I’m brand new to this so it’s hard to say for sure, but for me I think it’s a little of both. When I get home after work and put on a diaper and suck on my paci, it isn’t sexual. The idea of a forming a connection with a daddy who takes care of me and loves me isn’t either. But when I think about someone putting me in diapers and changing me, and treating me like a baby, well that’s exciting to me.