Hi FretaBWet thanks for the reply. Great advice along with the other replies. I know there is no easy answers. In my head and heart I am try to do what will make her happy. Not crinkling does make her happy. I also do other things that make her happy: we shop together, go to church, play with our real kids, etc. I also do other things to I work full time go to school full time, help with the kids, the house. I am a good Husband, but I am sure the issues we do have are all me, she is 100% great. I am just trying to deal. I do appreciate the post. I will take all the advice to heart.