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@~Brian~ Thank you very much for helping me with this. You have a lot of great information and have helped me feel like there can be hope for us since I know his secret has put a strain on our relationship. I feel confident in the choices I have made thus far. I hope that day is sooner than later but I will continue to love him for who he is and who I know him to be.

@AbabeBill Thank you for the comment, Bill! Trust me, he’s a keeper as well. I have thought a lot about what you proposed before coming to this community for help. As much as I knowIt would start the conversation, I would never want to lie to him about this. I’m putting it out there, as well, that I wanted to see why he likes it... So I took one of his, put it on and might have even tried it out to see if I could get something out of it. I get the comfort aspect and am not opposed if that is something he would want me to do but we’re not there yet. I’m not there yet. I will absolutely keep you informed.

@~Brian~ This is so helpful and actually brought tears to my eyes because I want so bad for him to know I’m ok with it. Your advice on waiting is probably what I should do and in the meantime keep doing research so when the time comes to have conversations; I will be able to ask the questions that I need answers to so I can make sure he feels comfortable as well. I’m guessing it’s especially difficult because I don’t think he has ever told a soul about it which means its even that much scarier to tell anyone, even if you are in a committed relationship with them. Again, thank you for your reply and advice.

This is very helpful. I’m very comfortable with the conversation since I’ve done a lot of research and know more about the topic. I just don’t know if he is. I’m sure he feels embarrassed or ashamed (which he shouldn’t). I would want to be as involved as both he and I are comfortable with as well as set up boundaries so it doesn’t affect our sexual life. Thank you for this. I’m still learning what I’m comfortable with doing but I hope one day I could do this for him if he is comfortable as well.

I’m in a great relationship with a wonderful guy and have been for over a year. Quite a few months ago, I found his stash. At first, I wasn’t sure why he needed diapers and pads but in digging further I have come to the conclusion that he is either an AB, DL or both. I would never leave him because he wants to be one but I also need to have him talk to me about it because it’s affecting our relationship. He’s been closed emotionally for the past couple of months and won’t let me get close to him. There are other issues and I know they stem from this secret. I think he feels that if I get close to him and he tells me, one or both of us will end up getting hurt. I’ve written and re-written letters about him opening up to me without mentioning it to him because I can’t imagine how hard it just be for him to keep this secret. He’s supposed to be viewed manly man who has a very opposite fetish that I’m sure, makes him most likely think If he tells me I won’t want to be with him anymore. Not the case. I would rather he tell me everything so we can have a very honest relationship that lasts. This is where I need help. I’ve read multiple articles on how to approach it and they contradict each other. Some say to tell him and others say to wait. What do I do? What would you want me to do if I was your girlfriend? I just want my boyfriend back to who he was when he didn’t have to worry about hiding the real him from me.