John73

Well, truth be told - I have so many embarrassing moments in my life, that I would literally have to write a book to describe them all. I was incontinent since my early teens, but partially mostly - still had bladder control up til late teens. I had a lot of during classes when I was a teenager, when playing football etc - I always quit, went to toilet and I changed my pads, I had my soap with me and I even took a fast shower during classes when I was a teenager to not smell and I put a new, fresh one diaper now. I actually managed quite well during my teens, but what has really helped me was that, my issues weren't nearly as consistent as they became later - in my twenties - this was the moment in my life, especially early twenties, that I could describe like a nightmare. I had tons of "bad" moments during my college. At first, I was trying to hide my issues from my peers, but I didn't manage to do it for long - it was the moment that I still remember up to this day, my roommate learning about my incontinence issues and telling it to his friends. I was literally so terrified, that I have thought of committing suicide, but fortunately all my friends weren't as bad as I considered them to be. They have probably talked behind my back, but never into my face - they took it quite cool, they told me that, everyone has some issues, that he has no impact at what makes a man is how he copes with those issues. I really loved those guys, but afterwards still I was walking embarrassed for a couple of months because of it and I had a few accidents during classes in college, which literally made me unable to pick any girl. I was frustrated because of it, I simply didn't feel appealing enough to women and this is enough reason to feel frustrated.

I agree, market has changed and life got easier for those that are incontinent - Well, I gotta say even in the 90s when I was struggling with my incontinence the most, it was extremely tough compared to now, not to mention times like 70s or 80s which weren't my time fortunately, but now everything is so easy - yet, for people that are permanently incontinent like me, does it really make such a difference? I rather seek comfort in other areas in life than in diapers anyway as this issue is something, that I have to live permanently with I try not to think about it too much and focus on other things, that get me going through.

Not really, I hate the term to be honest. Especially if people, that are incontinent but still only partially and they are able to be saved if they start treating their diapers as toilets, it will be much harder for them to ever regain their bladder control. Not to mention, that comparing diaper to toilet is a little bit rude - yes, some people urinate into it because they like it, some because they need it, but does really anyone here treat it like a toilet? Do you just think of it as of an toilet and urinate your hardest into it, throw it away and wear a new one because you are too lazy to go the toilet? i don't think it's the case for most people to be honest. If I ever had a choice, I would never treat diapers that I pay a good amount of money for ordering from hexa & co as a toilet, but unfortunately yes, I have to.

Hey, that's a really long post, but greatly detailed - thanks for this. I actually was struggling with talking to my doctor and other people at all - well, obviously as I even had a problem talking to my doctor I had a nightmare when I was talking to people. I didn't apply even half of your advice, when I was overcoming my problem with sharing things with my doctor - I just realized, that I'm overthinking it and I'm caring about it too much. After all he is a doctor, he is a professional at what he does - your issues aren't really surprising him, it's just his job - he is taking it casually, not that you talk to your crush that you have been in love for 2 years and she has finally given you your minute of screening time. Chill out with life more and learn to enjoy it

It all depends on the therapist, that you are going to see, really. It's hard to pick one, you have to go to multiple of them and get the one that you have the smoothest talk with. I, personally had a lot of luck, because I was really frustrated back in my early twenties, I was like mad and I wanted to give up my life, but I managed to find a good therapist, one that have really greatly helped me, but I was just lucky. I just went to the first therapist that I could find and the one that was the cheapest actually, but he has greatly helped me to turn my life around and I would definitely tell you and your wife to do it as well. Don't go to ABDL therapies, you can't even give a clear reason for going to one

Well, if you don't want to put diapers after orgasm, there is only one conclusion - this is how sexually appealing diapers are to you. For most people - I'll relate to men here, having an orgasm means losing interest in women's body and actually women overall - this is due to hormone changes, that ejaculation has caused. The difference between women and diapers is that, women are a human being and you are attracted to them on the level above just naked body, but the truth is, that their tits and booty is nowhere as tasty as it was before you have ejaculated, right? You lose interest in this matter - same thing is with diapers, yet you won't cuddle the diaper, talk with it and see a person you love - you just see a sexual object that turns you on. Same with women, just naked body is your sexual object as well, but apart from this you are attracted to her on human - human relation as well, so even though her naked body don't turn you on anymore, you are still in love with her - because of who she is, which is definitely not the case with diapers. Once your hormones levels are setting back, you are getting turned on by wearing them again. All there is to it really, humans are really simple existences, after all we are doing everything that nature has made us to do.

Wow, you guys really have loads of diapers. In the past I also had a lot of diapers - most I had was over 350 diapers consisting of many different brands and models - but I was spending too much cash for it, basically all I did was staying depressed with my life - buying food, paying rent and buying diapers - I wasn't saving a dime, yet I didn't have a family to take care of back then so I could afford more easy-going attitude with spending money. I can't do that now, so I buy those that fit me the best and are relatively cheap - so I order from hexa & co in bulk. At the moment I have 100 diapers from them, when I get to 50 I will order another 250 and so on... I need to think of saving money, putting my kids through college and I started to enjoy other things in life than a colorful diaper collection - not that I wouldn't want one now as well, I really would, but I have other priorities in life.

Well, you have to sort issues with your wife on your own, but my guess would be that you should aim for some kind of compromise. She surely has some things, that she enjoy doing as well - if they bother you at least partially, tell her about it

Well, I wake up wet every time now, but when I was in my teens I still had a control to go to the toilet sometimes, really it depended on many factors - for example, when I was stressed it was much harder for me to wake up and make it to the toilet - in those cases I usually have left a big stain in my diapers, but on my usual days when I was just easy going about life I didn't always wake up wet, sometimes I woke up like once or twice during the night and went to the toilet. I gotta say, that excessive diaper use will only speed your incontinence issues up, but it's irrelevant for me anyway.

Nice, that's a cool taxi driver you have met. Mostly I deal with really unpleasant drivers, therefore I try to avoid taxis and actually any public communication. I remember, when I was struggling the most with my incontinence I basically spent all my saved money in my early twenties for a car because I was too embarrassed of having an accident in a bus, especially as I had to take a long ride to a part-time work, that I have been attending. Oh ye and that's a pull-up, I had a fair share of them in the past as well, but for most of my life it's diapers only for me, especially as I have found a good source - hexa & co, where I order from

He is lucky to have a wife like this, that will support him no matter what. I have a wife of this sort as well, although I heard of many people stories - both women and men, that their partners didn't help them at all. It was very often the reason to break up the marriage and get a divorce, no matter if there were kids involved or not, therefore I started to appreciate my wife even more and so should your husband do as well - it's rare nowadays to have a person next to you, who will help you and support you in going through your life

Yes, it's actually pretty normal especially if you wear a diaper. I remember, when I still had some bladder control in my early days I used to wet the bed a big time every time, that I was more stressed than usual - for example university exam, driver license test, some negative comments towards me - basically any kind of stressful situation - as mostly I was able to control a bit my bed-wetting, it was not the case when I was stressed - I didn't have those dreams like you did, I was just making a bigger stain on my bed than usual in those times.

Just as others have said - there is no point in being dishonest with your doctor, unless you are really ashamed, you regret your decision or something of this sort. It's up to you if you will lie or not - after all, they are professional medical doctors, so no matter if you did it to yourself on purpose or this is how you were born, it's not their place to judge your actions - they are there to help and if the doctor tries to judge you, force his opinion on you just ditch him - he's clearly far away from being professional and there is another one who will deserve your money more and bring you the answer, that you need.

Hello, of course I wet in public as I'm fully incontinent and before I really thought, that it's something bad and terrible. I was instantly running to the toilet to change my diaper, so nobody can smell a thing and learn about my problems. I have totally changed my mind now, I don't do so anymore. I became more self-confident and I'm quite open about my issues. Of course I try not to urinate too much in one diaper as I don't want anybody around me to feel discomforted due to smell, but yet I don't care about it that much anymore. Before I was really seriously depressed over those things and I really cared a lot about what other people could say about my issues, will they laugh at me or will they not? I actually found people to be more open, forgiving and understanding than I thought before I actually told my closest friends and co-workers about my problems.

Hey, that's great! I'll definitely try to read this book. As I'm fully incontinent and I always despised bedwetting and urinating in a diaper - I have really hated it I have also learnt that it's not that bad. Actually as the time flies, I started to like those issues and I actually found the joy in bedwetting and having a wet feeling in your diaper as as something really great. It took me some time to realize that it's actually enjoyable of course, but now that I did I gotta say, that I really love it. I'll try to read this book and learn something more about positive impact of bedwetting on our mental health and why is this really this pleasurable as I never thought about it really or found a good answer.