I also feel a little hesitant, especially towards random people on the internet. But, then again, I wouldn't have met the great abdl friends I have if not for getting up the courage to go out and meet new people.
My boyfriend and I are in the Beaverton area. I've met quite a few abdl in the area but it's usually through something not directly related to abdl; like going to a general furry event and finding babyfurs there.