Pikakingdomwars

I recently discovered i'm a gender fluid because of my apathy of feeling like either gender. I announce my crossdressing and the abdl I've been hiding my whole life (I never grew oyt of diapers, but hid because of mockery) mom doesn't mind me crossdressing, but not choosing a gender and the whole abdl thing is upsetting her. How do i get her to understand so i don't have to move out to use diapers? Also despite fantasies of diapers, i'm asexual.