that (initially at least), developing bedwetting depends on psychological comfort to do so.  It's a head-space thing although I'd say the precise "ingredients" for such comfort would vary by lived experience.

[babykeiff]

14 minutes ago, oznl said:

Thank you I've learned something today!

I think I'd intuitively figured out that concentrating on achieving bed wetting had the opposite effect but I had not heard of "ironic process theory" which nicely encapsulates this.  In my own mind I was trying to link this to an unfortunate motorcyclist problem: target fixation.  This little psychological gem can make motorcyclists sub-conciously steer into the very objects they are trying to avoid.  Ironic process (which is possibly related) is a better fit though.

I also agree that (initially at least), developing bedwetting depends on psychological comfort to do so.  It's a head-space thing although I'd say the precise "ingredients" for such comfort would vary by lived experience.

Yes, it is a wierd head scratching problem for some to bang their head against walls for - but night time control is actually non existant - when ones bladder is full and needs emptying even if you are asleep, you will void. If you are sobre enough, you will wake, however if not, you will still void in your sleep from both ends - and some here may have memories of that occuring to them.

Remove the vasopressin, and the bladder does not have the capacity to last the nights sleep, but the body is an expert in creating the scenario that suits it better to enable it to get the sleep. It is part of Darwin theory where the less tired ran faster from the man eating predator - so the stronger gene (one who could get the required sleep) survived. Defeating that is attempting to fight millions of years of evolution.

So, the answer is to create the scenario that best suits the bodies needs - or more correctly, what scenario YOU (the global everyone) had when using your diapers was expected.

The 'target fixation' is a weird one also, where the person is focusing on what to avoid and trying to work it out in the fractions of a second with the weakest ability they have - their conscious mind, when if they allowed the reactions to occur, they would naturally avoid the obstacle.

[Davoli]

On 9/7/2026 at 10:57 AM, oznl said:

So my experience suggests “don’t think about it, be wet and enjoy the ride” and eventually it will start happening on automatic.

I'm so glad to hear these experience.  Because it is disappointing to feel like you are so close to sleep wetting and seem to just keep waking to pee. But truly, if the goal is to stay in bed all night and wake to a wet diaper , even if you have a fleeting memory of consciousness, you have still are achieving a good end result. So don't despair. Stay hydrated , wear the diaper, and keep wetting as needed. And remember, if you can't trust yourself to sleep undiapered, you are certainly classified as a bedwetter.   

[Primcess Mauve]

I’ve gotten good at falling back asleep in a wet diaper. Last night I vaguely remember wetting but later when I woke up found I only remember it after feeling my diaper 

[oznl]

8 hours ago, Primcess Mauve said:

I’ve gotten good at falling back asleep in a wet diaper. Last night I vaguely remember wetting but later when I woke up found I only remember it after feeling my diaper 

It sounds like you're on the right path to me.  If you have a similar trajectory to mine, "pee dreams" will start to appear and some time after that you'll be puzzled some mornings as to why your diaper seems wetter than you can remember making it.  Then you might find that you wake yourself up by wetting.